Someone died in my bedroom...

[HattieMcNastie]

I always thought previous tenant died in hospital but neighbour told me he died in my room and wasn't found 'for a while'.

Now I can't bloody settle and keep scaring myself with horrible thoughts.

I've lived here 13 years and been fine in my bedroom. Now it feels creepy.

I know most houses have had someone die in them but wondering feels different to being told directly 'he passed away in your bedroom and wasn't discovered for a while'

Just gives me the willies.

I watched my nieces playing on the hospital bed ( in the front room) that my Dad had died in the night before. You can’t catch death ( not in this case anyway) and Im sure his spirit had a better place to be.
Besides, if your house has any age at all then the odds are that someone has died there!

I once lived in a rented house and found out a woman had been very ill and then died in my room. She wasn't old either, it was very sad. Early hours of the morning one day, I heard the clearest knock on my door. Shouted 'come in' but nothing. Then I remembered my two housemates were both out. I did stay there for a while afterwards but I never stayed alone again overnight. I never felt it was a 'mean' presence, just that it wanted to be noticed. I must admit if I'd owned the house I would have definitely got it blessed.

My house is a couple of hundred years old so people have certainly died here, especially as in the past people in general died at home and not in hospital. I live next door to a church so there is a graveyard just over the garden wall. None of this bothers me at all (though whenever my Chinese in-laws visit they never fail to comment on the graveyard!) - there is far more to fear from the living than the dead so if I worry about anything at night it's people breaking in, not who died in my bedroom years ago!

I've recently moved into a house and the previous tenant died in a bedroom here and lay for over 2 weeks. I was a bit freaked out at first when I realised what the stain on the wall was from and why it took a month and sanding down the woodwork to bare wood then replastering to get rid of the smell. Especially considering 2 of my kids are in that room.

I soon got over it when I went to my grandfathers house to help with housework and walked into the bedroom where my grandmother died. It didn't bother me when I knew the person so why should it bother me when it's a stranger?

You have been there 13 years and well and truly made your mark on the property. Maybe try redecorating again and move around the furniture so it feels different if that will help.

There is no such things as ghosts, spectres, spooks or ghouls. When our bodies stop working, so does every part of us. Dying is a physical process, nothing more, nothing less.

You're overthinking it. My Nan always used to say the dead won't hurt you, it's the living you can't turn your back on.

This really wouldn't bother me, unless it was a murder. An ordinary death though? No, I wouldn't give it a second thought. I find it weird and almost offensive (hard to explain why) when people become very precious about this..as if they think they're above death...sorry, like I said, hard to explain.

There is no such things as ghosts, spectres, spooks or ghouls. When our bodies stop working, so does every part of us. Dying is a physical process, nothing more, nothing less.

Wow, I didn't know anyone existed who could truly verify that there is absolutely and categorically nothing when a person dies. You really should write a book or contact the TV news.

So arrogant.

When l was young (under 10) my grandma lived with us. She died, and after the funeral l was given her room, and put to bed in the bed she died in. l never gave it a thought at the time, but l probably would now.
Also, my mother took her own life. l had to clear her house afterwards, and even sat in the chair she died in without thinking. l never found anything 'creepy' or weird about it.
lt sounds like your mind is just working overtime since you've been told about it. Of course it isn't nice that he wasn't found for a while. Take on board some of the other suggestions from PP - maybe talk to him, sage the room, etc. Tell him you know about him, and you like living in 'his' house, and you hope he's at peace. lf he hasn't 'bothered' you up to now, it's only because you know about what happened now. x

@mandydoherty65 - my husband died suddenly in bed next to me too! But... he did visit a number of times. I would hear his footsteps down the passage, smell his aftershave, and things would be moved around, eg jewellery would disappear from one room and appear in the other room etc.

OP, I can understand how you feel - after my DH died I couldn't sleep in that room for a year or so - I kept picturing him lying there. But after I replaced the bed and had the room re-carpeted it was OK. And he was a nice man, and his visits didn't bother me at all.

As pps said - cleanse the room with a smudge stick if it bothers you. You can also place some crystals - clear quartz and amethyst, around the room for positive energy .

Lots of people talking about smudging with white sage, here. Please be aware that the polarisation of sage smudge sticks has led to some pretty horrible environmental impacts on endangered species which no longer have space to grow as more and more white sage is farmed.

