What's the worst mansplaining you've ever been witness to?

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Some bloke just mansplained my own business to me, a business I built myself, from scratch. I built the company, the website, the lot. Utter cockwomble! Obviously he knows better than my oestrogen addled brain grrr

Anyone else found this thread a bit like therapy? Like a safe space to vent if you will.

@Ladyofthecanyon

I hate to be the one to tell you that both you and your father are correct.
There is a Kansas City, Kansas AND a Kansas City, Missouri. In fact, they are only about 4 miles from each other as the border between the two states falls between the two.
I have a cousin in one and a cousin in the other so it's always mentioned.
However, the Kansas City everyone knows is in Missouri with all the attractions while the other is more of a suburb.

elp30

There is a Paris in Texas and a London in Ontario but if you were asked in a quiz which country London or Paris is in I bet you would say the US and Canada.

Not mansplaining but DH hogging my words of wisdom and repeating them as if his own, with no acknowledgement to me.

If I make a statement about something or some observation I will usually add 'I was listening to Radio 4....' or 'I was speaking to X and she said....' - I realise now that it is partly because if I state simply 'X is the case' or 'the reason x happens is Y' I am less likely to be taken seriously (or, at least, I believe I am less likely to be taken seriously) so qualifying it as coming from a reliable source makes it more likely to be accepted.
Naturally DH does not have that problem, nor do other men of my acquaintance.

UK, not US, sorry dumb pre coffee mistake

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elp30

There is a Paris in Texas and a London in Ontario but if you were asked in a quiz which country London or Paris is in I bet you would say the US and Canada."

Completely off topic but I live a couple of miles away from Quebec and about a ten minutes drive from Toronto. In under an hour, I could be in New York.

Under an hour on a good day, depending on a19 traffic :o

A slightly different branch of mansplaining - the desire to be seen to be giving advice when in fact one has no knowledge:

I was putting up some pictures at home and had a set of three to hang together but was undecided about where they should be hung. DH and I had the following conversation:

Me: "DH, do you have any suggestions as to where these pictures should go?"

DH: "Yes"

DH: "The question is, where on the walls should they be hung?"

Me:

To be fair, he was abashed when I pointed out exactly how useless that was as an answer to my question.

Ward round in the dementia assessment ward. I'm the consultant. One of the junior doctors thought he needed to randomly explain to me what the symptoms of dementia with Lewy Bodies are and the subtle differences from dementia in Parkinsons disease. I told him the symptoms were the same when I did MRCPsych eight years previously... I sometimes ask the juniors questions if they're preparing for exams and the ward round is quiet, but I hadn't asked him anything, just asked the nurses how the patient was getting on with his new medication for DLB and if his sleepy spells were any better.

I've also had a call centre guy mansplain how to pronounce my own name when I was attempting to change my car insurance details. It's a Scots Gaelic name, he was in England and was pronouncing it phonetically.

@StealthPolarBear we aren't too far away from each other then! I can be in Cleveland in 10 min and Washington in about 25 min

Oh god. Trivial pursuit. The ruiner of many a Christmas.

Dh played with me Dm and df a few years ago. Dsis sensibly sat and read the questions.

A question about a country in the former ussr. Ddad denied its existence. Atlases came out etc. Atlases from the 1970’s.

If dad thinks he’s right but is in fact wrong he will consult a book to check and will then spend the next week or so explaining how he found out this miracle new fact. Will never say “you were right”

We were watching university challenge a while back and on the music round they had lots of choral singing. Guess the movie type question. I jumped in with the sound of music. “Don’t be stupid” he said “that’s not Julie Andrews”. (No but at the beginning of the file they do show a lot of nuns singing and it wouldn’t be university challenge if they just asked which movie does climb every mountain/ the lonely goatherd/ the hills are alive came from would it?!) paxman announces the answer as “the sound of music” ddad just looked at me dumbfounded and told me I must have cheated.

Ah how could u have forgotten Washington?
Theres an American durham too if course

I'm about an hour from Londonderry - I live in England.

On the contrary, I have had men think the following untrue things about me:

A) I'm a maths teacher
B) I'm an economist
C) I speak fluent Arabic

@ememem84 that'd me my mum AND dad. The question was wrong /illogical / missing the point 😥

sashh
I'm about an hour from Londonderry - I live in England.

Ooh, I know where that is - we pass it on the way to my brother’s in the NE

My STBEXH very 'helpfully' explained that when he moves out, I'll need to transfer the bills into my name. No shit. And I've taken care of every bit of household admin for the last 18 years and just spoon fed him what he needs to do. But that needed explaining to me.

I've noticed he's getting worse actually. It's non stop. Even DS has brought it up that he does it to him and he thinks it's treating him like he's thick. I agreed with him that it's irritating.

OK where is londonderry in the ne?!

Oh hang on norht yirks lorry Park. Right?

It’s off the A1M, near RAF Leeming. There was a lorry park there for years, so the sign for Londonderry Lorry Park was what I always noticed

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Ooh, I know where that is - we pass it on the way to my brother’s in the NE

No you don't. I'm referring to the one in the Midlands. I worked at Newcastle college for a while, again in the midlands. And I'm sure I have seen a sign for Londonderry near Stoke.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Londonderry,_West_Midlands

This week at a work meeting a male colleague brought up a great new diploma which will open at the university in September.

I have been involved in designing this diploma, recruiting staff for it and I also chair the committee which gave it the go ahead recently.

Male colleague started explaining what this diploma was, and when i stepped in to clarify a few points, just carried on talking over me giving his version of what had heard second hand as if it were gospel.

In the end I corrected this by sending an email to the while department with all the relevant documents and contact info.

He didn't apologise needless to say.

I am half way through painting ds2's room. Dh explained to me yesterday how to buy paint (you need to go to b&q, icannot, and look for the paint aisle). He told me I would need rollers and brushes and a tray. When I was setting up yesterday he came in and reminded me to use a dustsheet. When I stopped for the day he treated me to a long exanation of how well the hot weather would help paint dry.

He has just come into the room where I am and told me I need to do a second coat today. I may have to kill him.