This feels very unfair?

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We live an hour from my parents. 10 minutes from PIL.
My mum has said a few times that had we lived by her she would have happily given up work to have my kids whilst I worked. She works in a nursery despite being able to afford not to work and loves her job so I beleive she would have done this.
As it happens, we live too far away (our choice we chose to live here) to provide regular childcare and as they have a hobby that takes up alot of weekends, we see them maybe once a month and they have the kids for the weekend every few months.
PIL have DS after school once a week and have both kids overnight on average once every 6 weeks. MIL used to watch DD one day a week until she got her 30 free hours.
DH often makes comments about how much more his parents help with the kids than mine.
Admittedly their hobby takes away alot of time that I wish we could spend with them, but its not like we can drop the kids with them for a few hours like we can with PIL. It is 2 hours of driving to see my parents and that was our decision not theirs!
Is he being unfair or is he justified? I would love to see my parents more but they have an active life (and both work) whereas PIL really don't.

He is being unfair.
Next time he says this, I'd say, "Well lets move closer to mine then, they want to help more but are too far away"
He'll huff and puff and say no and you can say "STFU about who does more than who then, seeing as they are a two hour round trip drive away, not much can be done, can it?"

Ask him what he suggests they do to redress the balance?

Thanks Troels. I am definitley going to have it out next time. He wouldn't dream of moving closer to them so not sure what he expects?

What he wants is for my parents to have no life and be at our beck and call like his mum is.
I feel sorry for MIL as everyone, including DH treats her like a scivvy. He suggests we go somewhere and books it before even asking his mum if she can have the kids. He knows she will say yes because she has spent her entire adult lif being conditioned to run around after others and agree to do whatever is asked of her.