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Has a spiteful/ vengeful act bought you joy?

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SpitefulOldBag · 04/08/2019 21:53

I’m currently contemplating doing something pretty spiteful to someone who is making my life very difficult. My very sensible and rational dh is telling me that it won’t make me feel any better about the situation. I think it definitely will and even if it doesn’t make me feel better it certainly won’t make me feel worse.

Its an incredibly long and not very interesting story but this person is absolutely awful and I (so far at least) have done nothing at all to warrant her behaviour towards me.

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 05/08/2019 19:07

I've done it twice and it was fucking awesome. Really cheered me up.

CoraPirbright · 05/08/2019 19:10

I know what you mean UserName but the OP could plant something lovely in its place.

This woman sounds batshit & sending letters like that is appalling! Isn’t that slander?

I once had a neighbour railing at me as I had chopped down a tree in my back garden as it then altered the view from her back bedroom & was different to a water colour painting she had done!! I did try to explain that it was under instructions from the council as it was damaging foundations of mine & my neighbours houses but I am not sure she quite believed it! But your woman is a whole other level of crazy!

MulticolourMophead · 05/08/2019 19:11

I have done a couple of petty things in my life, when it couldn't be traced back to me. As for my ex, I'll stick to just dreaming about cutting his brakes, I wouldn't take the risk in real life.

MulticolourMophead · 05/08/2019 19:13

I think though, what this shows me is that should I ever move, I won't be letting previous owners or their rellies in to take a look.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 05/08/2019 19:20

Years ago when I was a recent ish grad a work colleague only slightly more senior then me was an utter twat to me and few of the other new kids in the office. Sort of person who would try to throw you under the bus in meetings or hang you out to dry for what would seem was just for his own amusement. He made life very difficult for us all in the first 6 months before we were all transferred to different departments and escaped his clutches. Roll forward many years and this arseholes CV falls on my desk, I was going to bin it but decided to call him in for an interview and got a few of my colleagues to conduct it. I decided to drop in halfway through the interview and just pulled up a chair and said nothing. It was lovely watching his cocky confidence drain from him when he recognised who I was. Tried to be all pally with me afterwards in a 'hey, great to see you after all these years' kind of way. I just said I would let him know on the job, which of course he never got. Petty? Absolutely, but fuck him.

elephantoverthehill · 05/08/2019 19:24

I worked with a woman who cut down a weeping willow in my childhood house. I had planted it, I wasn't upset about her cutting it down but that she promised me some logs so I could green turn them, I never got them. However what a weirdo your former resident is. I like your style.

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SpitefulOldBag · 05/08/2019 19:56

I haven’t thought what I’m going to do with the actual wood. I like the idea of getting it chipped 😁. Dh thinks that I’ll start to feel guilty soon. I don’t.

username the tree wasn’t in great health and was also smack bang in the middle of the garden. I will plant something in its place and I’m planting a few trees in the front garden to assuage my tree murdering guilt.

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TimeForNewStart · 05/08/2019 20:22

God she sounds so stressful!

boosterrooster · 05/08/2019 20:49

She's a bit nuts bless her! Offer her a branch as a momentum Grin

SonEtLumiere · 05/08/2019 21:00

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daisychain01 · 05/08/2019 21:07

Oh no. I feel your anger towards your neighbour and I KNOW why you did it, but I feel a bit sad a tree has paid the price for her stupidity and harassment.

This.

It's a bloody cruel and unfeeling world where people fawn over a person for destroying nature wantonly, to satisfy their temporary feeling of spite. Shame on you.

Laiste · 05/08/2019 21:24

daisychain01 - slight over reaction? OP says: ''the tree wasn’t in great health ... I will plant something in its place and I’m planting a few trees in the front garden''

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SpitefulOldBag · 05/08/2019 21:28

I don’t think anyone’s fawning over me Confused. daisychain if it makes you feel better my career is in land management for a conservation charity (hence my chainsaw license meaning I can cut trees down in revenge). I spend 40 hours a week on pretty much minimum wage and have so far resisted the urge to wantonly destroy nature.

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BillywilliamV · 05/08/2019 21:31

There’s always one...!

managedmis · 05/08/2019 21:32

I’m getting very pissed off with being the better person though

^

I know!
Other people are shitty and still seem to get away with it..?

managedmis · 05/08/2019 21:33

Yeah, spiteful old bag, shame on you!

Wags finger

GrinWine

TayoTheLittleBus · 05/08/2019 21:34

I can see why you did it. But I kind of feel like it will probably just escalate the situation. But then I’m more of an “anything for a quiet life” kind of person. I couldn’t. E doing with the drama.

TwistofFate · 05/08/2019 21:38

If your neighbour felt that strongly about the house, she probably should have bought it herself. It's a shame for her, but it's your home.

I've had plenty of revenge fantasies but honestly believe the best revenge is getting on with your life, being happy and letting them see that nothing they do bothers you.

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SpitefulOldBag · 05/08/2019 21:45

tayo that’s pretty much what dh’s view on the matter is. But I’m not sure what she’d do that could escalate it more. At the moment she’s being very careful to not do anything obviously illegal. If she is going to carry this campaign of hers on then it would be a lot easier if she did something completely mad so that the police could actually do something to stop her. We really have tried to be respectful towards her and she seemed so lovely at the beginning and was delighted when we said she could come and have a look around. But she genuinely seems to consider it to be her house and is to be naughty tenants. Even her daughter came round to apologise about her as she never stops complaining about it to her either apparently.

twistoffate we have said that exact thing to her a couple of times. Her ancestors built the house in the 1850’s, it stayed in her family until the 70’s and the name of it is her maiden name. So she considers it hers because of that. Changing the name of the house was the other spiteful thing I was considering doing but that takes ages and is a faff.

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Pillowcased · 05/08/2019 22:26

Change the name, OP. To ‘Not Your House’.

ChateauMyself · 05/08/2019 22:35

Do it - change the name...

ginswinger · 05/08/2019 22:47

Yeah, I do this probably more than I ought to. A close, quite annoying family member is driving round with a slightly obscene bumper sticker I put there. It's been on for a month and she hasn't noticed it. I don't feel bad, she's been really rude to me.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 06/08/2019 09:26

Change. The. Name.

I'm not the type of anything for a quite life. I can become quite motivated in the right circumstances.

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SpitefulOldBag · 06/08/2019 13:30

She’s obviously noticed as someone from the council came round to tell me they’d had a complaint. There are a couple of trees in my garden that have TPO’s on and she’s told them I had cut them down. The tree I had cut down I was absolutely allowed to do without any permission. I’m surprised she hasn’t come round here herself yet. I’ve got that pleasure to come.

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 06/08/2019 13:37

If she does tell her to leave or you're calling the police and then close the door in her face.