Anyone else starting to realise that they're a bit 'old fashioned' the more they're on MN?

[BenWillbondsPants]

Or maybe I've just stopped giving such a shit about what people think of me? Though I'm unsure if this is true as I have been a rampant people pleaser all my life, but maybe I just care a wee bit less.

I don't think it's cool or funny that kids swear at their parents. ('Don't they all'? No).

I do think it's shit to let kids sit on various devices for a majority of the
day - although I get that sometimes it happens.

I also want comfort dammit. I want comfortable shoes, comfortable chairs and a lovely cup of tea with a scone.

I roll my eyes so far back into my head at the various #bollocks I see on social media (which I quite like actually).

I also appear to be getting a bit fucking judgemental and I'm not sure I even care.

Do I need to put 'lighthearted' on this? OK. .

It grieves me that there are so many bad sofas out there in the world

I'm averagely short for a woman but I get swamped by the vast majority of sofas and you end up slumping down into them with no support with just the lower half of your shins wraggling off into the air. I can't see how most of them are comfortable to most people even with the benefit of a few extra inches.

Life is too short for uncomfortable shoes. Please, do not judge my sense of style/ professionalism through my footwear, only that I have bloody awkward feet and I'd like to last more than 7.5 minutes standing and 50 paces walking without having my skin grated off. I'd love to wear beautiful, stylish shoes but it's not worth the pain. Hotter have been amazing at creating some socially acceptable footwear choices.

Please and thank you are wonderful words.

Please and thank you are wonderful words.

Oh they are aren't they. And helping someone for no gain for yourself - much underrated.

Actually I think a sizeable part of the MN demographic is rather ‘old fashioned’ which is one of the main reasons I hang out here.

Holy shit I am fighting an uphill battle with my kids over please and thankyou. Sadly I live in a country where there isn't really a word for please.. so it's a double struggle because nobody else arounds me understands why I'm pushing it so hard. BUT I WILL WIN THIS WAR IF IT KILLS ME!

Couldn't agree more op.
I'm old fashioned and proud if it.
I don't fit in here a lot but I keep trying.
I want comfy shoes, decent telly and happy kids. Anything else is a bonus.

Oh there's a (very) few of us then!

Not so much 'old-fashioned' as simply 'older'. I just wish I had known then what I know now. Being comfortable is more important than someone else's idea of what looks good (ie 'fashion'). Good manners are about kindness and community, making life easier for everyone. As they say, youth is wasted on the young.

I think there's quite a few of us who are old fashioned.

I find it bizarre the lengths some parents on here go to to excuse poor behaviour and attitude in school (e.g. it was just a question/ the teacher doesn't like my DC, I don't consent to a detention because we were busy over the weekend, it's not my child's fauly, they didn't do anything)

I also think that children's clothes should be children's clothes, and age appropriate so arse showing shorts and bra style tops aren't ok to me.

It's totally normal to be in a bad mood with your partner at times or be irritated by small things. No it does not need to lead to an argument and no you don't need to LTB.

Please and thank yous cost nothing

Asking for advice and opinions will mean you get a range to advice and opinions. Not all of them will affirm how right you are and that's ok.

Life has ups and downs. Not all sadness needs branding as depression, not all nerves equal anxiety.

Some people are rude arseholes and there's no need to start saying it might be undiagnosed ASD or dementia or any other undiagnosed label.

I'd like white tops to not show my bra thank you very much.

There's no need to wear next to nothing or be bare chested when the sun comes out.

Oh yes, I'm old fashioned and a bit grumpy.

Sounds like you’re just a step away from being a “I just tell it like it is, me” person

MN also seems to have a lot of threads filled with self-importance that brag on how different they are to everyone else with this air of superiority. See “what popular things do you not like” threads which are filled with people listing stuff which doesn’t really make them different at all cos it’s basically all full of the same stuff that no-one likes.

Can I call you Pants , I'm sure an old fashioned gal like you won't mind...
Anyhow a huge YES to a cup of tea and a scone and a huge NO to kids swearing infront of their parents. Is that really a thing nowadays ( heard it on the odd occasion..it's usually the other way round which is bad enough)...if it is I want to go and live in a cave somewhere.

Social media etc etc (yawn) does everything have to be tweeted and photoed to within an inch of it's life these days? Look with your eyes and keep your phone in your pocket fgs!

I don't like going out either, what's that all about? Comfy sofa, good film, nice drink, chocs = happy Shadypines.

I didn't need social media to know that. I was already old fashioned when I got my first daughter at 21. I raise my kids the way I think is best for them. I give a shit about what's modern and actually consider a lot of "modern" views on raising children to be bad.

As sure as eggs are eggs (as my gran used to sa y)there's always one person who skips over the word 'lighthearted' in the OP and goes in for the kill...........

Sounds like you’re just a step away from being a “I just tell it like it is, me” person

Oh god no, I'm not a fan of that behaviour at all @ShirleyPhallus, I think it's just an excuse to be rude tbh.

Sorry if you feel I'm being self-important and superior, that's not my intention at all. I don't consider myself different, maybe I'm just a bit bored of what seems to be normal nowadays.

Indeed you may @shadypines.

But these examples that everyone is giving - not liking selfies on social media, just wanting comfortable shoes, not liking kids swearing - about 90% of mumsnet is like this anyway and rarely people ever say how much they love SM selfies / uncomfortable shoes / kids swearing.

So it really doesn’t sound like anyone is that different to the MN demographic as it is

Uncovered food in supermarkets and cafes is my fuddy-duddiness Bread and cakes particularly.

No amount of posters insisting it's always been that way/nothing unusual/just pearl-clutching is going to erase my memory of growing up when it was never. Just never.

Fair enough, @ShirleyPhallus - I did say it was lighthearted. And really, it is. I didn't think anyone would take this thread seriously tbh, just a bit of fun.

Sounds like you’re just a step away from being a “I just tell it like it is, me” person
Far from it.

It's just people expressing a view on different things.

For example, if you went in my town centre the second it's sunny you could be forgiven for thinking not-so-love-island has come to a slightly run down town centre based on the outfits. I think it's crass and unnecessary and think beach clothing is for the beach, not doing the shop. I'm sure I've been called a prude for it, but that's what I think about it.

Have I just found my tribe?

I HATE the fakery of life just now
It’s all
Fake tan
Fake nails
Fake hair
Fake people

But you mentioned scones? I’m in!!

Uncovered food in supermarkets and cafes is my fuddy-duddiness grin Bread and cakes particularly.

Agreed! Yet go the local garden centre at lunchtime and folk are practically having a scrap over the last iced bun!

I’m a big believer in routines for babies. Very old hat.

Love this thread. In my town there is no such thing as waiting for the sun to get the flesh and flip flops out...have seen it in midwinter!

Just going to have a freshly baked scone....

I am with you all the way, except the flip flops. I love wearing flip flops, even in winter.

Might go and bake some scones now...

I've always been very old fashioned, from a really young age. Strong morals.

I feel out of kilter with a lot of what I read on MN.

I hate all those stupid selfies with those dog/glasses filters on them, Sharon your a 40 year old woman not a dog we know what you look like in real life, drop the silly duck pout and the filter.

My niece goes to a bar for one drink just to “insta” it (with a filter of course) fake Gucci bag strategically placed on the table. Everything’s for insta.