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When you met your DH/DP, did you know they were The One?

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alionlikeme · 24/08/2019 20:25

I've never met anyone who I feel would easily be my 'other half', even although they're always been perfectly nice.

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kaytee87 · 25/08/2019 08:01

No. Just thought he was nice enough to go out with a couple of times and see how it went.
Then he grew on me.

Same. Although actually I turned him down at first as I'd not long broken up with someone else

BakewellGin1 · 25/08/2019 08:03

Nope the first time I met him I thought he was an absolute dick..

Second was at a wedding.. he looked good in a suit and I was newly single from a long term relationship..

Asked me to meet up following week and I thought nothing to lose... not my usual type at all though

Had a few years of on and off we were both only 21/22 but always went back to each other.

13 years later we are married with 2 children.

Thegracefuloctopus · 25/08/2019 08:07

Nope, I didn't even want a date with him but he was persistent! On our first date I realised he was special. By 3 weeks in I knew. I remember having a conversation with someone when I was 3 months into the relationship, saying about when we are old and kids have grown up blah blah blah and she laughed and said "kids?!! let's get you through 4 seasons first"! After 4 seasons (a year) we got engaged. I was 17 when we met and I couldn't and still don't believe my luck! I married him when I was 20 and we now have DS together. Feel like I've hit the jackpot!! But when I think back to when we met and I asked my friends to keep him away from me, I do giggle

thenewaveragebear1983 · 25/08/2019 10:00

Yes. We met on match.com, he was the only person I spoke to on there, we arranged to meet and he rang me that day to confirm and I knew when I heard his voice that he was the one I would be with forever. He got my name wrong (well, used an abbreviation that I never use), forgot his wallet and I didn't physically fancy him but something about him got under my skin and we just instantly clicked.

8misskitty8 · 25/08/2019 11:03

Dh and I met in a nightclub. Neither of us was looking to meet anyone. I was out for a friend’s birthday and he was catching up with a friend who had come back to town.
We got chatting and danced, he took my number but thought nothing would come of it.
He told me he loved me after a week, I laughed at him.
After a few months I knew there was something special between us. Married 2 years later and been together almost 20 years.
A few years after we married Dh told me that he actually fell in love with me the night we met.

MorrisZapp · 25/08/2019 11:05

Nope. I think it's like musical chairs. When you stop pissing about and acting like a teenager, whoever's landed on your chair is 'the one'.

kaytee87 · 25/08/2019 11:08

@MorrisZapp that's very true.

fairhairedfairy · 25/08/2019 11:09

I'm very picky. I met my "One" online and it felt different when we chatted - so easy, so fun, so exciting. We spoke for hours on the phone daily for months and neither of us usually enjoy phone calls much.

When we met in person the chemistry was crazy and couldn't get enough of each other. I felt as comfortable and close as with my oldest friend and closest family... but moreso and also we wanted to shag each other obv.

He moved to my country and we moved in together, having only spent about seven days with each other IRL. Been together 12 years now and married. Still my favourite person in the world by miles.

Proseccoagain · 25/08/2019 11:24

No, didn't even like him much, but he was persistent and grew on me. Apparently he knew I was 'the one' for him as soon as he clapped eyes on me! We were together nearly 50 years.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 25/08/2019 11:25

Yes - and I was married, so complicated.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 25/08/2019 11:25

I like the musical chairs analogy a lot though!

pooopypants · 26/08/2019 21:17

@thenightsky snap!

StormBaby · 26/08/2019 21:20

Both myself and my DH knew the instant our eyes met that we'd met "the one'. I'd have married him that afternoon if I could.

SospanFrangipan · 26/08/2019 21:48

Yes! I can still remember the first time I laid eyes on him 🥰 14 years later and I'm still just as besotted :)

Spanielmadness · 26/08/2019 21:54

No. Very much a grower. He was a friend.

He waited while I returned to a terrible, abusive relationship more than once.
He waited while I dated someone we both knew.
He waited while I was dating on apps.
During this time we hung out a lot, he listened to me, we had loads of fun and he never put any pressure on me other than reminding me how much he cared for me every now and again.

It suddenly hit me one day that he was the one for me. I certainly had told him I loved him, as I did, before I was ‘in love’ with him.

I will always feel very lucky that he waited patiently for me to see.
We are getting married in July 2020.

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