Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Would you recognise someone you shagged a decade ago?

80 replies

Holenewme · 09/07/2019 21:17

I was seeing someone very casually for a few months about a decade ago. We probably saw shagged each other a dozen or so times.

I was at an event today with my friend and this man was there signing some stuff as he’s written a book. I thought it would be amusing to buy his book and ask him to address it to the pet name he used to call me. Not a sex name or anything, he misheard my name when we first met, thought I was called Umbobo when I actually have a very boring English name.

I queue up, he says hello, I ask him to address it to Umbobo, he asks how to spell it, I spell it, he tells me to have a lovely day and off I go. There was absolutely no recognition at all! My friend thought it was fucking hilarious and I sort of laughed it off but am a little bit gutted.

He was the only really casual relationship I’ve ever had and I do did remember it fondly. I guess if you’ve been shagging a different person every couple of months for the last decade though you can’t be expected to remember them all. I like to think I was one of the memorable ones though. Or at least the nickname would have jogged his memory. Pfft.

OP posts:
RogueV · 09/07/2019 22:38

He’ll sit bolt upright in the night and say ‘Umbobo’

Grin
Longdistance · 09/07/2019 22:39

He knew who you were. He was trying to be ‘professional’. Honestly, I’ve seen a few exes out and about. Without saying much it was more their actions that they knew who I was.

theworldistoosmall · 09/07/2019 22:49

At my mans house a few weeks ago and his mate is there. Looks at me and says I know you from somewhere. Didn't recognise him and said don't think so.
It bugged this guy and kept coming back asking if I'd ever been this place.
Yup, had a fling with him for a couple of months many many years ago. He said he wasn't surprised I didn't recognise him and before my guy jumped to conclusions, started showing old pictures of what he did look like. Imagine the Prince turning into the frog Grin

Holenewme · 10/07/2019 12:49

Ha! You were right, he sent me a FB message this morning. He said he didn’t recognise me but realised who I was the minute I said Umbobo. Then he was too mortified to look up because he thought he’d crack up laughing.

Anyway, he’s asked me out for a drink. Shall I?

OP posts:
Summertimeatthebeach · 10/07/2019 12:53

Def go op. If you are single.
And if you are as gymnastic as you once were!
He isn't wanting to discuss his book I imagine!

Frownette · 10/07/2019 12:58

Really??? Def go for a drink! How funny!

theworldistoosmall · 10/07/2019 12:59

Of course if you still fancy him

Frownette · 10/07/2019 13:00

(You'll have to read the book first, mind)

Blueuggboots · 10/07/2019 13:00

OMG! Yeah, go!! 😂😂

Paddy1234 · 10/07/2019 13:01

Hell yes 😂

NameChangeNugget · 10/07/2019 13:02

Yeah go.

TheRLodger · 10/07/2019 13:04

Go but read book first.
Please update us on how drinks go

WidoWanky · 10/07/2019 13:04

Go!! Life is too short to turn things down!

BlameItOnBianca · 10/07/2019 13:08

Ooh this is exciting! Go and report back please.

Jsmith99 · 10/07/2019 13:09

I certainly wouldn’t remember everyone I drunkenly shagged when I was a student. There were quite a few of them Blush, it was a very, very long time ago, and I wouldn’t expect them to remember me either.

WalkofShame · 10/07/2019 13:13

@growlingbear

You beat me to it!

MonkeyTrap · 10/07/2019 13:14

You probably look different too and he won’t have been totally relaxed but likely putting on his phone voice

SuzieQ10 · 10/07/2019 13:15

Haha, knew he'd have remembered you, that's a memorable pet name.
Let us know how it goes! If you do meet him.

user27495824 · 10/07/2019 13:16

I think I can remember all my one night stands but there are probably a couple I wouldn't recognise. In fact once I was really drunk and didn't recognise a one night stand when he was chatting to me in a club... It was so embarrassing. Well I did recognise him but thought it was his mate that I'd shagged previously... I asked him his name and that gave the game away. I saw him again at an event many years later and he made a point of introducing himself to me to the whole group. Blush

However, more than once id definitely remember. A causal relationship is really odd to not remember, how strange?! Maybe he has that face blindness thing.

mumofthemonsters808 · 10/07/2019 13:17

Yeah go and have fun.

I think recognising people from old, mostly depends upon how kind the years have been to you, I really struggle with people whose appearance has changed drastically, especially when the only thing that has not changed is their eyes.

user27495824 · 10/07/2019 13:17

Missed your reply! Why did the relationship not progress before and are you single? Oh who cares, go for the drink!

TJH1 · 10/07/2019 13:19

Deffo got to go👍

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 10/07/2019 13:21

Yes I could remember someone I saw for a few months! I don’t believe anyone couldn’t

However I had a couple of drunken one nighters, we shagged and I left once they were asleep. if my life depended on it I can’t identity them now.

From your update if you & he are single and you want to go for that drink......

HippyTrails · 10/07/2019 13:22

yes - definitely go for the drink, you parted on good terms after all so why not catch up with an old friend

Cookit · 10/07/2019 13:23

Honestly I wouldn’t Blush. I vaguely remember faces but 10 years on they’d look a bit different and I don’t think I would.