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should you Love you Spouse or child more ???

86 replies

daddykool99 · 30/06/2019 10:23

this question is being asked to show other peoples opinion to a couple who argue constantly about the question , obviously they BOTH think their opinion in RIGHT !!!! (pending divorce)

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georgie262 · 30/06/2019 10:26

I love my husband and my children in so completely different ways that it is incomparable.

Soola · 30/06/2019 10:27

The definitive answer is pets.

AnotherEmma · 30/06/2019 10:30

It's a different kind of love.
My love for my son is unconditional.
My love for my husband is conditional.
If I could only save one I would save my son.
But I hope to spend the rest of my life with my husband, even after our children have grown up and left home.

NoCureForLove · 30/06/2019 10:30

It is the question that is wrong.

FlibbertyGiblets · 30/06/2019 10:32

Keep out of it OP. Don't get involved in other peoples squabbles, that's my take. HTH.

moonpiggle · 30/06/2019 10:32

What *AnotherEmma said

beachcomber70 · 30/06/2019 10:34

Your Husband and your child are both drowning, which one will you save? Assuming you love them both intensely.

Same loaded question.

shinynewapple · 30/06/2019 10:36

As anotherEmma says - but also - keep out of other people's arguments!!!

riotlady · 30/06/2019 10:37

Different but equal

Branleuse · 30/06/2019 10:39

ive loved my partner obsessively and passionately over the years, but its a different sort of love than for my children which is as close to unconditional as i can imagine, whereas with my partner, there are many things he could do and I would tell him to fuck off.

If someone puts a partner over their child or children, then they are a shit parent.

OrchidFlakes · 30/06/2019 10:39

AnotherEmma is spot on. My DS are my life and I love them in a way beyond words. My DH is the centre of our universe as a family and I could never choose between them for the sake of an argument but in tragic circumstances I would save my DS’s and want him to do the same.

DisputedChair · 30/06/2019 10:40

It’s a deeply stupid question.

Yellowcar2 · 30/06/2019 10:41

Totally agree with AnotherEmma

MunchMunch · 30/06/2019 10:42

Exactly what AnotherEmma said.
Wish there was a like button...

ChesterDrawsDoesntExist · 30/06/2019 10:42

Another one saying what @AnotherEmma said.

Children - unconditional
Husband - conditional.

Love them all madly truly deeply but both husband and I would give our dying breaths to save our kids.

Love51 · 30/06/2019 10:44

Children ask this question, in various ways, about themselves and their siblings. I'm trying to get my 5 yo to understand that if my 7 year old gets something different to him, it doesn't devalue what he gets. I can't imagine having to explain this to my adult spouse.
My love for my children is an extension of my love for my husband, and his love for them is an extension of his love for me. We aren't competing with our children for our spouses' love, we want our children to be very loved, knowing it doesn't diminish our spouse's love for us.
Long story short
Love isn't a zero sum game

AlexaShutUp · 30/06/2019 10:44

If I'm brutally honest about it, I love my dd more than I love my DH. I assume that he feels the same way.

My love for dd is unconditional, and nothing will ever change that. I would readily give up my own life in order to save hers.

My love for dh is conditional. If he treated me badly, I would walk away. I would sacrifice a lot for him, but I wouldn't give up my own life.

If I could only save one of them, I'd save dd.

Personally, I think it's the natural order of things for parents to love their children more than they love anyone else.

Ninkaninus · 30/06/2019 10:45

Completely different types of love, completely incomparable.

I don’t believe that children should get all your time, love, attention and affection though, if that helps to answer the question. Your OH and your relationship with him/her should take priority sometimes.

ThePurpleHeffalump · 30/06/2019 10:48

The point of an opinion is that people have different ones, which is where an opinion should differ from a fact. So they are both right.

AnotherEmma · 30/06/2019 10:48

I suppose I do love DS "more" because it's the fierce pure love of a mother. But I choose to love DH, which is powerful in its own way.

Apileofballyhoo · 30/06/2019 10:48

Love them both but DS's needs come first as he is a child and DH is an adult.

Nonnymum · 30/06/2019 10:49

It's a different love. The love for children is unconditional. Nothing they do will make me stop loving them I may disapprove or not like their behaviour but I will always love them and always support them (they are adults now and that love hasn't changed) love for everyone else including partners is conditional. I may love them now but that doesn't mean I would continue loving them if they behaved very badly.

IvanaPee · 30/06/2019 10:50

It’s a different love so a stupid question.

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 30/06/2019 10:52

I love DD more, even when considering it's different types of love and what not.

VictoriaBun · 30/06/2019 10:54

Love both but have said to dh, if we were ever in a titanic situation i.e. save women and children first I would go with children.