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Breast enlargement surgery under 18

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 11:59

Wanted a bit of advice. My 17 year old daughter has small breasts and feels self conscious about them. My sister in law has taken it upon herself to take her to GP to get consultation about breast enlargement, against my wishes and accuses me of not supporting my daughter. I am quite happy with my daughter going to GP, taking charge of her own health and making her own appointments (she's done it since she was 15 anyway) but I feel like sister in law is coercing her into having surgery at too early an age. Why not wait till she is 18 and can make up her own mind? I should add, both my sister in law's daughters had breast enlargement surgery under 18. At doctors appointment sister in law did all the talking and requested that GP refer my daughter to her daughter's consultant for a further investigation. Any thoughts? Is she over stepping an unwritten boundary? Or just supporting my daughter?

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Dalmatian88 · 31/08/2019 13:18

I’m sorry op but your sister is actually disgusting.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 31/08/2019 13:19

I would definitely talk to your DD about the fashion aspect, how girls like to wear soft unstructured bras or go braless nowadays, how that would be difficult with large breasts.

I'd point out that most athletes, dancers, models have small breasts and they look great. I'd talk really seriously about the health implications.

And I'd have serious words with SiL.

GlitchStitch · 31/08/2019 13:22

Yay lets all talk to first time poster 'Bruce' about teenage breasts! Hmm

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ChikiTIKI · 31/08/2019 13:24

Is your daughter of slim build? My breasts grew larger from age 18-21.

I would say for me, a decision like that would have been something to leave until later. Even by the time I was 21 I looked back on myself as a 17 year old and saw myself as a child back then.

Her body and her feelings about it are quite likely to change over the next few years. Your sister seems to be getting over involved. I wouldn't be happy about that.

Hope it works out OK for your daughter.

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 13:26

I agree! I have small boobs myself and was exactly like my daughter at her age...I just developed a bit in my 20's

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Wildorchidz · 31/08/2019 13:28

Very odd ...

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 13:30

I agree! Breast augmentation for me is a bit like abortion. I wouldn't chose it myself, but I defend to the hilt another women's decision to choose to have implants eg after breast cancer. But that choice should not be based on societal norms over breast size. She has perfectly normal (small) breasts...why mutilate them?

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 13:32

I'm a women...I named my user name after the family cat!

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InsertFunnyUsername · 31/08/2019 13:32

I would feel uncomfortable with this OP. And that's coming from someone who said as soon as they turn 18 I will get one. I grew out of it and am perfectly happy with my breasts now, but if I were 17 again and basically had an adult preparing it all for me, I might have went along with it.

kellyw1989 · 31/08/2019 13:34

I don’t think you are being unreasonable atall, at 17 her breasts will still be growing anyway for a while. Hopefully at a gp appointment a good dr would tell her the same

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 13:37

My SIL's daughters had their augmentations done on the NHS under 18, due to a medical condition called "tubular breasts" on the NHS. SIL is convinced my daughter also has the same genetic abnormality. I have looked on internet and think my daughter just has small breasts, not tubular breasts. But of course I'm not a doctor.

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NoBaggyPants · 31/08/2019 13:39

Has the GP made a referral? If so there must be another reason, such as asymmetry or tubular breasts. Or the aunt has claimed that there is another issue, in which case the truth will come out at the consultation.

Branleuse · 31/08/2019 13:41

thats absolutely bizarre.
I have had breast implants as an adult to improve them after pregnancy and breastfeeding changed them so much that I was really hung up on it, but as a young woman, they were small and that was fine.
Your sister in law is dangerous

NoBaggyPants · 31/08/2019 13:41

Posted at the same time! Maybe have a chat with your daughter and explain that the consultant will not be impressed if she doesn't have the issue she's been referred for, and her GP will also be informed that she got a referral under false pretences.

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 13:43

GP has made referral. Didn't even look at my duaghter's breasts. Just accepted at face value SIL's description of her own daughters' tubular breasts issue and her request that my daughter be seen by the same consultant as her own daughters. I just think my daughter has small breasts, like I did, but which are now a respectable 34B and not weirdly shaped.

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MitziK · 31/08/2019 13:43

When it comes down to it, your daughter is the one who has to consent - and at least she has somebody who knows what's involved/how to avoid surgical fuck ups/what questions to ask.

However, with my girls, both were very small until they went on the pill and then went up several cup sizes without putting on any weight.

Coming out strongly against it/having a go at SIL could backfire with your DD thinking she is the only one who understands. Saying she's perfect, she should get as much information as possible, but you hope she waits to see what happens over the next couple of years/to be really sure it's what she wants is probably the best way to validate her feelings and not alienate her.

