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MIL stories

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AllInTheBestPossibleTaste · 21/08/2019 20:53

Sat on my own bored. My MIL has little to do with us....nothing personal, she's just that way. Make me realise how lucky I am and share your worst, overstepping CF MIL stories with me.

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Likethebattle · 21/08/2019 21:07

Mine found out DH had annual leave, when she found out I was also off she seemed most put out ‘oh are you off too?’ With lemon sucking face. it transpired she thought DH would be spending all his annual leave being her unpaid taxi/skivvy. Yes he’s going to travel 35 minutes each way to be talked at about your daft pals when he should be relaxing!

IABUQueen · 21/08/2019 21:09

like that’s a bit mean tbh. While I don’t get on with mil but I don’t police her relationship with her child to that level. If that’s the worst you can say about her then I bet she is lovely

3LoudBoys · 21/08/2019 21:09

Doesn't it make you sad? Mine has very little to do with us (no idea why) and I always feel like I am missing out. 😔

Cordial11 · 21/08/2019 21:13

My now MIL is fab! However not the previous one..,, she once asked me if I wanted to borrow any clothes for my holiday and added “I’ve got some from a fee years back when I was really fat that will fit you perfect”
Angry

Cordial11 · 21/08/2019 21:13

Few years back *

proseccoaficionado · 21/08/2019 21:13

My MIL is so manipulative you have no idea. I don't hate her, I just terribly dislike her and ignore her as much as possibleGrin

IABUQueen · 21/08/2019 21:14

I wish mil had little to do with us.

It would’ve been so peaceful.

I won’t bash her here though because I only do so when I need solutions not just for fun.

But all you need to do is google “mil, mumsnet”.

3LoudBoys · 21/08/2019 21:14

Oh my god?! Seriously! 😬

Likethebattle · 21/08/2019 21:27

@aibuqueen I certainly don’t police their relationship. She is manipulative and lazy. Likes to lay on a guilt trip and twist the truth. She called DH and said ‘oh I usually get the bus to x but since you are off you can drive me!’ No please no thank you no thinking oh maybe they have some plans since they both work hard. She twisted my words to try and put a wedge between me and DH. When he goes round she sits on her backside ‘son get me a cuppa!’ ‘Son hoover those stairs!’’ She is able bodied and not ancient.

He takes her shopping every week and has to empty the fridge first then carry every bag in, she too lazy to look for her keys so he has to open front door whilst juggling said bags. Then she sits on her arse whilst DH puts get shopping away, gets her her cup of tea, does the hoovering..,after a full day at work and an hours drive to hers. She should have fridge empty ready for him since she is retired and actually does nothing most of the time.

Maybe she could ask him how he is, how work is etc she couldn’t even tell you his job or the company he works at as all she does is talk at us constantly about her friends...constant repetitive drivel . She’s also racist, homophobic and slightly dim.

InsertFunnyUsername · 21/08/2019 21:36

She sneezed near me once, I mean can you believe it? Been no contact ever since.

Likethebattle · 21/08/2019 21:40

@InsertFunnyUsername damn right I hope you put your foot down with DH about it.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 21/08/2019 21:45

Mine is a terror. She came on our Honeymoon, had a tantrum at our wedding because she wasn't sat on the top table (there was no top table), told me she hated DS2's name and refused to use it, she told DH before we got married that he could do better. All kinds of batshit antics, mostly tied in with me not being quite good enough or not doing things her way. I spent years including her, spending free time with her, trying to ensure her needs were always catered for, and at the end of it all she still hasn't got much good to say about me. Life is just too short to be spent with people who don't like me.

It sounds awful but I'm low contact and it works; she thrives on drama and martyrdom, so accepting her for how she is and simply keeping myself distant means I don't get caught up in it. It's not my loss, it's hers, because I'm quite nice (if a little silly) and as DIL's go I put up with a lot before easing myself out of the friendship.

justilou1 · 21/08/2019 21:49

Mine
A) keeps sneakily attempting racist and homophobic conversion tactics on my kids
B) called my 13 year old daughter a slut because she was playing with makeup
C) Sent my twins $5 and $50 each in birthday cards for the same birthday because she is always playing someone off against someone else.
Could go on forever, really...

sakuramiyagi · 21/08/2019 21:53

Mine ignored me when I miscarried in October last year. Failed to ask how I was following surgery and then tried to make DH feel guilty for not visiting her enough in the weeks following our loss.

