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Neighbour on Tinder WWYD

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usernametaken01 · 21/07/2019 17:42

Hello!
I moved house a couple of years ago, and met my neighbour shortly after. Thought he was gorgeous but i was in a relationship, so have never taken any conversation past small talk.
He is aware I had a boyfriend, although I lived alone.
However I've now split from my boyfriend and recently gone on Tinder, where I have seen my neighbours profile. I closed the app without swiping so I guess he's still hanging around on there?
He's same age as me and I find him attractive, however he lives in my building...has potential to be awkward AF.
Should I swipe left or right?! He may have already seen me and discarded me anyway 😂
What would you do?

OP posts:
SophiaLarsen · 24/07/2019 07:48

Your message did not directly invite a reply. He jay be waiting for you to say more. As you swiped right first (warning: no idea about Tinder) maybe he's waiting for you to actually invite him out?

Whitecandle · 24/07/2019 07:59

Oh I'd be itching at my seat OP if I was you. I can't do the waiting game lol

SubisYodrethwhenLarping · 24/07/2019 09:00

If you are downstairs from him, does he walk past your door going down the stairs or is it a lift or are there corridors to your door?

Do you know if he works regular hours like Mon - Fri 8-6pm or shifts?

So could he be at work or sleeping after his shift?

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lololove · 24/07/2019 09:04

Seconding the hope for the Frank butcher esque spinning bow tie, not like he has to pass people on the street so can get away with it Grin

Likethebattle · 24/07/2019 09:11

Ah he’s playing it cool. Bloody hate that.

Likethebattle · 24/07/2019 09:15

When I first started dating DH he was always responsive. In fact I used to have to clear messages as I ran out of space (pre smart phones). One night nada, nothing I thought ‘oh i’ve been dumped!’ I has sent three lighthearted texts then stopped to keep my dignity a bit. The I got a message ‘SORRY SORRY SORRY phone fell out my pocket in the car. I’fe Just torn my flat apart trying to find it!’ Hopefully he’s just been too busy to look at his phone x

letsdolunch321 · 24/07/2019 09:35

Can you tell if he has been online on the dating app?

katewhinesalot · 24/07/2019 09:41

Ask him on a specific date. Be wary. He could be playing games but give him the benefit of doubt this time.

MamaOfBothTeams · 24/07/2019 10:30

Has he replied yet?? 🤞🏻

IAmOnlyHereToReadTheComments · 24/07/2019 10:45

SWIPE (whatever way you need to get noticed!) I don't know how to work Tinder, 27 and been married since I was 19! Haha!!!!

shivermetimbers77 · 24/07/2019 11:05

I reckon do nothing at this point (hard though that is!). You sent the last message and its clear you fancy each other, so i would say wait for him to send the next one. It may be best to keep this one fairly relaced at the start anyway, particylarly if you arent just up for a booty call..keeping my fingers crossed it all goes well!

Theneverendingcleaningcycle · 24/07/2019 11:18

I'm now overly invested in this OP. Hope it works out!

Rivkka · 24/07/2019 12:48

I hate game players. Wait a day or so then forget him

ImMeantToBeWorking · 24/07/2019 14:43

@usernametaken01 firstly, well done for swiping on him. I love these kinds of threads!! I think if I had been on MN when I met DP I would have been here for the advice too!!

It has been so long since I was on tinder, but I know when I was I turned off notifications from coming up on my phone as I didn't want them popping up in work/college/home etc. Maybe he is the same. Or he doesn't know what else to say yet!! Don't message him again, you may seem over keen, he might rather talk to you face to face, you never know!

I hope it all works out for you!!

Ramalambadingdong · 24/07/2019 20:57

I keep checking here for an update too!

Whitecandle · 26/07/2019 09:30

Any updates OP?

wineandsunshine · 26/07/2019 09:41

Shamelessly following...how exciting!!!

Weenurse · 26/07/2019 09:46

👀🍿

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usernametaken01 · 26/07/2019 11:30

No updates 😩 he hasn't messaged me again?!
I guess he must just not be that into me?
I was the last to message so was waiting for him to message again, but I've had nothing.
Was excited after his initial message of 'only been waiting 18 months!' as I thought it showed genuine interest but I must have got it wrong Blush

OP posts:
userxx · 26/07/2019 12:20

Online dating talk can be extremly charming and smooth but often results in nothing!!! Dont bother waiting for a reply, if he was that into you he would have knocked on your door and asked you out for a date.

You need to deveop a thick skin for OLD.

MoreNiceCereal · 26/07/2019 12:29

Ah well, op. Keep swiping. It probably is better not to date someone in your building....

Ticklemeelmo · 26/07/2019 13:14

That sucks. No figuring men out sometimes. Best to carry on dating other guys for now I'd say

Papayalady · 26/07/2019 13:22

I think online dating is rubbish, and misleading. My sister-in-law moved in opposite to my brother's flat and made the first move. They're now married and very happy. I think just invite him out for a drink, if he declines you'll know for sure, and you can move on. Life's short, just go for it. X

ImMeantToBeWorking · 26/07/2019 13:55

What's for you will not pass you. Keep swiping and you never know when you will meet Mr. Right!

Whitecandle · 26/07/2019 14:18

I would message again personally! What have you got to lose? If he ignores you fine, let him be rude 😊 X