Knife and fork, how do you push food onto fork?!

[BiscuitDrama]

DH and I have decided the other is odd.

He noticed that if we’re eating something where we need to push our food onto a fork (which I know is a bit plebby full stop) we do it the opposite way round.

He asked me to ask you which way round you do it.

So do you push from far away, toward you and the fork (red arrows) or do you push away from you (yellow arrows).

Or do you have no clue what I’m talking about?

Oh... and I shovel towards my mouth

Msmith, it's a middle class anxiety thing. Appropriating upper class niceties.

I eat my peas with honey
I've done it all my life
It makes the peas taste funny
But it keeps them on the knife

Red arrow shovelling for me!

'Etiquette snobs?'
No.... just standards .

Red arrows

Red arrows, but I’m a gobbly shoveller

It's not snobby to eat properly with good manners, it's slovenly not too.
if I shovelled my food my kids would have told me off they knew how to use cutlery properly when they were about 4, before this they shovelled as was easier for little hands.

Red. Yellow make no sense to me at all .
I also enjoy shovelling rice risotto etc. Fork round the posh way when I'm stabbing something to eat with it.

Oh, and I'm a gypsy living in a van, we are particular about manners.

Use a piece of bread to pick up the last bit of risotto.

The bread can also be used to wipe the plate

Back to my point though... who determined long ago what constituted good manners when it comes to using a fork?

Debretts probably.

I wouldn't eat risotto with a knife and fork. Risotto, pasta, curry are eaten with a spoon and fork in this house.

@Paramicha - I get your point about your kids telling you off if you had done something that went against what they have been taught when they were younger, but it still raises the point that they have learned what is "correct" from you and the other adults around them, which is great, and likewise you will have learned from your parents and so on. BUT who decided way back in your family that one way was correct and the other wasn't?... and by extension, who has decided for a nation or even the world that tines down is the correct way when historically, the original forks evolved to be used tines up? Surely here is no right?

I do draw the line at people eating off their knives though ever since a friend at school actually slices open their tongue. Horrible sight.

Spoon def for curry, chilli, risotto, bolognase etc. The right (not "correct") tool for the job.

Both of your forks are upside down. They’re not to be used as shovels.
This ^
But if I was going to shovel I’d do it the red way.

God, I'm going to have to hide this thread it's giving me palpitations.

both depending on where the food is on the plate.

Bet my pension that those dictating tines down are middle class but only a generation or two from working class backgrounds. It’s about being aspirational. ‘Tis snobbery and insecurity at its best.

pushing food onto the back of the fork just doesn't make sense at all.
and it looks very very silly.

the fork is formed like a shovel for a reason

Why can't they be used as shovels? Is it because it's bad manners or uncouth... OK.. so, who has decided that it is bad manners or uncouth? It's easy to say "it's wrong"... but why is it wrong? My theory is simply that it goes against what some of us have been taught - that alone does not make it wrong if the original teaching was flawed and based on prejudice or similar thoughts as to what might be right based on nothing much at all.

@ihopeyoucakeisshit me too - can't even look at the photo without imagining the hunched-over recipient of the shovelling...

Put your fork facing down, push the food up the back of the fork.

That's just unnecessarily difficult and silly. And ridiculous.

Gosh, eating curry and bolognese with a spoon? Quick...fan me down I can’t take it!
OP, is turn my fork upside down and push the food onto my fork but out of the two ways you show, the red arrows make most sense, are you the red arrows?

just the fact that you snobs guys say 'back of the fork' implies that it's the wrong way round