SO fucked off with work situation

[Ohfuckthefuckoff]

Will try to keep this as vague as possible.

Very young girl, basic admin job, shagging very senior manager (married).

Today we all get an email that she will be “acting up” in a manger role for the foreseeable. This is not office gossip, she was very vocal to a few other admin girls that they were shagging and I’d say about 25% of our department know.

She came in this morning dressed like she was going into an executive board meeting for a Fortune 500 company.

I’m utterly utterly fucked off with hearing about people getting jobs and being promoted for shagging the managers. How are these men still in a job!! HOW?!

I’m going to end up being sacked or walking out, I cannot take orders from someone with very basic admin knowledge of our department I just fucking can’t . She came into our office earlier to ask if she could take our fan as it was needed in her office . A fan owned by a staff member. God this is just going to be the start of it

Can’t you complain to HR and ask them to investigate these claims?

What size is your organisation? If large, complain to HR.

Very large

Almost one of the largest in the uk

Get on to HR as soon as you can.

This does not surprise me.

Are you public sector?

HR anonymously or with my real name

The person who owned the fan didn’t even look up from her desk. Just said “no” and carried on with her work . Argh gods I’m not going to be able to cope

Yes public sector

Well that’s ridiculous. It’s obviously not going to work out is it. I’d be making it my business to track down this managers wife and sending her an anonymous message detailing the situation.

Yes definitely complain to HR. Was the role advertised so that everyone could apply?

That's really shitty, OP.

From a purely bitchy point of view, if it were me, I'd send an anonymous letter to the manager's wife. She may know and is turning a blind eye. But maybe she doesn't know.

This is one isolated incident. Probably the third I’ve heard about this year. Fucking bloody men and the stupid women who shag them

Are you in a union? If not, join one pronto and get their advice... Was the opportunity to 'act up as a manager' advertised to other staff? If not, it seems even more dubious, iyswim...

Was the 'acting up' opportunity advertised and she applied, or was it just announced?

If it's a large company with defined HR policies, you could try going down the grievance route, but it would probably have to be from the angle that you didn't get the opportunity to apply for the role/applied and were unsuccessful despite having the right skills/experience - rather than from the angle 'my manager gave it to someone he is shagging'.

Or - you could look at it from a conflicts of interest point of view - a large company should have a COI register - you could contact HR and say you are aware of an undeclared COI that might have affected a recent appointment.

Interesting that this is in the public sector. I think the public sector is usually much less prone to this sort of thing than the private sector is.

How frustrating for you. Its bloody annoying but this sort of thing is as old of the hills. Absolutely its not right but its been going on since the beginning of time!

I would speak to both my manager and HR (don't email, it's the worst way to approach these things).

Focus on the fact that she has told other members of staff that she is shagging one of the senior managers and that this is now office gossip. Don't speculate on whether it's true or not, just that this is what she's been telling people.

Someone senior needs to speak to the manager.

There is a (slim) possibility that it isn't actually true, so I wouldn't consider contacting his wife at this point tbh.

You could also express your concerns her suitability for the role. Is it easy to demonstrate the mismatch between her experience and the demands of the role? Although if the decision to promote her has already been made, this is a harder route to go down.

In your own name: just set out factual info.

“Colleagues have been discussing that colleague A has stated to them that she is in a sexual relationship with colleague B. Colleague A has recently been promoted. Was the role advertised and did colleague B have any involvement in the selection of colleague A?”

You're not talking about Boris and his girlfriend are you

My first port of call would be an enquiry to HR about the job using her new job title - what the JD is, how the acting up was advertised and how long it will be before the substantive post was advertised. In some parts of the CS before promotion to a managerial type job can be awarded someone has to pass an assessment. Certainly from E grades to D grades, which I think is Admin Officer to Executive Officer in some parts of the CS.
Like Fifthtime I am surprised as the CS is pretty hot on this - NHS not so much IIRC. Are you signed up to your sector's job site (CS jobs, NHS jobs etc)?- it is not unknown for jobs not to be discussed widely in the office if someone has a pet candidate. However, I have aIso known all of the admin staff in the office to be emailed about a promotion opportunity . Bearing in mind the lack of promotion opportunities around I am surprised a large stink hasn't been created.
Is there a whistle blowing policy/procedure? How do you feel about using it?

HR
HR
HR
HR
Asap.
Do not let this slide.

NHS

Not advertised, person is she replacing is off on long term sick and she is filling in

@Ohfuckthefuckoff @sheshootssheimplores has this bang on! Make it a problem for the dumb ass penis-brained “manager” and his silly-little-girl assistant.

His wife needs to know anyway, so yup! Grass on her to the wife!

To be fair to a very young women in the workplace, she really needs to learn that this isn't the way to have a career. HR need to get involved.

Normally I’m unsure about involving the deceived spouses however that route is probably better than HR in terms of ensuring something gets done!