Loubuz · 31/08/2019 13:44

No no no! Not only is she not done growing but she's a child, that's awful behaviour to go behind your back.

I've always said I want a breast enlargement from early teens, I'm now 24 and although I still like the idea, I'm very much on the fence and really quite happy with my not so impressive breasts.

Unfortunately we have body trends, and trends change. Small boobs are 'in' now, she may regret it.

Look into breast implant sickness too, it's emerging that tonnes of women are suffering with it. Get her to look on YouTube there are alot of women taking about it.

Complications with breastfreeding, capsular contraction, getting them redone, having complications and having to have them removed likely needing a lift and the scars that come with it.

I still want bigger breasts and to fill out tops, but is it worth potentially suffering with the above, I'm not so sure...! I'm going to wait until I'm finished with dcs and bf then see how I feel.

Also worth mentioning, I've had some hormonal issues resulting in very engorged sore breasts and changes to my nipple, I couldn't imagine the extra discomfort implants would have!

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Bruce123 · 31/08/2019 13:45

Her daughters apparently had tubular breasts. I can't comment as I never saw them naked before or after they were augmented. That's why they were done on the NHS.

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NoBaggyPants · 31/08/2019 13:52

Could you have a look at some pictures with your daughter so she can see that she doesn't have the condition?

If that doesn't work then I'd be explaining that if she continues with this she'll always have time waster on her medical records (not literally, but there will be a record of her getting a referral based on lies). Also the costs to the NHS of wasted appointments, that could be used for someone that has a clinical need for help.

Loubuz · 31/08/2019 13:53

If your daughter will have a look, and she should be researching if she plans on going ahead with this, here is a link to one girls issue with implants, she had tubular breasts.

In the description box there are links to other girls stories. If she's serious about this she needs all the information before hand, tell her that, once she really knows all about the risks, waits until she is at least 18 and still wants to go ahead, there's not much you can do Sad But ask her to watch, then make her own decisions

Loubuz · 31/08/2019 13:55

Ps. Your sil would be getting a slap! She's damaging, LC is a good idea... Fuming on your behalf

Sewbean · 31/08/2019 14:04

She is massively overstepping. This is nothing at all to do with her. I would be really unhappy

LadyGodiva83 · 31/08/2019 14:06

No wonder the NHS is going under. All these cuts and people getting boobs on it, when people need the resources for actual medical problems!
Small breasts are a god send, nearly 40 and mine still point upwards. No spaniels ears here.

Retroraver93 · 31/08/2019 14:17

I personally think that your SIL has massively overstepped a boundary by doing this.

Your daughter has not stopped growing yet. She still has time for her body to develop and when and if she has children her breasts may naturally remain larger afterwards.

Your SIL did what she thought was right for her own daughters but she has no right to interfere and coerce your daughter into anything.

All surgeries come with risks, scarring, nerve damage etc. Is the scarring and need for repeated expensive surgery to replace these implants really worth it in the longterm?
They may end up looking out of proportion with her body once she is fully developed.

I wear a 36D now after having my DC's and would love to go back to a B cup as they are uncomfortable during sports no matter which sports bra I use and they restrict the style of clothes I can wear. So many pretty, delicate tops make me look "busty wenchlike" or have a tent effect on me. I have in the past considered a reduction but don't think the risks are worth it.

I would advise you to help your daughter to maks the most of the young, healthy, natural figure she already has rather than pandering to her Aunts idea of perfection.

If your daughter does decide to have surgery soon or at a later date. It should be her own decision and definitely not your SIL's.

PoppingOneOutIn2020 · 31/08/2019 14:17

Coming from someone who pleaded in tears at the GP to be referred to have my 34GG's reduced at 17, 19 and 22 and was told no every time.. if you're daughter gets a boobs job on the NHS then there is seriously something wrong with the way the system works.

They have absolutely wrecked every inch of confidence I ever had.

Has your daughter noticed that everything in fashion for her age at the moment is crop tops, sleeveless, backless and plunge?

I dress 45 at 23 because I dont have the boobs to wear what I want, they hurt, they sweat, they cause red sores on my shoulders from bra straps, i worry in breast cancer constantly as family members have died from it, I get horrible sexual remarks whether im wearing a scoop neck t shirt or a roll neck jumper.

My OH would probably love to see me in some nice lingerie... but they dont make any in my size without being ££££.

Tell your daughter to take a leaf out of my book and embrace what she has.