When you met your DH/DP, did you know they were The One?

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I've never met anyone who I feel would easily be my 'other half', even although they're always been perfectly nice.

Nope. He was a 'grower'.

Yes. The second I spoke to him, it was like I’d known him forever. We just clicked.

Weird as I’m a complete cynic and have never believed in soulmates, love at first sight etc.

Nope but liked him enough to want to get to know him more and then it felt right pretty soon

No. We were both on the rebound and it was a slow burn. That was 22 years ago now.

Yes. And I'm very cynical!

When I met DH I was very drunk.
We arranged to meet up the following week, I honestly couldn't remember what he looked like.
Took a long time to realise he was the one.

Yes. Absolutely. Phoned my sister and told her, couldn’t even remember his name at that point.

On about our third date I just watched him talking and I thought “I’m going to marry you”. It was entirely a different feeling to any other before, almost like a premonition of what was to come. I already had fallen in love with him by about our fourth date and it was like word vomit, I was very worried about it coming out earlier than I’d like!

It’s weird cos I’d lived with bfs before and really loved them and thought maybe marriage would be nice but with this guy it was a much more urgent, almost primal feeling

I think the phrase “when you know, you know” was absolutely apt for us

No. It was eight months in when I went away on holiday for two weeks and during the second week realised I was miserable because I missed him. He truly completed a part of me I didn't know was missing.

Didn't think I would meet my DH at 18, but there we go!

Yes - immediately. Was weird as we’re both very sensible and not prone to rash decisions. We were engaged on our tenth date. Most people didn’t even know we were in a relationship!

About 3 months after we first met/ were in a relationship I realised I could happily spend the rest of my life with him.

Yes always knew he was the one! Met at school when I was 13 and was always too shy to speak to him in person but had a massive online presence with him. I always knew he was special. Always kept in contact and met in our 20s been together ever since!

Yep. As soon as I met him, I felt there was something special about him and he would be significant to me. Been together nearly 7 years, married for nearly 1 and have a DD(5).

No. First time I met him I thought he was grumpy and rude. He thought I was overly perky and annoying.

Many years later I wonder how I lived without him and never plan to in future. He’s the best person I’ve ever known and the love of my life, he’s my perfect fit.

Yup- after our first date I called my friend and told him I'd met the man I was going to marry. That was 13 years ago! (And yes, we're married now )

Christ no. I did think there was something special after I slept with him for the first time, but that was eight years after meeting him...

Yes absolutely. It was different to meeting any other person I've ever met and the reaction to each other was palpable.. It was like time shifted, the air changed..

Not in such definite terms, but yes, he stood out vividly.

I imagine it's possible for more than one person to stand out in your life. I imagine it's also possible for someone to stand out and it not work out. But it's a nice way to begin.

I still don't know.

Half and half then

I met 'The One'. I knew immediately.
I was wrong.
Took me ten years to be fully convinced, but I was.

Yes, the moment our eyes met 25 years ago!

Agree with womaninthedark - the time I did think he was the One at first sight I was wrong!

Well, I have previously been married to a man. Having divorced, I met a woman (now my girlfriend) and instantly knew that she was the one, no questions asked.

No. I wasn't keen on him at all when I met him. I thought he was rude and he was hungover. Took about a week of actually knowing him to like him. We started dating 4 months later and I knew I'd marry him 2 months after that.