MIL stories

[AllInTheBestPossibleTaste]

Sat on my own bored. My MIL has little to do with us....nothing personal, she's just that way. Make me realise how lucky I am and share your worst, overstepping CF MIL stories with me.

I think your belittling the majority of threads on here where a poster is being bullied and is dazed and confused by the dreadful behaviour of her Mil or those posters whose mental health is suffering because of strained in law relationships

I'm also always rather suspicious when someone like you posts because whilst I have seen lots of Mil threads I have also seen many about other in laws including fils /sils/nils etc.

Do you come into mn often? It seems you don't and generally perhaps you don't read or understand the mill threads?

To be fair, the dynamic between a mil and dil is what makes the relationship easily explosive if one of them is toxic. The power dynamic can become aweful for some and lead to emotional abuse.

I do think there are mil stories that are more horrific than I have seen Within other family dynamic. It’s a phenomena.

I know someone whose mother in law insists they keep their bedroom door open at night when sleeping while she sleeps outside on the couch.

I know another mil who insists her son sleep at her house every single night .. and only go to his wife in the morning. And throw scares about her dying if not.

I like mine. We’re on the same wavelength over most things. If she wants to do something for/with the children we discuss whether it works for the children. She respects their needs and routine. My FIL is great too, they’re coming over on Sunday (my suggestion) for a bbq I’m looking forward to it.

I know someone whose mother in law insists they keep their bedroom door open at night when sleeping while she sleeps outside on the couch.

I know another mil who insists her son sleep at her house every single night .. and only go to his wife in the morning. And throw scares about her dying if not.

JESUS. And do they comply with these insane demands?!

No, I'm not belittling those who have sought advice/ help for their terrible experiences.
This thread, if you reread the OP, is "I'm bored... share your worst, overstepping CF MIL stories with me" i.e. let's perpetuate and strengthen the MIL as monster idea.

Had OP posted "I'm having a terrible time with MIL because..." that would have been asking for advice on her own situation, so of course totally fine.

I don't think they are particularly bashing. People just talk about stuff that's bothering them. I've read about just as many FILs, SILs and BILs on here.

I love a good MIL thread. You can't make this stuff up!

And you've seen threads that ask for examples of bad behaviour specifically from FILs, BILs, or SILs? I doubt it.

And I've been on MN for many years FYI.

Disclaimer I am a mother to sons but do not ever feel threatened by MIL threads. If you're not batshit you're not going to end up on these threads.

If you want this kind of content, without people being annoying and complaining that it exists, head over to Reddit!

Women are still stereotypically expected to take over the social running of a family. As the mother-in-law previously held this position in her son's life, it's not wildly difficult to see where this contentious dynamic can come into play and I think it's disingenuous to pretend it doesn't exist.

It's not something I subscribe to myself and (perhaps because of this!), I think I get on quite well with my mother-in-law, but I can still recognise it exists for a lot of people. Similarly, I only have sons, but I'm not worried about being typecast as a monster, because I have no intention of behaving in the way the women in these stories do!

Drylce Women are still stereotypically expected to take over the social running of a family.

This is exactly how I feel as a SM to my dsc of 11 years. I was expected to take over "mum" role when they came over. They have a mum, and a perfect capable dad (maybe just lazy) so that caused a bit on contention in the early days. I never felt it was my place to take over...more just to join in.

Back to my original post, some of the posts on here have made me appreciate my MIL more. positive outcome id say

Some of these Mils are absolutely awful. But I tend to think they’re just awful people, rather than awful Mils. I sometimes go on gransnet and I read equally awful tales about daughter in laws. Just nasty people in general really.

Saying that, I have an awful son in law.

mine didn't pay her morgage for a number of years until they had racked up 10k debts and final notices. phoned up dh crying for him to get a loan out so they won't lose their house and when i said no they haven't spoken to me since.

What happened, did they lose the house?

I think it’s helpful to vent somewhere. Your in laws only come into your life because you fell in love with their child. They are not always people you would seek out friendships with or spend time with otherwise. Sometimes if I didn’t have here to moan I might let loose and offend my husbands mothers. Here I can vent and the plaster the fake smile on and keep the harmony.

@Seahorseshoe although not married, DS has been with his partner for six years so essentially I am a MIL. I would never dream of treating DIL the way I have been treated. We get on fantastically well and I treat her with love and respect. MIL also gives her the same treatment I get so she is a welcome ally. I use MIL as a template on how not treat DS's partner.