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When you met your DH/DP, did you know they were The One?

90 replies

alionlikeme · 24/08/2019 20:25

I've never met anyone who I feel would easily be my 'other half', even although they're always been perfectly nice.

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HariboForBreakfast · 24/08/2019 21:37

Yes. Second time around for both of us but I knew.

thenightsky · 24/08/2019 21:42

He was supposed to be a one night stand.

Here we are married 39 years next month Grin

Welliesandpyjamas · 24/08/2019 21:42

Yes. Instant lust and attraction for both of us, which grew in to something very solid and loving. Still hate being apart from each other, 23 years on.

JayeAshe · 24/08/2019 21:47

Had a feeling right away that he would be AT LEAST a good friend ( have form for male platonic friendships)

Married 14 months after meeting and just celebrated 25 anniversary ...

Tinkerbell89 · 24/08/2019 21:51

Yes pretty quickly I knew & things moved quickly e.g moving in together. Sometimes you just know, sometimes it takes time.

Animum2 · 24/08/2019 22:47

We worked together so got chatting for a while and I asked him out and within a short space of dating (2 dates) I knew he was the one,o just had this feeling and so far I haven't been wrong, 2 years Married in 3 weeks Smile Star

confusedat30 · 24/08/2019 23:25

Not straight away but didn't take long

Legomadx2 · 24/08/2019 23:30

Not at first as we were just friends and he had a crush on me that all our mutual friends joked about.

One day we got kissed and snogged each other and I just knew then, straight away, that this was it and different to everyone else.

SimplySteveRedux · 24/08/2019 23:40

Knew within three days of meeting. 22 years later...

Cocolapew · 24/08/2019 23:55

I was with someone else when I first met my now Dh, I liked him ok but it was only a quick chat in the pub type of thing.
7 months after I had broken up with my ex bf, he appeared at my door and asked me out.
He moved in and and I still remember the day I realised he was the one. It all happened within 3 weeks. Took me a bit by surprise tbh.
We were married within a year and have been married for 24.

Whattodo20192 · 25/08/2019 01:30

Yes, I knew when I saw dp. There was something that gave me a huge feeling that I HAD to be with him. That was 12 years ago now and I still feel the same.

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 25/08/2019 01:45

Yes! I’d had a boyfriend previously who I thought was “it” and when he turned out not to be I became quite cynical. Had a couple of filler boyfriends and then one I liked enough to live with but no longer believed in the concept of The One, thought it was a ploy to sell records. Then my now DH walked into the staff room one day and I knew as soon as we started talking. Been together ten very happy years.

Kinsters · 25/08/2019 03:01

Yes - from the moment I met him I had a huuuge crush. He was just so intriguing, funny and attractive and I was 100% hooked. Ten years later and we're married with a kid on the way and I couldn't be happier with my choice of life partner.

Drogosnextwife · 25/08/2019 03:04

No, the first time I met him I thought he was a bit of a dick. I still think that sometimes right enough.

tabulahrasa · 25/08/2019 03:21

No, I just thought he had a nice bum and a nice smile... he was supposed to be a one night stand... that was 24 years ago...

Sashkin · 25/08/2019 03:30

I met DH in my first year at uni, and had absolutely no interest in him whatsoever. He was very intense and moody, and didn’t talk much. He lived next door to my best friend so I saw him fairly often, but never said much to him.

I met him at a party in second year, and he was hilarious and really interesting once you got to know him. We dated for a bit, and once I got to know him we were actually a really good fit for each other. Much easier to go out with than previous boyfriends - much less ego. I probably knew we would always stay together from about a year in (together 21years now).

HalfBearOtherHalfCat · 25/08/2019 05:13

I was always a wee bit skeptical about love at first sight, and all my previous boyfriends were lust which developed into liking/love.

When I met DH though it was almost like I recognized him, as I had this "oh there you are!" sort of feeling, like I'd been waiting for him to arrive. I mentally had him marked down as my future husband within a few hours of meeting him. Been happily together for a decade now.

OnlineAlienator · 25/08/2019 05:37

I 'fell in love with' a boy on first sight when i was 17. I hadnt even looked at boys until then but literally at first glance with this one i was struck dumb. I often wonder why, what was it about his shape/colour/movement that triggered such a strong reaction? I hadnt heard him speak or smelt him - no chance of compatible hormones or whatnot! Anyway, i was wrong! He strung me along a little but we never got together. It took 18mo for the obsession to wear off.

Husband i did NOT like at first sight, i promised myself i'd never speak to him again. 3mo later i'd moved in Grin 9yrs later we split up

MoobaaMoobaa · 25/08/2019 05:56

just like to add to my previous post.

That I did instantly fancy him when I saw him, and made a bee line for him, We clicked well. But we both had other stuff going on at the time(not other relationships though) so just chatted when we saw each other for 2 months Then he asked me out. I stayed over at his on the first date then never went home. By the end of the first week, that's when we both knew, and I moved in officially.

flamingjune123 · 25/08/2019 06:27

I was 16 and the moment we spoke I knew I loved him. He didn't love me straight away and we were on / off for a few years before marrying 10 years later and having the children. Stayed together for another 10 years. So glad he was the father to my children and he's still an OK guy but I look at him now and wonder how on earth feelings can change so much, the thought of being intimate with him again makes me want to throw up

Cliffdonville · 25/08/2019 06:31

I knew I fancied him instantly, a couple of dates and I wanted to spend all my time with him. He moved in 2 weeks later and we married 3 months after we met. It's been 16 years now.

I don't believe in 'the one' though, I think there's probably others I could have married but he's the one I found!

linentowel · 25/08/2019 06:39

Yes. It was immediate on both sides. Together 17 years.

Herefortheduration · 25/08/2019 07:17

No, we were both with other people when we met, we were friends but that was it. 3 years later we were both single and that was it. Been together 21 years.

Rubicon80 · 25/08/2019 07:22

No, because it's a load of bollocks.

I've had two long term, meaningful, deeply loving, life changing relationships- dh and my ex (12 years so far, and 10 years, respectively).

'The One' is nonsense. Anyone who says they're cynical but believes in that is like the self-professed 'sceptics' who pay for psychic readings .

PeneIopeQueef · 25/08/2019 07:51

Yes! I knew the moment I saw him. It was at a gig and I knew instinctively that if I didn't speak to him I'd be letting something incredibly important pass me by. I did, and we spent the rest of the evening/night talking (missed the band!). Twelve hours after we met he said 'I love you' and rather than run a mile I was overjoyed and said it back. He proposed after five days. We've been married for 16 years and however vom inducing it sounds we complete each other. We have ways said that when we met there was a feeling for both of us almost of recognition - sort of, ah, there you are. I've been waiting for you, thank god you're here at last!