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What's the worst mansplaining you've ever been witness to?

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plantbased · 24/06/2019 17:29

Some bloke just mansplained my own business to me, a business I built myself, from scratch. I built the company, the website, the lot. Utter cockwomble! Obviously he knows better than my oestrogen addled brain grrr

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HappyLoneParentDay · 25/06/2019 01:34

@Twisique When on jury duty you're not permitted to disclose or discuss which case you're working on to ANYONE. So how could he have possibly known?

I'm not sure you understand mansplaining

Sparklfairy · 25/06/2019 01:35

My ex was utterly convinced that he could beat me in an IQ test, because I was a woman and men were naturally more intelligent. He mansplained this 'fact' and all about what an IQ test involves (despite the blank vacant look when i first mentioned it). The line that still makes me laugh is 'I'd smash the geography questions'.

user1493423934 · 25/06/2019 01:42

Not sure if this is mansplaining as such but once had a male friend do a rant on FB about how women shouldn't go to hospital to give birth because 'hospitals are for sick people and giving birth is isn't an illnesses . .' Hmmm have you actually ever given birth?!

Havalina · 25/06/2019 01:43

My then 8yo ds mansplained to me how to fix the laptop I had spent a few hours fixing ConfusedHmm

Where on earth does this attitude come from? It's so infuriating

carla1983 · 25/06/2019 01:44

@user1493423934

Lol. Men who offer advice about childbirth, they're the worst mansplainers of all.

They did their bit already. Maybe we could womensplain how to ejaculate properly to them, or how to get a woman pregnant? That's the equivalent really isn't it.

TakeBathsNotDrugs · 25/06/2019 01:45

While at nephews passing out parade, bil (no military history in family whatsoever) stands outside chatting to an officers wife having a cigarette, tells her she is mistaken about where she lives as he doesn't think there's barracks there. Three fucking times, she says "I know my address, I know where I live" and bil is "no it can't be there"

Nephew wanted ground to swallow him up.

managedmis · 25/06/2019 01:46

My FIL.

I used to think it was his personality, now I know it's just plain old misogyny in the form of mansplaining.

One of the more amusing ones was a teenager who was studying to be a chef explain to the unbeknownst to her clinical psychiatrist why ADHD drugs do not and never will work.

Psychiatrist had sense to stay quiet and just smile.

managedmis · 25/06/2019 01:50

and when my DP listens to my explanation/insight or opinion on something he knows little about and then repeats it back to me as if he just had a great thought?

^^

Yeah, is there a term for this? Other than dickhead, obv

user1493423934 · 25/06/2019 01:51

Carla he and his wife were very into homebirthing (she had all their DC at home). Good on them, thats their choice, but don't go on FB slating other peoples' choices! esp as you've never gone through childbirth yourself! I have had several friends who had home births but never felt the need to comment about it on social media.

Sparklfairy · 25/06/2019 02:03

What are the odds that all these men who mansplain that childbirth and periods aren't that bad are the same ones who take to their bed for a week with 'man flu' which is of course far worse than the exact same flu you've got and leaves you with the kids/chores/getting him Lemsip?Angry

Thisoneisme · 25/06/2019 02:04

I had a man explain to me (insist, in fact) what my full first name is (because my name is also a shortened version of a longer name). He wasn’t prepared to accept that he was incorrect and that I do know my own name and had both a birth certificate and passport to show it.

carla1983 · 25/06/2019 02:06

"What are the odds that all these men who mansplain that childbirth and periods aren't that bad are the same ones who take to their bed for a week with 'man flu' which is of course far worse than the exact same flu you've got and leaves you with the kids/chores/getting him Lemsip?angry"

@Sparklfairy - I spoke too soon. I said above in this thread that men who mansplain about childbirth are the worst.

I correct myself, men who mansplain that childbirth and periods "aren't that bad" are the actual worst. Honestly that could drive a woman to violence especially if she has something like endometriosis.

carla1983 · 25/06/2019 02:07

@Thisoneisme LOL. Oh this thread is pure gold.

DoctorDread · 25/06/2019 04:40

@carla1983 I'm so happy for you that you dumped his sorry arse!!!

flamingjune123 · 25/06/2019 05:07

My new neighbour just reminded me that plants in pots will need more watering than those in the ground. My mouth fell open and this gave him the opportunity to continue to explain that the rain doesn't always get to the plants in lots in the same way!
I have planted and landscaped a huge garden totally alone, grown most from seeds and cuttings, put up my own greenhouse including the base.......he has a few pots but I guess I have a vagina

TheColonelsLady · 25/06/2019 05:14

I remember an ex-boyfriend telling me what women liked in bed. Strangely enough, my private parts became instantly like the Sahara Desert.

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 25/06/2019 05:29

Mostly white single male expats explaining to me how the country they've lived in for six months works, when I've been here a decade, am married to someone from this country and have two children with.

They love to explain family dynamics to me (the eldest son must xyz), holidays and celebrations (on this day, you eat this) and what food I've cooked 1000 times is.

I don't really entertain them, I just tell them "I know" and that I'm not interested. Fuck being polite if I'm going to have to listen to a spiel for 30 minutes.

joystir59 · 25/06/2019 05:33

My BIL explaining a better way to carry out an art installation on an exterior wall when a) I'm a professional artist experienced in my field and b) he is a plumber

CryptoFascist · 25/06/2019 05:41

My Dad mansplained to me just a few weeks ago how to put bin liners into a bin. I'm 37.

Happynow001 · 25/06/2019 05:58

SarahAndQuack
I just wanted to check this in your post.
At 21, he assaulted me and told me that proved it was a phase.
Your dad assaulted you? Why, on Earth?

DearSergio · 25/06/2019 06:53

Ex Bil and Ex mansplained breastfeeding to me 🙄 still laugh about it with DM and DSis ten years later Grin

SaskiaRembrandt · 25/06/2019 06:55

I had a man explain a particular aspect of history to me (I am a historian and this is my area of expertise). The mistake he was making is quite common, so I politely explained the correct definition but he wouldn't have it. To reinforce his point he called his friend over who informed me that I should listen to Henry because he watched the History channel all the time and was the go-to person for anything to do with history.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 25/06/2019 06:57

Not quite mansplaining but, when DH and I were viewing our house, the previous owner seemed to ignore my existence. I’d ask a question about the house - standard stuff - and he would turn to DH and answer. The first time, I thought maybe it was coincidence but he did it every time.

When buying car, I asked about the engine size, fuel type... Stuff I need to know to run the car. The man said, “Never mind about that! Look at the colour!” Hmm

Cismyfatarse1 · 25/06/2019 07:16

I teach English. I met a former pupil in the shop yesterday. I taught him for 6 years. I asked him about his degree. He carefully explained Beckett to me - texts that I taught him!!!!!

HPLikecraft · 25/06/2019 07:31

When buying car, I asked about the engine size, fuel type... Stuff I need to know to run the car. The man said, “Never mind about that! Look at the colour!”

This must be an epidemic: my mum told me yesterday that this has just happened to her, too. She’s getting a new car. For her. Not DSF. But a car salesman kept ignoring her and directing all the details and tech specs to DSF. Then turned to DM and said “You’ll be interested in colours, Madam”.
She went elsewhere.

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