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WWYD - let them go hungry or deliver lunch?

85 replies

Pancakeflipper · 31/07/2019 12:15

14 yr old son has a current tendency for teenage 'it's about me'.
He's got a sports camp today. Was faffing and late this morning (on his phone).
I made him a sandwich for lunch to help him out. His lunch box was upstairs in his bag from yesterday (this annoys me) so told him I'd leave the sandwich in the fridge for him.

Just opened fridge and there's the sandwich.
No catering facilities at camp. Do I drive it round to him (would take me 15 mins to get there) Or ignore it?

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sackrifice · 31/07/2019 12:16

What will he learn if you run round there with his lunch?

HennyPennyHorror · 31/07/2019 12:17

I'd take it. 14 year olds are forgetful and he'll starve!

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 31/07/2019 12:19

At 14 years old, he is old enough to take some responsibility. If he goes hungry today, I bet he won't forget his food again.

One day won't kill him but it will teach him a valuable lesson.

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Ratbagratty · 31/07/2019 12:20

Leave it, he can eat it when he gets back after washing out the previous day's lunch box.

IDontDrinkTea · 31/07/2019 12:20

I’d take him something boring or that he doesn’t particularly like. So he could choose either to eat that or go hungry

MonChatEstMagnifique · 31/07/2019 12:20

I would.

If he's doing sports all day, he'll need to eat. Then have a word with him tonight about being more organised.

ThisIsM · 31/07/2019 12:20

Yes let him go hungry and learn a good lesson, I think. In future, don't make him his lunch so he learns an even better lesson Wink

GabrielsCurls · 31/07/2019 12:21

I'd text him and ask him if he'd like you to drop it off.

Stupid stuff like this can end up becoming big arguments that are completely avoidable.

TheFlis12345 · 31/07/2019 12:21

Take it but confiscate his phone in the mornings for a week.

InsertFunnyUsername · 31/07/2019 12:21

I would leave it, he wont starve but he will remember next time!

sheshootssheimplores · 31/07/2019 12:23

Nope, I wouldn’t. I bet he’ll get some food in him regardless.

user1493413286 · 31/07/2019 12:25

I would wait and see what he does; let him realise what’s happened and have that moment of thinking oh no. I would imagine you’ll get a call from the camp or they’ll sort something out but at least he’ll get a bit of consequence whereas you taking it now won’t make him think twice tomorrow

Hotterthanahotthing · 31/07/2019 12:26

Leave it.You made it for him and only left to pick it up on the way out.You don't want to reinforce his 'forgetfulness' by running after him.

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 31/07/2019 12:26

Most teens are generally “it’s all about me” tbh, even you properly were once. It’s part of being a teen.

I’d take him the sandwich, his still a child at 14

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Pancakeflipper · 31/07/2019 12:30

I'm agreeing with you all.
Got to complete this urgent work task (working at home). Then will decide as lunch is usually 12.45....

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SeeSomethingSaySomething · 31/07/2019 12:31

This is what some refer to as ‘a teachable moment’.

Being hungry for a few hours is not an issue.

Likelihood is that other people will share with him anyway.

And he’ll remember it’s his responsibility the next time!

Apolloanddaphne · 31/07/2019 12:33

Wait and see if he messages you to ask about it. I am willing to bet he won't and will just mooch some bits off his mates.

SalrycLuxx · 31/07/2019 12:35

Leave it. Without consequences he won’t learn.

Anchovies12 · 31/07/2019 12:39

I must be soft - I'd take it. To be honest my 3 dcs are pretty organised but if one of them made a mistake I wouldn't make them miss lunch during a day of sport to teach them a lesson.

Drum2018 · 31/07/2019 12:40

@Apolloanddaphne I agree.

MichelleC69 · 31/07/2019 12:41

Let him go hungry - then he will learn. This happens all the time with my stepsons - they expect their dad to remember everything for them at the age of 12 and 18.

HollowTalk · 31/07/2019 12:46

I would take it. Do some research on the teenage brain and take him the lunch.

flouncyfanny · 31/07/2019 12:49

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RedSkyLastNight · 31/07/2019 12:49

If this was my DS he would have deliberately chosen not to take the sandwich.
I wouldn't take it. There will be other food there, or he'll scrounge of others if he's bothered (again my DS wouldn't have been, he'd just make up for it later).

kateandme · 31/07/2019 12:55

i know i'll be flamed for this but does he have pretty strong mental health,has he any other things going on.becasue just makes sure someone vulnerable already wouldnt think i dont deserve to eat,mum didnt bring me food etc.sounds silly to a rationale mind but if a teen is already struggling...