DH is doing revenge housework because he's annoyed with me.

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I shouted at him for messing up the recycling AGAIN. Yes I know it's unreasonable to shout at your partner, but it's been 8 years of me explaining why paper and plastic need to be separated.
I've made him dinner, but he's left it on the side as an act of defiance 😂. So far he's cleaned the litter tray, tidied up DCs toys, emptied all the bins and watered the plants- I've never seen him do anything in the garden before.
All so he doesn't have to talk to me or eat the dinner I made him.

Brilliant, mine does this as well.

If we have an argument he always storms off and starts doing all the DIY jobs around the house and garden.
Strange creatures aren't they

Can you get him to do anything else? Decorating? Hard landscaping? Double story extension with wet room & bi-fold doors?.

Tbh years of explaining recycling would piss me off too. It’s not hard is it?.

How do you all find these wonderfully proactive when stroppy men!?

My husband would sulk and feel sorry for himself, look at reddit, and take the dog for a walk.

walked straight past me without a word and plumped the sofa cushions.
Laughed out loud at that one! (I live alone and the neighbours will be giving me funny looks after tomorrow)

I LOVE revenge housework. It doesn't happen often but when it does, DH makes the kitchen spotless. He is much better at cleaning than me.

Omg I really want you to eat his dinner 😂

Interesting that this seems to be a common thing with some men. How have I never utilised this before?
I put his dinner in the fridge as the cats were prowling. He's now started wiping the work tops, sink and dining table.
That'll teach me.

Tell him he's done the cleaning wrong OP, you might get some revenge DIY done too!

You need new shelves putting up right? 😂

Revenge housework!

Haha! What a twat! Definitely piss him off more often if this is the reaction!!!

Oh god, I wish my husband did revenge housework, you're so lucky!

Fuck, he's slowing down, what do I do?

Say "you've missed a bit ..."

Fuck, he's slowing down, what do I do?

He’ll eat his dinner next, just watch!

Amazing! You'll have to piss him off more often

Just talking about this thread with DH- he reckons he may have passive-aggressively washed up at me!

I'm pretty sure I've angry cleaned as a way of avoiding interaction too.

Are you hungry enough to eat a second dinner? That'll probably be good for a kitchen deep clean.

Mine does stress-tidying when we have an argument. It would be great except he tidies up the stuff I am using:

gets teabags
turns round to get mug
find teabags have been put way by angry husband

I love it.

I've just pointed out that he's wrong to put the cool box away straight after cleaning it (I went on a picnic with DC today) as it went mouldy last time where it wasn't dried properly. I basically said it was his fault it went manky (it wasn't, it was me) so let's see if that gets him going.

He's not crashing about much though.

Oh, if he's slowing down, put his dinner plate on the floor for the cats!

If he's not going to eat it, someone might as well get the benefit...plus it should annoy him enough that you get at least another couple of hours of work out of him.

He's running out of steam, he should have eaten.

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I'm not really hungry enough for a second helping of lasagne, but possibly hungry enough to eat his biscuits.

DH says he thinks your DH isn't angry-tidying, it's that your DH knows he is in the wrong so he's trying to gain back some moral ground