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Do you still have feelings for your first boyfriend?

86 replies

knittedsock · 26/06/2019 08:52

I just woke up from a dream about my first boyfriend whom I was infatuated with... 20 years ago! He was a real arrogant arse, but I dream about him now and again. I woke up today with a thought of “awhhh what if Sad”

I have a dp! What is wrong with me?!

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MonkeyTrap · 26/06/2019 14:12

No. but I do love stalking him on Facebook because his parents called me the bad influence and now he’s everything they hate

sheshootssheimplores · 26/06/2019 14:13

God no.

Leftielefterson · 26/06/2019 14:39

I think I do. I realise now after breaking up how great he actually was. The grass isn’t always greener.

Shockers · 26/06/2019 14:52

Weirdly, I also dreamt about my first boyfriend last night. I haven’t seen him in about 30 years and have no idea what he is doing, or where he is now.

I was at the wedding of my niece in the dream, and I was telling anyone who’d listen that my xbf was there. He looked just as he had at 21.

DMCWelshcakes · 26/06/2019 15:06

Yes. Which reminds me, I must check which one of us is picking up DC this evening & whether he's sorted them out for school disco tickets. Grin

ReturnofSaturn · 26/06/2019 15:19

Not at all.

Deadringer · 26/06/2019 15:23

No. And I am married to him.

Wincarnis · 26/06/2019 15:24

Hatred and regret that I ever met the bastard

Disfordarkchocolate · 26/06/2019 15:25

Fond memories but I don't remember his name or what he looked like.

BitchQueen90 · 26/06/2019 15:29

No. I think of him occasionally in a "wonder what he's up to now" but all my feelings for him are gone.

cottonwoolbrain · 26/06/2019 15:57

We're still in vague touch through social media but not seen him for years.

We split up but stayed friends for years. It just wasn't meant to be between us.

He was (and judging from recent photos still is) very good looking though - just not for me.

Anyway I've been with DP for 20 years and we've got two DCs and he's got a wife and 2 DCs of his own and we live 150 miles apart... don't think we'll be rekindling the relationship we had when we were 17 anytime soon :)

he was very good looking though

BlamesFartsOnTheNeighbour · 26/06/2019 16:13

Feelings, no. Fond memories, yes. He was a lovely lad. Actually I've just googled him, found a picture, and I still would Grin

jackparlabane · 26/06/2019 16:17

Nostalgic fondness, as a pp said. We're friends on Facebook with lots of friends in common - had a chat a few months ago. Lovely bloke but we weren't right for each other in that way.

tisonlymeagain · 26/06/2019 16:32

In short - yes, always had feelings. Now having a baby ShockGrin

AguerosAngel · 26/06/2019 16:33

Absolutely not. He was a violent, drug taking alcoholic who battered the shit out of me for 10 years, and had me too frightened to leave him.

The last I heard of him he was doing a 12 year prison sentence for stabbing his younger girlfriend.

I hope he dies soon. He’s vile.

Topseyt · 26/06/2019 16:34

Yes. He is now my DH of nearly 26 years.

Alloftit · 26/06/2019 16:43

I look back fondly really. He was lovely, kind, gentle, very tall and very handsome. A wonderful first boyfriend in most ways. We broke up after three years when I was eighteen because he used to get terribly jealous and I just wanted to be free Grin eight years later, I hope he’s happy, and I hope he finds what he’s looking for.

ChopinIn10Minuets · 26/06/2019 16:44

ImMeanttobeWorking are you actually Pandora Braithwaite? Grin

I have some fond memories of my first boyfriend, as well as realising that he treated me a bit rubbish when we were together (a 'not that into you' situation). We met up regularly just as friends for some years after I got together with my now DH, but children (mine) and marriage (his) meant priorities and people changed, and we don't/can't stay in touch very much any more.

GreenwoodLane · 26/06/2019 16:45

No feelings.
No fond memories.
Complete and utter twat.

PickAChew · 26/06/2019 16:47

Hell no.

He came out a few years after we split up for the millionth time, which in hindsight, didn't surprise me. I found his obituary a while back :(

BillywigSting · 26/06/2019 16:53

I still speak to mine occasionally and am quite fond of him but do shudder a bit at the thought of what we got up to and would most definitely never have any inclination to get back together with him. He has a long term partner now who is lovely and it's nice to see him happy (he was quite severely depressed when we were together)

TemporaryPermanent · 26/06/2019 16:57

Depends who counts as my first boyfriend. Brief 2 dates plus first shag get together? Urgh. First kiss? yes a few butterflies still. First proper going out boyfriend? Mild nostalgia and a ton of relief.

tierraJ · 26/06/2019 16:58

Definitely not!

After we broke up he met the girl who became his first wife, cheated on her, then married the OW. Children with both wives.

Pleasant.

DeadButDelicious · 26/06/2019 17:07

No. Looking back on it I have serious reservations about what 23 year old him wanted with barely 16 year old me.

ALongHardWinter · 26/06/2019 17:09

I occasionally dream about the first guy I ever dated. We dated for a few months way back in 1981,when I was 17 and he was 20. I met him at the college we both attended,and I fancied him like mad for about 6 months before he asked me out. I was devastated when he dumped me,but I soon recovered,moved on and was dating someone else within 3 weeks! I occasionally wonder what he's up to nowadays. I've tried finding him on Facebook,but he has a very common surname AND first name,so I've had no luck! But when I dream about him,the dreams are always,shall we say,a bit naughty Blush,even though I have no feelings for him now,other than an idle curiosity.