Mumsnetters, I need your wisdom. I am probably trying to have it all and getting overwhelmed but tell me what you think!
I am aware this is very first world problems.
Current Situation
- We have a DS who is 2. Trying for another DC but having some issues, it may happen, it may not. I’m 37 and might need a surgery to help things in that area, so timing is unknown.
- I have a local job, I work full time but very flexibly which allows us to only need nursery on 3 days a week. Been in my current role for 8 years and feel ready to move on. Great employer, pretty secure and good benefits.
- Was passively looking at other roles but had put on the back burner. Just been called about a role in London. Nearly double the money, but would be a commute on the train (45mins). Even with extra childcare and train ticket, I think it would be an extra £500 take home a month.
- Live in a 2 bed terrace house, mortgage in my name only.
- We want to move to a bigger property and had just starting looking. Main driver for this would be to avoid moving once DS has started in a primary school
- DP is self employed, but I am the main breadwinner.
Questions
- TTC will keep going whatever, I can’t delay due to my age, but I feel I cannot put my life on hold waiting to see if it happens. Worst case scenario (in order wise) is I move jobs and then fall pregnant before becoming eligible for Mat pay.
- Do I go for a new job and delay moving for a bit?
- How disruptive is it to move DC between primary schools in the first few years?
- Do I continue working where I am, enjoy the flexibility while DS is little?
- Does it make more sense to get the higher paid job and then move house?
- What else would you be considering in this scenario?!