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Hand holds please, DH in hospital

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MartinBlank · 21/07/2019 23:38

I've NCd. Not really sure why but this is just all a bit real and I want it separate.

DH started to feel really unwell around 4.30. We've all been fighting a virus for days so he thought he'd just had a bit of a relapse. But had an insect bite that was burning to the touch and when I took his temp it was 39.9. Called 111. They sent him to nearest urgent care centre. UCC said they weren't sure if it was just infected bite or sepsis. Sent him to bigger hospital. He had to drive himself as we have 1 and 3 year old and nobody nearby.

His battery was low when he set out. Stayed in touch while he could to say he had had bloods and urine taken but had to turn off phone to save battery. Turned it back on 10 minutes ago to say he'd had chest xray looking for sepsis and is now on antibiotic drip.

I'm getting really scared. It's worse because he can't communicate now. Phone has only 4%. Can call hospital for updates but can't keep doing that.

Nearest relatives are PIL 1.5 hours away. They are brilliant and will drop everything as soon as I need them but don't know what to do about asking them to come. Want to be at hospital as soon as I can but also don't want to take them. Might be really scary for them.

I'm rambling now. Trying not to panic and I think MN is my best bet not to right now.

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thaegumathteth · 22/07/2019 01:43

It’s good he’s so coherent - honestly when it was me I couldn’t even really think straight - I basically sat staring into space for ages! Tell him to make sure he’s drinking loads and to ask for info.

WomanLikeMeLM · 22/07/2019 01:43

Just phone the ward for updates, no big deal really, your DH will be getting treatment and assessed and monitored overnight so need for you to panic.

WomanLikeMeLM · 22/07/2019 01:47

Speaking as an A&E nurse, it is not appropriate to wake sleeping children up, put them in a car snd come to A&E in the middle of the night just to give a phone charger over. We do have phones patients can use!!
Stop all the drama, all it does is make @MartinBlank panic more. There is nothing that cant wait until the morning.

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SaraNade · 22/07/2019 02:19

My thoughts are with you, it is very scary having someone you love take ill. The worst part though, is the non-communication. I think that's standard where ever you are. No one tells you anything and you have to wait for the doctor to come round which can be the next day, it is so frustrating.

As for children there? No way. Trust me, they always know when something is wrong. Children always know. They see the machines/cords daddy is hooked up to, and they will ask what is this. And why does he need it. Then there is the beeping of IV machines, blood pressure etc. It looks very scary to a child, and they pick up everything from the vibe of the room to the machines, to worried looks on mummy, to voice to....everything! They always know when something is truly wrong. Always. Good that you spared them and yourself from having to explain everything and comfort them.

Seahorseshoe · 22/07/2019 02:39

That's awful op. If it of any comfort, my 82 year old mum has had sepsis and pneumonia 3 times and recovered.

Could his parents come and watch the children whilst you sit with him? It would benefit him having someone with him and to take his charger, pj's, boxers, toiletries to him.

All the best, wishing him a speedy recovery 💐

SageYourResoluteOracle · 22/07/2019 03:27

Just wanted to pop on to say that DH has had sepsis 3 times and it wasn't actually referred to as being sepsis, but a serious infection so you may not get a 'diagnosis' per se. Very glad he's in the right place though. And I've done 3 nights of being awake feeling sick to my stomach with worry- I can imagine exactly how you must feel. Twice we actually did have to get DD up and drop at friends for sleepovers as I knew an adult male on a Saturday night wouldn't be likely to be given an ambulance so drove DH myself. But you've done the right thing by keeping your wee ones tucked up in bed for now. Handhold for you @MartinBlank and hope you've at least had a bit of rest.

YvonneMyBelle · 22/07/2019 03:36

I’m really glad he’s able to get in touch OP. I don’t think if you are really poorly with sepsis you are in any state to be texting so that’s a good sign! Hopefully he’ll be home soon and it is great that he is able to try and improve communications by the hospital going forward.

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MartinBlank · 22/07/2019 06:08

Thank you to all.

Just as I was waking up after a fitful 3 hours if sleep he sent a message to say he's on the way home.

Not sepsis in the end. It really helped having this thread. Thank you.

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MartinBlank · 22/07/2019 06:35

He's home. Has had 45 mins sleep. On a load of antibiotics that are making him vomit. It is a blood infection but he has been sent home for now.

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mygrandchildrenrock · 22/07/2019 07:26

Glad to hear, hopefully you’ll both get some sleep today! Don’t forget to let your PIL know not to come over, unless they could still come and watch the children while you and your OH get some sleep.

MLMsuperfan · 22/07/2019 08:39

Poor DH and poor you. What an ordeal.

DaisyChainsGetBroken · 22/07/2019 10:10

If he cant keep down antibiotics at all then go back

starflake · 22/07/2019 10:26

Yes he may need to ring hospital to say he's vomitting. The antibiotics may not be staying down. I had similar but it was pain meds I kept vomitting after, hospital had to prescribe me anti sickness tablets so I could absorb some of the pain meds for pain relief.

Mysteriously · 22/07/2019 10:32

I thought sepsis was a infection?

Mysteriously · 22/07/2019 10:32

*Blood infection that should say

fernandoanddenise · 22/07/2019 10:36

Could be cellulitis - really glad he’s on his way home

fernandoanddenise · 22/07/2019 10:38

Sorry AT home

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MartinBlank · 22/07/2019 11:25

It's all a bit confusing. They said at the hospital a blood infection but didn't say sepsis. But had mentioned it before and didn't say it wasn't sepsis. Are there other types of blood infections?

Definitely blood not skin though so not cellulitis. Just got back with three different types of antibiotics and immodium on pharmacist's recommendation. He was only sick once and said it was more dry retching than anything so I think he should be absorbing the drugs ok.

Thank you again to everyone who has been on here. It was a massive help in the scary small hours.

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PurpleWithRed · 22/07/2019 11:36

Hope someone more medical than me can come along and help with this...

There is a lot of confusing stuff out there about sepsis, septicaemia, blood poisoning and blood infections. This is partly because understanding of sepsis has moved along a lot in the past 3 years.

Sepsis is when you are trying to fight off a big infection and your body's response goes into hyperdrive and accidentally starts attacking everything including good things rather than just focusing on the infection. This causes lots of unpleasant problems, as you can imagine.

A blood infection is a nasty infection in the bloodstream: this could trigger sepsis, but it might not. And it seems in your DHs case it hasn't triggered sepsis thank goodness.

Hope he recovers well

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MartinBlank · 22/07/2019 12:12

Thank you purple. That makes sense and is really helpful.

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Rachelover40 · 22/07/2019 12:55

I'm delighted he is home. I hope he recovers quickly.

for you and him.
for you and for him when he has finished antibiotics.

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