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DH is doing revenge housework because he's annoyed with me.

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 19:45

I shouted at him for messing up the recycling AGAIN. Yes I know it's unreasonable to shout at your partner, but it's been 8 years of me explaining why paper and plastic need to be separated.
I've made him dinner, but he's left it on the side as an act of defiance 😂. So far he's cleaned the litter tray, tidied up DCs toys, emptied all the bins and watered the plants- I've never seen him do anything in the garden before.
All so he doesn't have to talk to me or eat the dinner I made him.

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skankingpiglet · 04/08/2019 21:42

My DH sadly rarely angry cleans (although it's great when he does!), but he does like to exile himself to the sofa overnight - might be worth a final push for this OP?
Our sofa is on its last legs and does not provide a good night's rest, plus it's leather so is squeaky and sticky to sleep on! He makes no attempt to turn it into anything resembling a bed, just grabs a too-small thin blanket. He is trying to make a huge point by sleeping on it. I roll my eyes, move my pillow into the centre of the bed, and assume the position of a starfish... Wink Bliss!

Potplant · 04/08/2019 21:47

My ex used to do this.
Ah how I miss the passive aggressive kitchen cleaning.

TanMateix · 04/08/2019 21:51

Oh Dear... I need to have a proper conversation with the BF, he has been incredibly helpful this week... and I had forgotten that “little” argument we had a week ago. I had not realised I had offended him that much! Shock

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usersouthcoast · 04/08/2019 21:58

@upple your husband is probably on Dadsnet having a right laugh!! Stop woman!

shinynewapple · 04/08/2019 22:05

Wow wish mine would !

LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 04/08/2019 22:09

Has he cleaned the floor? Drop his dinner on it.

vampirethriller · 04/08/2019 22:15

My mother angrily empties the bin. I saw her do it twice in the same argument once.

Yellowshirt · 04/08/2019 22:29

This is brilliant and I'm male. And yes I used to clean through being pissed off with my now ex wife. I never missed a meal though!!!

Nokeysnoentry · 04/08/2019 22:32

Men like this exist? Where can I find one?!

opinionminion · 04/08/2019 22:33

Revenge housework Grin

Tingface · 04/08/2019 22:38

This is one of my favourite threads ever. I properly giggled at:

“Right, I let him in, but he walked straight past me without a word and plumped the sofa cushions.”

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QOD · 04/08/2019 22:52

I’ve got a broken knee cap. I’m quite capable of walking with or without crutches (can weight bear but crutches advised along with immobilising brace) but I was cooking a V V basic dinner earlier and EVERY time the oven timer went, he met me in the kitchen and interfered. Cook or don’t motherfucka

LittleSweet · 04/08/2019 22:55

I angry clean. I was researching sensory integration disorder and doing heavy muscle work, like cleaning and gardening actually calm the brain. So he's doing his own therapy. I wish my dh angry cleaned. He just sulks. Even when he says he's not.

twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 23:09

HE ATE HIS DINNER. Bastard.

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HeffaLump1 · 05/08/2019 01:45

Sneakily or was he open about it OP? Bet he was seething you are the cookies - roll on another revenge clean in his fury

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EileenAlanna · 05/08/2019 03:11

he walked straight past me without a word and plumped the sofa cushions
That's some hard core revenge housework. I lost the ability to even notice the sofa cushions long ago & my plumping muscles have atrophied.

HelenaJustina · 05/08/2019 17:17

@QOD my DH does something similar. Whenever the oven timer sounds he turns the bloody thing off - regardless of whether I am in the room and have actually heard the alarm. The number of meals/bakes I have barely rescued following his ‘helping’ is beyond counting.

I like to leave the alarm sounding, even if I am in the room, until I’ve actually actinide whatever needs doing with the contents of the oven. He cannot get his head round this at all!

QOD · 05/08/2019 17:44

Hahahaha

twistyturnycurlywhirly · 05/08/2019 18:02

I've just found metal in the paper and card recycling. I love him dearly, but he's clearly too stupid to understand the basics of recycling. 🙄

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 05/08/2019 18:02

I've just found metal in the paper and card recycling. I love him dearly, but he's clearly too stupid to understand the basics of recycling. 🙄

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 05/08/2019 18:02

I've just found metal in the paper and card recycling. I love him dearly, but he's clearly too stupid to understand the basics of recycling. 🙄

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