WWYD? Father acting strange.

[SeaSaltandLime]

DF has been ill today. It started off with him being snappy saying he felt rough and sleeping on the sofa all day.

I've bought him tablets, water, tea. Anything to liven him up but no, still miserable as sin.
He said he was freezing, but had gotten wet this morning and sat in his wet clothes when he got home..
I left him to it.

About an hour ago I went downstairs and found him pacing.
Apparently he's had chest pains for the last 4 hours, has called 111 and been told to go in.
I didn't hear this phone call.

I was speaking to our mutual friend who offered help if we needed it.
I told DF, and he said 'look I don't want help from anyone just leave me alone!'

He's been miserable and acting strange all day. Surely if he'd had chest pains for 4 hours he should've gone in? Wouldn't they have sent an ambulance?
I've told him to go but he says he doesn't want to.
If he's being snappy because of the pain then why wouldn't he go?

What the fuck is wrong with him? I've given up now.
He's been so rude all day and people being nice, trying to help are getting it thrown back in their faces.

WWYD?

Do you still have a buggy you can fit your dd in? Carry her bundled in blankets to the car, and then tranfer her to a buggy in blankets pillows and cuddly toys so she doesn't wake up properly.

You did the right thing and hes in the best place. Hope you get positive news soon.

Hopefully you can get some answers soon.

You did the right thing.

If he really called 111 then there is a massive issue right there.

Hope your father recovers well OP

Can I just say, if he rang 111 and they said they were sending an ambulance he can refuse, it’s his right to do so - I used to work for term, it’s a horrible situation but if he refuses they simply cannot send an ambulance they can advise he attends A & E.

Please let us know how he gets on. Hope he's ok. You did the right thing. ☺️❤️

Hope he's ok you did the right thing op

Well done you - that decision on someone else's behalf to step in is hard. You did good. Look after yourself.

Do you have anyone who can sit for your little girl? A neighbour? I know it's late, but if anyone knew you were in this position, I'm sure they'd want to help.

He'll be admitted straight to the coronary care ward though, I would think. My husband had pericarditis, and that's what happened with him (he made a full recovery, so try not to worry too much)

You absolutely did the right thing. I hope he's very grateful to you in the end.

Good decision OP.

I hope he is ok

If he is still angry afterwards be honest with him. Tell him you were scared and that you could see he was scared. And about how it brought back feelings of your mum. He probably had them too but struggles to articulate. Good luck OP you made the right call

I hope you're okay. It must have been horrible having him so angry with you after you made that call. But you may well have saved his life.

They'll wire him up to everything to monitor him, and pump him full of antibiotics. Hopefully his symptoms will begin to subside.

All the best. I'm going to keep checking in.

All the best to you - you sound like a loving daughter and Mum

Best wishes to you, you did the right thing

Hope your dad makes a full recovery, do you have childcare so you can visit the hospital today?

Hope everything works out ok for you and your dad x

How are you this morning?
Did you get some sleep?
Any news from hospital?

Continued best wishes. It's weird how these posts take up residence in ones brain. I've been thinking about you on and off all morning, OP.

I hope all is well with you and your DF OP.

Just come across this. Hope you're doing ok and have had decent news from the hospital.

FWIW I strongly doubt 111 advised anything other than dispatch of ambulance or that he was taken straight to A&E, if he reported his symptoms properly. They're textbook classic urgent cardiac issue/heart attack indicators. As others have said, he may have refused. I suspect it's his way of dealing with the worry and memories of losing his wife. Unhelpful and stupid but understandable perhaps

Sorry for the delay everyone.

I managed to get someone to watch DD so went to the hospital with him.
I sat in resus until he was in a ward and have visited again today.

They put him on serious antibiotics straight away as well as a steroid (I think that's what they said, I've had no sleep ) and fluids.

Anyway, he's stable and looking a bit better now though he is very weak.
I think he's waiting for more tests but, as I say, I'm so tired I could be wrong.

Thank you all for checking up on me. You're all so kind.

I hope he is able to show a little appreciation for his wonderful daughter soon.

Lots of luck @SeaSaltandLime - hope your dad is better soon.

@FredaFrogspawn Thank you.
He didn't really say much to me.
I do think he's frightened but my god, his stubbornness could've killed him.
I'm just glad that I listened to you all, I don't think he'd be here now if not.

@iklboo Thank you

Hope he recovers well @SeaSaltandLime You’ve had a big shock be kind to yourself

Been thinking about you and your Dad. So glad it sounds like he's on the mend.