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Breast enlargement surgery under 18

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 11:59

Wanted a bit of advice. My 17 year old daughter has small breasts and feels self conscious about them. My sister in law has taken it upon herself to take her to GP to get consultation about breast enlargement, against my wishes and accuses me of not supporting my daughter. I am quite happy with my daughter going to GP, taking charge of her own health and making her own appointments (she's done it since she was 15 anyway) but I feel like sister in law is coercing her into having surgery at too early an age. Why not wait till she is 18 and can make up her own mind? I should add, both my sister in law's daughters had breast enlargement surgery under 18. At doctors appointment sister in law did all the talking and requested that GP refer my daughter to her daughter's consultant for a further investigation. Any thoughts? Is she over stepping an unwritten boundary? Or just supporting my daughter?

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AmyFl · 31/08/2019 12:06

Oh my goodness, there's nothing wrong with "small breasts".

PerspicaciaTick · 31/08/2019 12:08

Your SiL is very, very peculiar. Is she on some sort of mission for all the girls in the family to get enlargements?
Your DD sounds very capable. Perhaps talk to her about the timing of the operation, would it fit better if she waits until after A-levels?
Personally, I think that she should wait til she has turned 20, but then I'm not keen on enlargements myself.

NewIdeasToday · 31/08/2019 12:08

How bizarre. Who does your sister in law think will pay for the operation? Surely it would be better to support your daughter in feeling comfortable and confident in her own body?

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Buyitinbamboo · 31/08/2019 12:33

What can a GP even do about it? Are you not in the UK? I would be discouraging this but in a non-pressuring way. At her age I wanted the same and at 27 I'm so glad I didn't. I'd go for the angle that small breasts are more "fashionable". Also look at diaryofafitmumma on instagram, she had her implants out as they made her ill and it's really eye opening to see what they did to her

RealJudas · 31/08/2019 12:40

Just to add, I went to uni aged 18 with quite small boobs and came home 3 years later with fairly large ones - just hadn't done all my growing yet! But only boobs, I'd reached full height by 18.

gubbsywubbsy · 31/08/2019 12:43

Jeez... I'm guessing the sil has implants !!..
Make sure she knows she will have to have them re done every 6-8 for the rest of her life and if she takes them out her skin will be stretched and her natural chest ruined ..
Weird weird behaviour and as others have said what can a gp do about it ffs .. she will have to pay if she wants cosmetic surgery .

PrincessHoneysuckle · 31/08/2019 12:46

I had breast surgery but not until I was 28. 17 is too young for elective surgery imo.

kaytee87 · 31/08/2019 12:49

If you're in the U.K. the nhs won't entertain it anyway. What's wrong with small breasts? Mine are huge and they contributed to making breastfeeding difficult- which is what they're for after all.

NotTonightJosepheen · 31/08/2019 12:49

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Angelf1sh · 31/08/2019 12:50

How do you know what happened at the GP appointment? Were you there? Because if you’re sat in on an appointment discussing your daughters breasts, that’s really weird. If you weren’t there then the fact that your daughter has described it as your SIL doing all the talking, then it sounds like she’s not happy with her so I really wouldn’t worry about your daughter being influenced by her.

Angelf1sh · 31/08/2019 12:52

Plus, no UK clinic will do that kind of treatment on someone under 18 so I doubt you need to worry at all

Fraggling · 31/08/2019 12:53

Very very odd.

GP can write private referral for those asking, even for private first port of call is gp.

She might not have finished growing yet.

Whole thing bananas.

MoaningMinnie1 · 31/08/2019 12:57

Nothing at all wrong with small breasts, your daughter needs to realise that but she is at an age where such issues make her self conscious.

Good exercise that targets the muscles at the side of each breast and good posture will help.

Pinkblueberry · 31/08/2019 12:58

Who’s paying for this surgery? Surely this won’t be in the NHS?? I think under 18 is too young - padded bras should be fine for now.

Tableclothing · 31/08/2019 13:00

Your SIL sounds fixated.

How will your dd pay for her surgery?

Whatsnewpussyhat · 31/08/2019 13:03

Your SIL has passed her issues about having small breasts onto her own DDs and is now doing the same to yours.

The fact that she pushed for it is really weird. Those girls must think all their worth is in their appearance.

abitoflight · 31/08/2019 13:03

DD talked about it at 16 and 17
Then seemed to forget about it
By 19 she forgot she even ever thought of having it done and appalled at the idea
Odd of SIL

sometimesalways · 31/08/2019 13:04

Obviously you are the mother so it's your call, not your sister's. Personally I think it's more important to support young girls by explaining that all bodies are beautiful and all breasts needn't be the same size - or any particular size. Our time is terrible for making women feel bad. Breast size, or size in general, is not important as long as it doesn't call health issues.

sometimesalways · 31/08/2019 13:05

Oops that would be 'cause' not 'call' obvs

TonTonMacoute · 31/08/2019 13:06

That's how we measure our worth these days is it? By how big or small our boobs are?

Jesus Christ I would be having serious words with your SIL and telling her to back off. She sounds disturbed (and disturbing) I wouldn't want her near any daughter of mine. Totally insane to consider totally unnecessary breast enhancement before adolescence is over, and probably not even then.

AndNothingButTheTruth · 31/08/2019 13:09

Can only say that my SIL would be requiring a doctor herself after totally overstepping like that. Her poor kids, led to believe their worth is in the size of their breasts.

peony2325 · 31/08/2019 13:09

Get your SIL/ daughter to read some of the recent news reports regarding breast implants leaking and causing severe health problems for thousands of women. I wouldn't have them done in a million years.

Zaphodsotherhead · 31/08/2019 13:14

I've got big boobs and often think about having them reduced. IMO small boobs make clothes look better - I always look big all over because my boobs make my clothes hang straight over them.

I'd advise your DD to wait until she's mid twenties at the earliest. I had decent sized boobs until I was 25, then they just went massive (no idea why).

Fudgenugget · 31/08/2019 13:16

It's tell SiL to back off! and then do all you can to build confidence in your daughter. She needs to know how brilliant she is. Compliment her, encourage her, praise her on all the little things she does. Besides, as pp have said, she's still growing.

Sleepyhead19 · 31/08/2019 13:16

I would also be very annoyed. We come in different shapes and sizes and many women with big boobs would love smaller ones. They sag more as we age too haha!

This isn't a decision for a 17 year old. I have friends with implants. One has had them done a second time as there was an 'expiry' after 10 years on the implants. This was a further big cost she couldn't actually afford.

She needs to read up on the problems they can cause too. I'm actually a bra fitter and about a year ago, I had to fit a lady with implants. One side was 3 cup sizes larger and an obviously different shape to the other, with swelling beyond her waist and over the shoulder. Apparently, she was told the implant wasn't leaking and was told she needed to wear a sports bra 24 hours a day to try to compress the swelling down. I haven't seen her since so have no idea what the outcome was, but I do wonder.
That put me off even considering it.

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