How to tell friend of ds he can’t come on holiday with us?

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I am going away for three nights with two of my dc tomorrow. A friend of one of them keeps on asking my older ds if he can come too - keeps on asking ds.

Ds not sure what to say without saying being rude - any suggestions?

“No”

Hope that helps.

That it's a family trip?

Yes I agree that no would be the right thing to say but ds is in knots not knowing what to say. I’ve told him to say no but he doesn’t want to so bluntly. He wants to come up with excuses about having to be up at the crack of dawn but I think this will just mean his friend also gets up then .

Just say no! Why should some random kid's wishes matter more than your precious family holiday time?

Why would he think he can com on holiday with you? How odd. Just say no

How old are the DS and his friend?

"Mum and Dad have decided this is a family trip. Sorry".

“My mum said no”

He can add in some age-appropriate moaning about how unreasonable his mum is if he so wishes

'My mum says no.'

Sometimes they need us to be the fall guys.

Surely he just needs to say ‘my mum says no’ - the universal get out for any kid.

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It’s not common etiquette to be expected to take other people on holiday with you. If the friend can’t accept that he’s not allowed to come that’s his problem, not yours.

How old?

Where are you going?

Sorry mate, my parents have said no.

That it's a family trip?

Thanks - he is currently devising something along these lines.

Or has you ds actually invited him without asking you?

No What age are they? This is mad, tell your ds to cop on and just say "no Paul, you can't come, it's a family holiday" followed "Paul will you stop asking, I said no", it's not hard, he needs to learn to say no to people

Your dd needs to learn to just say no, it's a skill kids must have before they can start to have independence!

FGS just tell the child he isn't coming on holidays with you and save your Ds the hassle of worrying about it. If he's asking via text tell Ds to say you said no, end of. And then he can ignore any further messages about it. Time to teach your son that it's perfectly ok to say no without further explanation.

Sorry - missed all the other suggestions which I will read now .

Yep. I always told my kids that if they were put in a difficult situation, they could always blame me. And that they were even allowed to sound annoyed with me.

My mum said no.

Easy enough.

Tell him to just say there is no space.

We need more background. How old are the children? What makes this friend even think he can come away with you?

Goodness sake, all this drama. Your the parent not the child. Say No and mean it, job done.

Why would he even think it's possible.