I'm pretty woo woo (see previous post on this thread about chatting to ghost) and have done a fair bit of clearing of spaces. Please can i suggest alternatives to all of you who might have gone out and bought sage smudge sticks? Lavender (grown abundantly in the uk) is a good alternative to use in the same way. Ringing a bell, singing bowl or beating a drum. Saying the Lord's prayer (even if not particularly Christian). Singing. Clapping. Lighting a white candle and taking it carefully around so it's light shines into every corner. Blowing smoke from a candle or match into the space.

The power is in having a ritual and setting an intention, much, much more than having the "right" herb. Whether you believe the power is psychological for the people or spiritual is in a weird way irrelevant.

^ oh yes, crystals or you can even buy room clearing sprays, too!

I've made my own with tap water in a spray bottle and a drop or two of lavender, shake just before using (a single drop of washing up liquid in it helps dissipate the oil too). As I say, it's not so much the tool but the intention...

Spaniels1Rock I think this is what you mean "I think there is no such thing as ghosts ..."

cannycat20 so you have your own Legend of Zelda?
Sorry, couldn't resist.

Seriously op, you've been there 13 years. If your bedroom did contain an unquiet spirit you'd probably have noticed before now.
Acknowledge to yourself that what happened to the previous occupier was sad, but it happened a long time ago.

Op - unless you live in a brand new house, there is a good possibility that some-one either died or was born in your home. It is just part of the cycle of life.........

I've worked with nurses over the years who have seen many ghosts, these are level-headed women, not the sort one would (usually) associate with visions and woo stuff.

The house I grew up in was quite old. infact the previous owner an elderly gentleman moved across the road with an elder lady who's husband had died years before.

He used to live in my house as a boy and then as an adult when he was married. His wife died there. His mother died there and a couple of his young siblings. The kids died from an illness but can't remember what. One was a baby.

Anyway the spot on the stairs Infront of the window by the front door was very cold. I used to sit there watching people go by and always felt strange yet didn't want to move. Turns out his sister used to sit there doing the same thing. She was one of the siblings that died.

I also used to hear a baby cry. No one else did. It was as clear as day right outside my closed door. I would open it and could still hear it. It would make me so sad that this baby couldn't be looked after. The baby had died in the house too.

It was all very sad.

Actually in that road most of the neighbours were elderly. I lived there for 14 years and 7 neighbours died in that time. They were all lovely. And I still remember them well.
R.i.p Elsie and Tedd, Harry and his wife ( and her home made mince pies) the others were horrible. The old man opposite was a pelaedophile and kept trying to come into our house. My mum found him dead when his post was building up. Good riddance to him

Oh yes Harry's wife was Mary. Feel bad I forgot her name.

I wouldn’t really give it much thought either. Especially in older houses, it’s bound to have happened, probably several times - I don’t think it’s that uncommon, most people just wouldn’t know 🤷‍♀️

It was someone's relative, not some creepy rotting man. I think you do need to knock the horror films on the head.
Everyone's house has had people die in them apart from new builds. But there have been plenty of suicides and illness on the new estate near me so even that's not a given.

@Jenasaurus I was wondering the same thing. There are three properties close to me where sadly the occupants have taken their own life. One is a rental property and it has had a few tenants over the years, the other two were sold. At one of them I noticed a bouquet of flowers outside one day, I'm guessing an anniversary/birthday so I guess the new owner must have been aware of the significance.

If you live in an older house chances are someone died in the house, it’s also probable babies were born in the house too.

My house dates back beyond 1800. Loads have died here. I know of 2 children. Doesn’t bother me at all. Why would it?

Dying in hospital in a very recent concept.

In any house more than about fifty years old there is almost certain to have been at least one death.

When we were house-hunting, the owner was showing us around his property and telling us his wife had recently died. We go in one room and he says "And this is where she died". We did not buy the house. Not at all superstitious or anything - I'm pretty sure the previous tenant in my home left in a bag - but knowing the specifics is simply quite off-putting!

We also live in a house where someone died. I was told after we had been here a few years that an elderly woman who previously lived here had. It was probably our bedroom as that is the master bedroom but strangely it doesn't bother me in the slightest. My next door neighbours also don't realise that the previous occupant had a massive heart attack and died in there, just after we moved in. It's very common.