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Do you still have feelings for your first boyfriend?

86 replies

knittedsock · 26/06/2019 08:52

I just woke up from a dream about my first boyfriend whom I was infatuated with... 20 years ago! He was a real arrogant arse, but I dream about him now and again. I woke up today with a thought of “awhhh what if Sad”

I have a dp! What is wrong with me?!

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CMOTDibbler · 26/06/2019 08:59

God no. I honestly have no idea why I went out with him

WitsEnding · 26/06/2019 09:04

I think about him sometimes, he was quite a bit older than me and died a few years ago. Mostly 'wtf was I doing with him' and would life have been different if I hadn't been semi-committed to him all those years.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 26/06/2019 09:05

Only a vague curiosity. After taking my virginity and breaking my heart the last I heard was that he'd changed his name to 'Dagonet' and run off to Stonehenge with a man who believed he was the reincarnation of King Arthur...you couldn't make it up!

BarryBarryTaylor · 26/06/2019 09:08

I Occasionally think about my first boyfriend I was 16/17, but only in the sense I wonder what he is doing now.
Then I remember what an arse he was to me and I have a little smile to myself knowing that I did the right thing by leaving him. (Happened to meet DH a couple of months later and 13yrs on we are still very much in love)

DearLady · 26/06/2019 09:13

Mine was gorgeous, tall, kissing to die for... Charm & wit all day long!
Now he’s married, with a Dadbod, and shares his crap jokes on FB...

powershowerforanhour · 26/06/2019 09:14

I did still fancy him for a few years after we split up but it faded into fondness. He lives far away and is married with children now, about the same age as mine. I've never met his wife but she looks cheerful and fun in the FB photos and I hope they live happily ever after :-)

adaline · 26/06/2019 09:15

I don't have feelings for him but I do have fond memories.

I would never ever get back with him though!

SoyDora · 26/06/2019 09:16

Yes, in the sense that I remember him fondly. But then we were together 7 years (age 16-23) and he was lovely, we just weren’t right together.

EmmaStone · 26/06/2019 09:17

Nostalgic fondness. We're friends on FB, and let's just say, I'm really grateful for the direction my life took! He seems happy though, recently married. Hoping he lives a long and very happy life with his wife and family.

hugoagogo · 26/06/2019 09:18

I look back fondly, but I know we were wrong for each other.

Buyitinbamboo · 26/06/2019 09:20

The same as Adaline... Fond memories but would never want to back back with him. I can appreciate he was a nice person but we weren't suited.

The ex after that... mainly just hatred.

ImMeantToBeWorking · 26/06/2019 09:21

I see my first boyfriend for a weekend once a year (it used to be a few weeks once a year). I cheated on him, told him when I broke up with him two days later and he still wanted to stay together and continued to try for years. 12 years later he still follows me around like a lost puppy and would drop everything to help me if I asked for it.

It is a running joke between my family and friends!!

I wouldn't take a second look at him now!

OhNoooNotAgain · 26/06/2019 09:22

No, not at all- but then I did marry the bugger, ah well... I've improved on my choices since 😂

SoyDora · 26/06/2019 09:23

Ah that sounds sad ImMeantToBeWorking, poor bloke. Is it wise to keep seeing him for a weekend a year? Maybe prevents him moving on?

dudsville · 26/06/2019 09:30

I do occasionally dream of someone I left. I left in a bad way. We were young, had got married, I was still in love with a previous bf. Left husband, got back with previous bf. In my entire life, considering all of the mistakes I've made, this is the one thing I regret. I should never have married that nice man. Poor guy. In dreams I'm just reminded how nice he was. They aren't dreams about getting back together, i don't harbour any secret longing, just what a fabulous human being he was.

Newmumma83 · 26/06/2019 09:32

Used to then I met up as friends later on in life and even talked to a fair bit ... he hadn’t changed a bit and I realised that he was just a tart 😂 doesn’t mean harm to anyone but literally hadn’t grown up at all x x x

Goodnightjude1 · 26/06/2019 09:32

Yes. Feelings of pure hatred.

namechangedforthis1980 · 26/06/2019 09:32

My first boyfriend ( 20 years ago) got back in touch last year and made me realise what a knob he really was....

SilverySurfer · 26/06/2019 09:34

Since it was nearly fifty years ago I don't even remember him, let alone still feelings for him.

Crustaceans · 26/06/2019 09:35

No. Until this thread, I hadn’t given him any thought whatsoever in many, many years. I don’t even think I was in love with him at any point.

Branleuse · 26/06/2019 09:37

I do sometimes wonder how hes getting on and would probably enjoy a catch up. I wish him well, but no, I fell out of love with him for all sorts of reasons, and that hasnt changed.

storynanny · 26/06/2019 09:39

Yes! 1974 when I was 17, but there is obviously a reason that we didnt make it past the end of 1975. I have my rose tinted glasses on. Thefe was a girl hovering in the background who quickly stepped in and apparently they have been happily married for nearly 40 years.
I was tempted a few years ago to send him a 60th birthday card but decided against it,

Monday55 · 26/06/2019 09:46

Had to go into deep thought to remember who he was and what we got up to. I Don't miss him & I think nothing of him.

amusedbush · 26/06/2019 09:46

Nope. Last I heard he is 35, still lives with his mum and is and going out with a 17 year old.

Happyspud · 26/06/2019 09:47

God no! And he was a lovely, kind, handsome, pretty sexy guy. But my DH is fabulouser😁