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DH is doing revenge housework because he's annoyed with me.

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 19:45

I shouted at him for messing up the recycling AGAIN. Yes I know it's unreasonable to shout at your partner, but it's been 8 years of me explaining why paper and plastic need to be separated.
I've made him dinner, but he's left it on the side as an act of defiance 😂. So far he's cleaned the litter tray, tidied up DCs toys, emptied all the bins and watered the plants- I've never seen him do anything in the garden before.
All so he doesn't have to talk to me or eat the dinner I made him.

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justasking111 · 04/08/2019 20:57

Mine has a blind spot over recycling, I have given up and do it myself. When he is in a strop he cleans the kitchen, the worktops are always swimming in water around the sink afterwards but the kitchen is clean.

Coronapop · 04/08/2019 20:58

Funniest thread in ages!

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 20:59

There's only a few left, dare I?

DH is doing revenge housework because he's annoyed with me.
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Myriade · 04/08/2019 20:59

Interesting Blibbyblobby to see how we, as women, interpret things and how they, as men, see things Wink

usersouthcoast · 04/08/2019 21:03

Eat the biscuits and then make a PA comment about "I'll bin the packet though, as I know what needs recycling and what doesn't"

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 21:04

That's a good theory @Blibbyblobby, but he's just told me that DCs feet were so dirty today because, "The floors aren't clean, and that's all I'm saying."
😡 they were steam mopped yesterday and DCs feet were dirty because he runs around bare foot outside at every given opportunity.

So here come the housework insults.

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 21:05

@usersouthcoast Grin

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MotherOfTheNoise · 04/08/2019 21:07

I've just asked my husband if I can start an argument with him so he can PA start doing some housework that I'm too lazy to do. He said no. Can we swap DHs?

Butternutsqoosh · 04/08/2019 21:09

"The floors aren't clean and that's all I'm saying"

Eat the biscuits and chuck his dinner!

Jayaywhynot · 04/08/2019 21:10

Bless him, sounds like hes running out of steam! In answer to the housework insults, smirk or giggle, that'll get his jets fired up again! Works for me! If he persists say "cool your jets chick" my OH loves it when I say that Wink

NoSquirrels · 04/08/2019 21:14

I would ABSOLUTELY eat his salted caramel cookies for the lady “and that’s all I’m saying” floors comment!

And you’re pregnant, so they’re clearly the baby’s portion anyway...

noodlezoodle · 04/08/2019 21:14

Have you tried airily waving a hand at whatever he's just cleaned and saying "oh, I was just about to do that". I find that particularly enraging when I'm cleaning, so it might get him revved back up again Smile

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 21:14

Oh bollocks, he's just put the telly on. He's done for the night. He made a point of saying how he's missed so much of Formula 1 racing this evening as he's been working so hard. Proper martyr. It looks like dinner will go untouched.

I'm going to take everyone's tips and use them in the future. This has been a very interesting learning journey.

I shall continue to put my feet up and drink my mocktail, knowing that I have an unwanted meal all prepared for lunch tomorrow. Win win.

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ysmaem · 04/08/2019 21:15

This made me chuckle.
I get annoyed at my DP over recycling too. He bins everything plastic and cardboard instead of recycling and it winds me up.

NoSquirrels · 04/08/2019 21:16

Well played, OP.

Eat the biscuits, though!

WouldYouLikeAnOmlette · 04/08/2019 21:18

Lol I do this too when I'm having a martyr moment! Grin

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twistyturnycurlywhirly · 04/08/2019 21:19

I've devoured the biscuits as payback for the floor comment. I bet he'll sneak into the kitchen later for a snack. Ha ha loser!

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justasking111 · 04/08/2019 21:19

I tell you if recycling was left to men things would be a lot worse than they are now. Men obviously design packaging for supermarkets.

darkcloudsandsunnyskies · 04/08/2019 21:19

He seems to have misunderstood the concept of man sulk.

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 04/08/2019 21:20

I really wish mine would do angry cleaning! He just walks the dog some more so he’s done something (I’d love to swan off out the house)

Was there a specific word to switch the PA cleaning mode on? ... (wishing hopefully)

MeOldBamboo · 04/08/2019 21:22

This has made me laugh so much. My DH does this too if I dare to question or criticise (constructively). It doesn’t happen often but suddenly the things he’s left lying around for three weeks go back to their places in the garage. It’s great that it is actually a thing!!!

Eustasiavye · 04/08/2019 21:25

Well done for eating the biscuits.
I'd definately save his dinner and have it for lunch.

SweetPetrichor · 04/08/2019 21:25

I wish this worked for me! Sounds like an ideal way to get the housework done.

MsJRMEsq · 04/08/2019 21:38

Result! Can you do the same thing again?

upple · 04/08/2019 21:38

When DH makes a mess of the recycling, I end up ironing like a woman possessed.

How am I getting this so wrong?