I haven't seen her in 9 months, it has been blissful!

Windydaysuponus · 21/08/2019 21:58

Mil rang the hire shop and tried to change the tartan dh had chosen for his kilt.
She was swiftly uninvited to the wedding!!
We hadn't seen her for 6 months after moving away!

Winter2019 · 21/08/2019 22:00

Sakura, yes, same here, ignored the fact I miscarried last year, now pretty much ignored the fact we are expecting again. Shame I can't avoid them cause we live really close. Oh well, better not expect anything from me when they're old 🤷‍♀️

Onesailwait · 21/08/2019 22:20

I love my MIL, we live overseas & she sends little parcels to each of my kids with little random things. They are always excited when they find a package in the mail. She also sends surprises for me & Dh. The worst thing i can say about her is she once called Ds1 ( about 10 at the time) a twat!, she meant twit every so often on of us will mention it & it always gets me belly laughing. I love her & miss her as much as my own mum. I know mn loves to demonize Mil's but they're not all bad

NataliaOsipova · 21/08/2019 22:22

My MIL wouldn’t care if she never saw us (well - me or the kids) again. Her other son and grandchildren are her sole focus.

Montyman · 21/08/2019 22:24

I have a lot of time for my MIL but she can be very passive aggressive; example telling my DH she will have our two kids for an overnight when we were going out but telling me that he didn’t say a thing to her which caused an argument between us as I thought he was lying so I had to have my family take them for the overnight - he said it to her face in front of me that they had spoken about it and she tried to say he was talking to his brother in front of her about them going to hers for an overnight but he never said it directly to her. They’re the worst family for communication and to exacerbate it they run a family business together, it’s all very frustrating. I don’t hang washing out correctly either apparently. Only today she gave me a ‘gift’ of two sets of blank ‘thank you’ notes for kids to send which is making me wonder what the kids have received lately from anyone that they may not have said thank you for - would never happen as I drum manners into them as much as possible and they will always say thank you for any gift; if the gift is passed on from a person and they don’t see the gift giver at the time they always have to follow up with a phone call or they say thank you the next time they see them.
@Winter2019 & @sakuramiyagi that’s awful being ignored after a miscarriage; mine did acknowledge mine and bless her she sympathized and told me that she had suffered through one but it was then all about her experience we haven’t spoken about it since. Giving benefit of doubt to her she probably wouldn’t have had anyone to talk to at the time about it.

Ayemama · 21/08/2019 23:13

Mine is a bit prone to being a nightmare, normally through her selfishness and love of shit stirring.
However my kids adore her and I want them to get the chance to have a relationship with their grandmother so I suck it up and I am civil towards her.

Walnutwhipster · 21/08/2019 23:36

I could type for days, even my two SILs say they feel sorry for me. I'll never be good enough for DH, even after 25 years and three DC. I had a major organ removed and she told DH's sister it was minor surgery. It involved weeks in ICU and a complete change of lifestyle afterwards. She is a hypochondriac who also compared her imagined illnesses against DM's terminal cancer diagnosis. She also moaned at the amount of time we spent with DM in her final days.

Cocolapew · 21/08/2019 23:47

I woke up from a D&C after a late miscarriage to see MIL sitting really close to me, her head was practically on the pillow.
She told me it was a good job that I had had a mc because me and DH hardly knew each other Confused.
She only did it because I was coming around from the anesthesia and couldn't kill her.
She upped and left looking very pleased with herself.
Honestly it would take me hours to write everything down, the woman is a horror.

Walnutwhipster · 22/08/2019 00:28

@Cocolapew what a cow!

Kiwiinkits · 22/08/2019 04:12

Mine pretends I don’t exist. I pretend she doesn’t exist. It works. She wrote me off the day she met me and never bothered to get to know me at all. Her loss.

Yelloyello · 22/08/2019 06:22

I’m moving to the same country as mine soon and dreading it. I see the way she acts in a lot of these posts.

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