Did people give up their seats for you when pregnant?

[ShirleyPhallus]

Second time using my baby on board badge today, get on the tube and ask the man sat in a priority seat if I could please sit down

Get a mouthful of abuse about how its not his fault I’m pregnant and he wouldn’t give me his seat. If he’d just said no I might have assumed that he had hidden disabilities or something but he was just being a prick.

A lovely older lady in the seat next to him berated him and several suited men standing up did too (as did I) and finally he got up then just got off the tube

Second time using my badge!! Is it always like this?!

I don’t expect people to be looking up at every stop for an pregnant woman and would be happy to ask for seats but Christ, are people this dickish about this stuff all the time?!

No! Never had a bad experience wearing the badge through 2 pregnancies. Generally multiple people jumped up every time I got into a carriage. Sorry you met a dickhead today!

No never not once even when I was ginormous

Never had anyone argue- had some sighs and tuts when I tapped people on the shoulder to move. Tough!!! Would stick up for yourself and let the asshole behaviour wash over you

No cos I was 18

I had people give up their seats when they saw my badge, not often the people in the priority seat though funnily enough and people on buses weren’t so kind

I add to my pp - I never asked.

That guy sounds like a right royal thunder dick

He sounds like an anti-natalist.

Sorry you had a rough experience. I find Tube passengers are normally brilliant and have never had to ask. Trains are much more variable, in my experience.

Would stick up for yourself and let the asshole behaviour wash over you

I usually would stick up for myself but was so taken aback that i was speechless for a moment!

Never had a problem with this, people are kind where I live (up north) x

I had to use crutches for a long time (over a year) and then walked with a stick and had a person offer me a seat once in all that time. That was on a train, not the tube. People often give up there seat when you ask though.

Ive just started communicating on tube, i see people give up their seats everyday for women with pregnancy badges and disabled people.
I even get offered a seat , im 57 with a bit of grey , beginning to feel a bit paranoid that i look a bit old and decrepit

I've never been pregnant.

But people have given up their seats for me when I wore a maxi-dress that made me look pregnant or really fat

First pregnancy I could count on one hand the number of times anyone offered me a seat, but I didn’t wear a badge because this was at the time when you had to get them from your local station and mine never had any.

Second pregnancy was twins. Still no badge but people were virtually throwing themselves off the tube to let me sit down. Possibly because I looked full term from about 20 weeks, and from there on people were terrified my waters would go at any moment and wanted to get out of my way!

My anecdotal experience is that older (but not old!) white men, particularly those in suits, were least likely to offer their seat.

Sorry you met a dickhead.

Yes always but then where I live people often give up their seats unprompted to someone that might need it more than them. Or men will give up their seat for a woman but I know that's frowned upon on here. People seem to be generally kind where I live I can't believe some of the rudeness I read on here

I had a long commute across London during my pregnancy and someone would get for me every day: women, builders on overalls and foreign students- rarely a ' city gent

*in overalls

Commute every day on busy trains.

A seat was offered to me once. I never asked anyone for their seat but I asked plenty of people to move their bags off seats or let me get to the empty window seat next to them.

People tend to pretend not to see you, then when you get their attention they huff and puff about having to move their bag.

Never heard of the badge. At 8 months' pregnant, very obviously very pregnant, I had no seat on a long train ride. Stood next to some children. No one suggested they give me their seat. When someone eventually got off the train I literally had to race a young man for the seat.

Always a really positive experience here. I don't often take the tube but get southeastern from L Bridge and never not been offered a seat.

Yes I was always offered a seat and had doors opened for me. I never wore a badge though and never asked or expected anyone to move or stand up for me

Not been in a position where public transport has been so busy yet, but a lovely man did stop people from pushing on the train this weekend and told me to get on (most people are quite pleasant up north!)

Do you think maybe it's the badge that's causing the problem? I find people tend to be kinder when they feel its coming from their own goodwill where a a badge maybe looks like you expect them to move

Never had/knew about badges when pg. Never asked or expected anyone to give me a seat until visibility pg and then I was usually offered.

My anecdotal experience is that older (but not old!) white men, particularly those in suits, were least likely to offer their seat.

I am in Scotland, in an area not ethnically diverse and couldn't differentiate between race, or age for those most likely to offer a seat, but can categorically say I was never offered a seat by another woman.

No, I could count on one hand the number of times I was offered a seat.

Yes, once I was obviously pregnant. Every journey if I where viewable from the seats. From school boys to men in suits, occasionally women. (Once a very elderly woman, she had to be 90 odd!! I declined.)

I live in Dublin, and do hear lots of women say they have the total opposite to me. (Mind you I never got a train, only buses and th ed tram.)

I'm small and had a massive bump (as described by the midwife!!) each time. I think people feared I'd fall on them and crush them to death.