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Would you recognise someone you shagged a decade ago?

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Holenewme · 09/07/2019 21:17

I was seeing someone very casually for a few months about a decade ago. We probably saw shagged each other a dozen or so times.

I was at an event today with my friend and this man was there signing some stuff as he’s written a book. I thought it would be amusing to buy his book and ask him to address it to the pet name he used to call me. Not a sex name or anything, he misheard my name when we first met, thought I was called Umbobo when I actually have a very boring English name.

I queue up, he says hello, I ask him to address it to Umbobo, he asks how to spell it, I spell it, he tells me to have a lovely day and off I go. There was absolutely no recognition at all! My friend thought it was fucking hilarious and I sort of laughed it off but am a little bit gutted.

He was the only really casual relationship I’ve ever had and I do did remember it fondly. I guess if you’ve been shagging a different person every couple of months for the last decade though you can’t be expected to remember them all. I like to think I was one of the memorable ones though. Or at least the nickname would have jogged his memory. Pfft.

OP posts:
Cookit · 10/07/2019 13:25

@notacooldad that’s hilarious!

And yes OP, go for a drink!

Awrite · 10/07/2019 13:32

At least you can read the book now.

PippiDeLena · 10/07/2019 13:33

This definitely happened:

Troglod

He’ll sit bolt upright in the night and say ‘Umbobo’.

Go for drinks and then please report back; we are all invested in this forbidden love affair between an author and his Umbobo.

sheshootssheimplores · 10/07/2019 13:36

Aaaaah, if you’re both single then yes, meet for a drink 👌

RogueV · 10/07/2019 13:40

Brilliant go for it!

Frownette · 10/07/2019 13:43

Is it only me who thinks there's nothing wrong with catching up with someone you used to know even if they're the opposite sex and you've shagged them?!

It doesn't have to be romantic, it's just catching up on a previous time in their lives

Magenta82 · 10/07/2019 13:45

I'm fairy certain I wouldn't recognise any of my past casual flings.

Its cute that he remembered you, are you going to take him up on the offer?

TremblingFanjo · 10/07/2019 13:46

DO IT!!!

letsrunfar · 10/07/2019 13:56

In my minds eye I can remember pretty much everyone I've had sex with bar two or three. Is that recognition accurate? Who knows.

Would I know all/any of them if we passed in the street or met at a function ten years or more later? Not sure about that....would like to think I would instantly know at least some.

OddHoleySocks · 10/07/2019 14:02

Definitely go for a drink! (and then let us know how it went..)

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 10/07/2019 14:42

I'm crap at recognising faces, but recently clocked someone I went out with for about two months 9 years ago. Think he recognised me but neither said anything as we passed in the street. Completely unexpected as we have each moved to the same city by coincidence (not the nearest to the one we both lived in at the time).

Holenewme · 10/07/2019 15:59

I’m single but have only been single for a couple of months. Married for 8 years prior to that. I’m going to go for a drink with him I think.

OP posts:
Eliza9919 · 10/07/2019 16:07

You have to go op!

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 10/07/2019 16:11

You have to go!

Also am I the only one trying to work out wtf the OP's name is?

IncrediblySadToo · 10/07/2019 16:12

Have fun !!

Spidey66 · 10/07/2019 16:12

Good on you!

I'd remember someone I shagged 10 years ago. Oh hang on, still married to him!

livefornaps · 10/07/2019 16:17

Punching the air with delight over here - great thread!!!!

Tatapie · 10/07/2019 16:19

Excellent! EnjoyGrin

TigerJoy · 10/07/2019 16:20

Yes! Do it! How exciting.

And just read the first chapter or two of the book. Enough that you can tell him what you liked about it, not so much you look like a bunny boiler.

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 10/07/2019 16:21

I’m always the author in this situation. I don’t recall people’s faces at all 😂 If they say “My name is Ted” or whatever I have lots of memories but if not, you’re a blank x 😂 Sorry 😐 x

PandaG · 10/07/2019 16:25

In reply to the thread title, yes, I'm still married to him!

No harm in going for that drink, as long as you split up on amicable terms. :)

TemporaryPermanent · 10/07/2019 16:36

Not sure tbh - I'm appalling at faces.

I'd get your best underwear on...

Progress2019 · 10/07/2019 17:06

Lots and lots of ordinary names are running through my head, but not one sounds anything like Umbobo. I’d love to know!

Lllot5 · 10/07/2019 17:12

Really!! Definitely go absolutely go.
Best thing I’ve heard in ages. Go.
Oh and don’t forget to report back. Grin

x2boys · 10/07/2019 17:26

Strangely enough I think I walked passed an ex one night stand today probably from about 15 years as I have been with dh . for 14 years ,not 100% sure it was him .

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