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Hand holds please, DH in hospital

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MartinBlank · 21/07/2019 23:38

I've NCd. Not really sure why but this is just all a bit real and I want it separate.

DH started to feel really unwell around 4.30. We've all been fighting a virus for days so he thought he'd just had a bit of a relapse. But had an insect bite that was burning to the touch and when I took his temp it was 39.9. Called 111. They sent him to nearest urgent care centre. UCC said they weren't sure if it was just infected bite or sepsis. Sent him to bigger hospital. He had to drive himself as we have 1 and 3 year old and nobody nearby.

His battery was low when he set out. Stayed in touch while he could to say he had had bloods and urine taken but had to turn off phone to save battery. Turned it back on 10 minutes ago to say he'd had chest xray looking for sepsis and is now on antibiotic drip.

I'm getting really scared. It's worse because he can't communicate now. Phone has only 4%. Can call hospital for updates but can't keep doing that.

Nearest relatives are PIL 1.5 hours away. They are brilliant and will drop everything as soon as I need them but don't know what to do about asking them to come. Want to be at hospital as soon as I can but also don't want to take them. Might be really scary for them.

I'm rambling now. Trying not to panic and I think MN is my best bet not to right now.

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HollowTalk · 21/07/2019 23:42

Oh you poor things. Of all the time for a battery to die! Please don't feel you can't speak to the hospital about him. As long as you're not calling every ten minutes, they really won't mind.

I hope he's okay.

OldAndWornOut · 21/07/2019 23:43

What a worry for you.
Do you know the ward your husband is on?
The staff there may be able to find him a phone charger.

foreverhanging · 21/07/2019 23:43

One of the staff might have a phone charger for him

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EllJ · 21/07/2019 23:43

Do your best not to panic. The hospital can and will contact you if they need to. whilst they're testing him etc. it's likely they'd have you sitting in a side or family type room anyway just until they get to the route of things.
Have you made your PIL aware? It would be good for them to be aware and ready to set off first thing tomorrow so you can get to him.

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 21/07/2019 23:45

I’d ask your pil to come and look after dc so you can go to hosp. Or do you have any friends you can ask?

Hope your dh is ok.

Xiaoxiong · 21/07/2019 23:46

Do you have any neighbours or parents of kids around you that you know from nursery/playgroup who could sit with the kids until your PILs arrive so you could go to the hospital with a charger? We did this for a neighbor who knocked on our door at 2am when his wife was blue lighted to hospital, it was the least we could do.

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MartinBlank · 21/07/2019 23:47

I have spoken to PIL. They said to call on them as soon as I needed. They are always up early because of their dogs so I know anytime after 6 is fine for them.

He probably will have thought to ask about a charger but he has the newer Samsung which has a specific one and not the standard Android one.

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ineedaholidaynow · 21/07/2019 23:47

I thought hospitals provided phone chargers where possible.

How well do you know your neighbours? If one of my neighbours with young children was in this position I would help out and baby sit.

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MartinBlank · 21/07/2019 23:49

We haven't lived here too long. Have one very old friend nearby who has said he can come.over anytime. DC haven't seen him that much though so I couldn't leave with them asleep as they would be really freaked out waking up with someone they don't really know.

Have one mum friend in the village who if she is around I could ask to watch them in the morning

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namechanged2000 · 21/07/2019 23:50

Ask the staff for a phone charger. There will be a box full of them in on the ward.

I'm so sorry op, must be a really stressful time.

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MartinBlank · 21/07/2019 23:51

Same for at least one neighbour. She would definitely watch them tomorrow I think.

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andrea315 · 21/07/2019 23:51

If it was me I know I wouldn’t be sleeping so I would put children in the car drive to hospital give him a big kiss and a phone charger drive home and go back tomorrow when pil arrive

Bookworm4 · 21/07/2019 23:52

Phone the hospital for an update then try and get some sleep. Ask Pil to come in morning and then you can go to DH.

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MartinBlank · 21/07/2019 23:53

I've thought about it andrea but I need to balance that against totally disrupting and possibly scaring them.

I'm not even trying to sleep right now but probably should.

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summerdown · 21/07/2019 23:54

I agree with pp, put the kids in the car and take him the charger. Otherwise you’ll be worrying constantly and not sleep at all

Herocomplex · 21/07/2019 23:56

The hospital will absolutely get in touch with you if they’re concerned.
How would you get there if you were going? When you go is there things you need to take with you? Collect those things now - phone charger, toothbrush, pjs, snacks.

Bookworm4 · 21/07/2019 23:56

Please don’t drag your DC out of their beds and upset them, phone get update and rest.
The hospital will have your number if your needed, PP suggesting getting kids up are daft, no need for that level of drama.

Herocomplex · 21/07/2019 23:57

If your car is parked there you might need to feed the meter tomorrow as well, collect up some change.

andrea315 · 21/07/2019 23:59

I have done it myself before and daughter was fine they won’t remember it after a few days and your mind will be at rest
Otherwise I can’t see you sleeping and being much good tomorrow for him

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MartinBlank · 22/07/2019 00:00

Phone rang out. Main switchboard is a recording where you have to say what department you want. I said A&E as I assume he went there but I don't actually know.

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MartinBlank · 22/07/2019 00:00

Herocomplex that's one thing we don't have to worry about. He actually works there and has a staff permit.

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summerdown · 22/07/2019 00:00

I didn’t see it as drama- but I’ve got my dc out of bed for all sorts of reasons- collecting dh from broken down train or older dc from a failed night out. It would hardly scar them if you said we need to take some things to hospital. It depends if you make it dramatic

HollowTalk · 22/07/2019 00:01

Could you ask your local taxi firm if someone could deliver his charger to his ward? I know that he will probably be asleep now but it would help you to sleep.

andrea315 · 22/07/2019 00:02

If it’s sepsis @Bookworm4 there is nothing daft about it at all !
Everyone is different but if it was me one night of disruption for my children to so I could go to my husband wouldn’t worry me

user1486131602 · 22/07/2019 00:10

Was the insect bite, a tick maybe!
Limes disease has most of the symptoms you mentioned.
Sepsis usually includes vomiting and cold fever!
I hope he’s better soon and you can relax. Xx

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