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Has a spiteful/ vengeful act bought you joy?

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SpitefulOldBag · 04/08/2019 21:53

I’m currently contemplating doing something pretty spiteful to someone who is making my life very difficult. My very sensible and rational dh is telling me that it won’t make me feel any better about the situation. I think it definitely will and even if it doesn’t make me feel better it certainly won’t make me feel worse.

Its an incredibly long and not very interesting story but this person is absolutely awful and I (so far at least) have done nothing at all to warrant her behaviour towards me.

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Quellium · 07/08/2019 19:40

Did she bother the previous owners and they failed to disclose it, or has it just started since she had a look round?

LatteLove · 07/08/2019 19:41

No, I’m just really not that kind of person

LatteLove · 07/08/2019 19:43

You cut down a tree? Jeez that’s not that bad at all!

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 07/08/2019 19:44

Really sorry to hear she’s at it again OP.
I would be thinking about getting a solicitor to send a very formal letter to her telling her to fuck off (in a legal way!).

Hoppinggreen · 07/08/2019 19:47

It’s not supposed to, the best revenge is to live well apparently
BUT yes, I do like to get revenge and in several cases it has brought me immense satisfaction.

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SpitefulOldBag · 07/08/2019 19:53

I hadn’t thought about getting a solicitor type person to send her a letter. That might be a good plan actually, it certainly wouldn’t hurt.

The house had been sold several times after it went out of her family. We live in a very touristy place and the last owners had it as a holiday home for the last 20 years and never even got round to furnishing it. Crazy lady took it upon herself to try and keep the gardens in order and seems to think this means that they are partly hers.

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Maelwaedd · 07/08/2019 19:57

Genius revenge OP. If you can't face the hassle of changing the house name how about getting a new plaque made and misspelling the name slightly. That could be as annoying but less hassle.

CoraPirbright · 08/08/2019 17:19

Did you speak to the police today OP?

Ticklemeelmo · 08/08/2019 18:04

Christ the tree cutting is tame in comparison. Can you send anonymous notes about her to people she knows?

Sicario · 08/08/2019 18:11

Yes, and it felt great.

Vile EXH. Passed him a sandwich in the car and said the wrapper was that new film that you can eat which makes eating sandwiches in cars while driving safer. He ate it, wrapper included, and I felt warm for a week.

Also scraped his toothbrush around the dog's bed and put it back in the holder. Regularly.

Gladiolus45 · 08/08/2019 18:24

I think you need to burn a branch of the cut down tree very publicly
on the front lawn every time she issues one of her letters!

Catsingangs · 09/08/2019 06:38

Rename the house OP, call it "Far Corfe"

Lllot5 · 09/08/2019 06:54

Yes I have had some petty revenge on ex involving his car.
Felt great at the time feels great now when I think of it.
My mate pissed in her husband’s bath once. Added some bubbles for him to disguise the colour.

FabulouslyFab · 09/08/2019 07:07

Years ago at an office night out just after I had left my exh (he was having an affair) a drunken colleague took umbridge that my life had taken a turn for the better and started screaming at me in the pub. The place went silent. I just let her shout herself out and got on with my night. Lunchtime a few days later I was in a queue for a cash machine when she came out of the hairdressers and stopped in front if me chatting away while doing that ‘hair down my back’ jig. I just stood and stared at her as if I hadn’t a clue who she was. She got the message and went on her way. It was really funny at the time - hopefully the rest of the queue thought she was some kind of crazy! We never spoke again 😁

PerkyPomPoms · 09/08/2019 07:35

The house definitely needs a new name!

CoraPirbright · 13/08/2019 22:56

Any update OP? Did you go to the police in the end?

theministryhasfallen · 13/08/2019 23:08

Details please

buckeejit · 13/08/2019 23:39

Oh yes, what's next?!

ElizaPancakes · 14/08/2019 01:26

This is a brilliant act of revenge OP, well done! If you still have the wood, post it without enough stamps piece by piece with no return address so she has to go to the PO several times a week.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 14/08/2019 01:51

Many years ago we got kicked out of the flat we were renting in London and had to find somewhere else. After much hunting we found a decent place we could afford.

However the prospective landlady was on a bit of a power trip: she refused to get her teenage son out of bed so that we could view his room properly, she demanded a very high deposit and she gave us a really difficult moving in date..

We made our arrangements, gave notice on our flat ready to sign the contract and then, the day before we were due to move in, she phoned us up and said she would be another day moving out, meaning we would be homeless for a day. And she was very callous about it.

I phoned my best mate in tears and she told me that a nice colleague of hers who I’d met before had a room going in her flat we could have.

So I phoned the letting agency and said we didn’t want the flat any more. Prospective landlady was instantly on the phone, saying we could move in any day we wanted only don't let her down. Nah sorry, you can stick your flat.

ShippingNews · 14/08/2019 02:32

When my beloved Dad died, I inherited his beautiful ivory chess set . I'd grown up loving the pieces and learning to play with my Dad.

When I divorced my ex, somehow the chess set got left behind at the house where he was living, and he decided that "possession is nine-tenths of the law" and wouldn't give it back. I was beside myself with anger - it just summed up how horrible my ex was, that he'd keep something that was so special to me.

One day I was driving past his house and I noticed that his housemate's car was there. This was a very young man who was at the local college. On an impluse I stopped and knocked on the door - the boy came to answer it and I introduced myself very politely. I said I had to pick up some papers to do with my divorce and that I knew where they were. He stood back and let me go into my ex's room. This had been our bedroom when I lived there, and I'd always kept the chess set in the wardrobe. In the space of a minute I'd grabbed the chess set, wrapped it in some newspaper, and marched out as if I owned the place . I cheerily bade the boy goodbye and walked to my car with sweat dripping down my back .

Yes I know it was stealing ....yes I know it was wrong.....but that is my chess set and it sits in my sitting room now , looking exquisite as always . My Dad would be proud of me. I know my ex knows I took it, but he has never done anything about it - even if he'd reported it to the police I doubt that anything would have happened. I did that about 10 years ago and I still feel happy just thinking about it.

buckeejit · 14/08/2019 09:18

@ShippingNews that's not stealing at all. I'm so glad you did that.

cauliflowersqueeze · 14/08/2019 09:58

She sounds appalling!!!

Krisskrosskiss · 14/08/2019 10:05

My ex beat the living daylights out of me, nearly killed me several times, he was honestly an evil evil man 15 years older than me and I was 21 at the time... so I feel only happiness when I remember how, when I finally managed to leave him... I left when he was out at a friends party and I knew hed be gone all night... he was on a coin meter for gas and electric and so I turned on absolutely every appliance I could and all the lights and heating etc... I also took all his food out of the cupboards and walked round and round the outside of the flat emptying it out on the ground... then I got on a train with my one bag of belongings and left (I went five hours away so I wasnt afraid of retaliation)
I was ashamed of my behaviour for a few years... it's not how id normally behave I think I'd just broken... but now I look back and I'm glad. I'm very glad I did all that as a final fuck you.

Cherrysoup · 14/08/2019 11:27

She’s harassing you and whilst we might think she’s batshit and just a minor pain, this is a real trauma for you, OP and may turn into something bigger. I think a very strongly worded solicitor’s letter now before she carries on with more shite, including some phrasing about harassment and the lack of her having anything to do with the property so she needs to stop with all the dumb recommendations. You can easily start proceedings to prosecute her for harassment. You have the written proof with her stupid letters to the neighbours.

I’d be getting onto the police to informally visit her after she’s had a solicitor letter. If she escalates, this could turn into a real pain in the arse.

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