Why do women do this?

[jennymanara]

I have met two women in the last few weeks who both said when they met their DP, he was homeless. In both cases the men had been thrown out by their exes and were sofa surfing with friends. Within a few weeks of meeting these men, both women had let him move in with them.

These are both intelligent women and not very young. I am gobsmacked that anyone would think it is a good idea to let a man they barely know move in with them. So please help me understand why an intelligent woman who is not a naive young woman, would act this way?

I more or less moved in with now-DH as soon as we started dating, because I hated where I lived, and moved in officially after three months. We paid equally towards all the costs. I'm not sure what the big deal is? If it wasn't working out, and we'd broken up, I'd obviously have moved out, too? As it happened, we're still together 18 years later.

I moved in fairly quickly with DH too but a) I wasn’t homeless and b) I’d known him for a few years already

Often men like this meet these women for the first time and move in rapidly because they have nowhere to live. Even if they’re genuine, it’s not a great way to start a relationship.