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Oh lord, now it's kicked off

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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 06/09/2019 11:24

So I found my backbone and faced up to my mum about her drink driving...and she's now not talking to me. It's going to be a long day.

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HysteryMystery · 06/09/2019 11:55

But very peaceful Grin

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 06/09/2019 11:56

Well, lots of lovely quiet then!

Windydaysuponus · 06/09/2019 11:58

Be proud you may have got a killer driver off the roads..

IncrediblySadToo · 06/09/2019 12:03

Hopefully you won’t need her to drive you to work or look after the kids for a little while then..but silver lining, you won’t have her Dog shitting on your carpet either 🤷🏻‍♀️

lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:08

Backbone would be reporting to police. Anything else when it comes to drink driving is spineless

chickenyhead · 06/09/2019 12:10

Well done. She needs help.

The police work be able to do anything without catching her in the act. Nasty comment.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 06/09/2019 12:15

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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 06/09/2019 12:22

@lovemenorca so you know all about me and how much guts it took to even stand up to her do you? I'm determined she's NOT doing it again while she's here so what good would reporting to the police do?

I'm so fucking angry at her right now...her justification was that (a) everybody in France does it and (b) she'd never do it if she felt her judgement was impaired. I bet every drunk driver says that.

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lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:23

Precisely
So I (and most people) would have reported when they knew she was drink driving

lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:24

@lovemenorca so you know all about me and how much guts it took to even stand up to her do you? I'm determined she's NOT doing it again while she's here so what good would reporting to the police do?

No I don’t because you provided scant information in your OP

lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:24

And when it comes to drink driving - there are no grey areas

BrokenWing · 06/09/2019 12:24

🤨 Waits for drip feed.

No one can really comment until you tell us what the extent of the problem was and what you have done to stand up to her!

lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:25

I'm determined she's NOT doing it again while she's here

And what about when she’s not.

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 06/09/2019 12:26

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lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:27

Good heavens OP!

Myriade · 06/09/2019 12:27

Oh you are in France...

You’ll struggle. I say that as a French person. Things have changed a lot in the last 15 years but sure as hell that people still drink and drive. And yes they will tell you that their judgement isn’t impaired so it’s ok.

It’s going to be a long day (and more)

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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 06/09/2019 12:28

Oh FFS I just wanted a little moan about how shit the atmosphere is here because of what's happened, a little advice on how to break the ice and yet I'm being torn to shreds but being less than perfect. This isn't even AIBU Hmm

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Myriade · 06/09/2019 12:29

@MyGhastIsFlabbered, I’m sorry but you just cannot nature it doesn’t happen again.
You might be able to ensure it doesn’t happen when you are present. But that’s it.

Myriade · 06/09/2019 12:30

@MyGhastIsFlabbered, so what happened exactly that made you stand up to your mum?

lovemenorca · 06/09/2019 12:30

Hate to break it to you OP

But drink driving isn’t like taking the last of the milk. It has a tendency to get people quite fired up

jackstini · 06/09/2019 12:31

Well done for facing up to her
Guessing there is more of a back story on this? Previous post?

Depends if you want to break the ice or not...?
If not - enjoy the break!

If you do, just carry on as normal - do you want a coffee? What do you fancy for lunch? Shall we go to the beach later? etc.

chickenyhead · 06/09/2019 12:31

OP you need to take a break and calm down.

Nobody has died and you have not enabled your mother, she owns this.

You were brave to challenge her and you are not being unreasonable, but the other posters may have relevant experiences and opinions too.

Dont let yourself be goaded in to misdirection anger

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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 06/09/2019 12:32

@Myriade no we're not in France but she lives there. As to what I can do when she's not staying with me? I don't honestly know right now. My brother is due to come over tomorrow so I'm hoping that between us we might be able to talk some sense into her. I'm doubtful it'll work but I don't know what else I can do. I can't call the police because I won't know when she's driving. And I can't make threats about her not seeing my DCs if she does it because I know she'll just lie to me about it.

She doesn't consider herself an alcoholic so won't go to any alcohol support groups like AA or CGL.

Wow, I was feeling pretty good about achieving something and now I feel a bit shit. Thanks a lot.

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justasking111 · 06/09/2019 12:34

So your DM is on a visit from France, an expat I presume?

justasking111 · 06/09/2019 12:36

You can protect people in the UK, once she gets home I do not know. What I do know is that the french do have an agreement with the UK over speeding. If you speed in France, the DVLA will work with the french to find you.

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