*trigger warning* Domestic Violence- can I report it without reporting to the police? [pic included]

[reportingtopolice]

I'm a regular poster- fuck off Daily Mail journos.

Me and my husband had a row last night (he was drunk and being sick, I'd been up all night with eldest daughter who had been unwell and I was angry he'd gone out with a friend who has said some nasty things about me recently that husband didn't even attempt to stick up for me on.

He snapped and put his hands round my neck. Our eldest (11) heard me shout and came in to see it happen shouting "get off mum". I drove him to his mum's about two miles away at half three this morning as he was trying to drive himself and I was worried he'd kill someone- he spent the whole drive telling me it was my fault he'd snapped. I will not take him back.

I know I need to report this but I don't want him convicted and I don't want social services intervention (reasons related to my job). Is there anywhere else I can report it to?

Your parents his and your friend will have more to deal with if they have to bury you where he has killed you .
Sorry to be blunt.
I have been there. Years and years of it. Finally split and I took control by divorcing him . Most of it was fuelled by his drinking. Take action now. You will be surprised by how he acts afterwards. You think he may want 50/50 . In reality he may turn tail and bugger off. Who knows what he might do . But you need to report him properly and let him deal with the consequences. It may be the wake up call he needs xx

Missed the update. Well done. If she has a mobile or social media make sure you keep an eye discreetly to see if he’s contacting her. What he’s saying etc. Plan some nice things for you and her to do together. Also explain to her that he’s hurt you and made you frightened and neither of you deserve to live like that. That he could have killed you. Don’t minimise or cover up for him anymore. You don’t have to poison her against her father but don’t hide the reality of what has happened either

You've don't the right thing

If you hadn't called the love and your dd has mentioned it to a teacher at school they would be duty bound to report it. This way,it shows everyone involved you are putting your children's best interests first.

All the best moving forward OP x

** police not love!

Hope you and DD are doing ok today @reportingtopolice