WWYD? Father acting strange.

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DF has been ill today. It started off with him being snappy saying he felt rough and sleeping on the sofa all day.

I've bought him tablets, water, tea. Anything to liven him up but no, still miserable as sin.
He said he was freezing, but had gotten wet this morning and sat in his wet clothes when he got home..
I left him to it.

About an hour ago I went downstairs and found him pacing.
Apparently he's had chest pains for the last 4 hours, has called 111 and been told to go in.
I didn't hear this phone call.

I was speaking to our mutual friend who offered help if we needed it.
I told DF, and he said 'look I don't want help from anyone just leave me alone!'

He's been miserable and acting strange all day. Surely if he'd had chest pains for 4 hours he should've gone in? Wouldn't they have sent an ambulance?
I've told him to go but he says he doesn't want to.
If he's being snappy because of the pain then why wouldn't he go?

What the fuck is wrong with him? I've given up now.
He's been so rude all day and people being nice, trying to help are getting it thrown back in their faces.

WWYD?

As others have said, the anger could be coming from anxiety or fear. He'll be remembering the loss of your mum and be scared the same will happen to him.

I'm glad you've called for help. I hope he let's them help him.

Let’s hope he’s ok, you’re a good daughter

I hope he is ok. It's really hard to go against parents wishes, you have done the right thing.

I have been in this situation with my DF. The paramedics were brilliant with him and are highly trained to deal with difficult patients. Well done, you have done the right thing.

Hope he’s ok op you have done the right thing.

I hope that you and your dad are ok.

Hope you and your dad are okay op x

Op you've done the right thing.

Hope everything is OK.

Fwiw I called 111 for Dh in similar circumstances and they sent an ambulance straight away. (Turned out he had actually broken quite a few ribs - god knows when!) But the paramedics said chest pains and nausea always merit investigating straight away.

The paramedics have taken him. My god, he was so angry with me.

They said they don't think it's a heart attack but pericarditis.
They said something about his chest wall and a noise.
His temp is through the roof and his BP through the floor, his heart rate is high and I think they said his oxygen levels are quite low.

They put him on the sepsis pathway so he's been taken straight in.

He wasn't so angry after that.

I still feel sick, still shaking. I couldn't go with him because DD is in bed but they've said I can ring to find out(?) and that dad is quite ill, but stable.
It's triggering flashbacks for me.
My mum was rushed straight in after collapsing, I couldn't go because of DD, they said she's poorly but stable and I could call.
4 hours later she was dead.

Im in a full blown panic attack that he's not going to make it home.

Christ wake up your child and go to him

Glad he's been taken in OP. He'll get treatment and looked after now. Can you get someone to look after your DD or just wake her up and take her with you?

I'm calling round now.

I'd wake her, but dragging a tired 4yo to A&E on my own while panicking about my dad doesn't seem like it's going to be the smartest idea.

The last thing I want to do is trigger anxiety in her.

She was frightened enough when she saw my mum ill (in the seconds before my dad took her out so she didn't have to see anymore.)

Oh gosh you poor thing. I think what a pp said and waking your daughter to go to him might ease your anxiety a bit? Is there anyone who could sit with her just while you go up for a few hours?

How scary! Thank God you called an ambulance. He really needed help and he's in the best place now. I hope he recovers well.

I second someone sitting there for a few hours? Anyone you can ring? If a friend of mine rang in the same predicament, I'd be over there in a flash.

I wonder if he would have actually woken up tm if you hadn’t rung them.

Can a neighbour or friend come over to babysit so you can get to the hospital? X

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. However, I'm so proud of you for making the hard choice and calling an ambulance. You did exactly the right thing.

Bless you. He is in the right place now thanks to YOU and you’ve done the right thing. Is there anyone who could watch your girl for you? I’d be round like a shot if even a random acquaintance was in a situation like this- or a paid babysitter or childminder you might know of? Anyone? Even a friend of your mum?
If not- trust he is in good hands and try to get some sleep. Maybe a wee cuppa to calm down as you’ve had an awful stressful time of it.

Well done OP for calling the ambulance and I'm so sorry to hear about your mum and the effect this is having on you now

Well done OP, you totally did the right thing.

Well done for calling the ambulance. I hope you find someone to look after DD OP

That was such a good decision, even if he didn’t think so at the time. I do hope he is ok, and that you can get some support for yourself. It must have been so frightening especially in the light of what happened to your mum.