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What's the worst mansplaining you've ever been witness to?

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plantbased · 24/06/2019 17:29

Some bloke just mansplained my own business to me, a business I built myself, from scratch. I built the company, the website, the lot. Utter cockwomble! Obviously he knows better than my oestrogen addled brain grrr

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sergeilavrov · 24/06/2019 19:35

Had someone explain evolving diplomatic relations of two countries to me over a work dinner. I'm in charge of the specific process he was referencing, and I've written books on the subject. I didn't say anything, and smiled my way through dinner with him. While I went to the bathroom, someone clearly told him. He didn't speak to me again.

When I worked in defence, I was a senior manager in a large multinational. I arrived first at an event, and was joined by two guys from a small firm who tried to advertise their pink gun cases to me, having not bothered listening to my introduction. They realised who I represented as others arrived and spoke to me like normal people. They left early.

loveisanopensore · 24/06/2019 19:42

At it's most ridiculous I got well actually ed when talking about an episode of hey duggee.

tenbob · 24/06/2019 19:43

I’m mixed race Indian-British, and am proud (and knowledgable) about both sides of my family heritage

My Indian grandparents moved here after partition, and were living in Lahore at the time, which overnight became part of Pakistan and was plunged into horrific violence, and we were told stories about this throughout our childhood.

At my granny’s funeral, the eulogy talked in length about the heroic efforts of her and my grandfather to shelter people of all religions caught up in the violence, and the lives they saved.

My friend’s D(ickhead)H proceeded to lecture me that I must be Pakistani and not Indian, and that my grandparents didn’t save civilians because it was just armies fighting. I also got some schooling in Indian food.

Even showing him a Wikipedia summary didn’t shut him up. Because he learned about Nehru during his fucking GCSE history classes
Dickhead

Soubriquet · 24/06/2019 19:45

@Kanga83

You are my hero Grin

Bet he couldn’t manage his pain with mind over matter on that could he

Twolittlebears · 24/06/2019 19:48

Yesterday my DH mansplained a topic to me. A few years ago I'd written a consultation document and statement on this same topic for the UK regulator of this area.

HeronLanyon · 24/06/2019 19:50

Young arrogant male pupil (not my own pupil) not yet done a single crown court trial (I’ve done hundreds) told me earnestly about a procedural application he thought I might not be aware of. Get this all the time at the bar. Toxic arrogance.
I was so flabbergasted didn’t even laugh - told him to think better about what he was saying to whom ! (He’s hoping to be taken on he needs to get a grip and start learning).

EnolaAlone · 24/06/2019 19:54

A man at work saw me using the keyboard to copy and paste and took the opportunity to talk me through how to use a mouse, as if I'd never used one before. My teammates sarcastically showed me how to use a mouse for ages afterwards!

Liverpool52 · 24/06/2019 19:54

My FIL explained to me that he was going to install an electric shower in my bathroom because the shower that ran off the mains was inconvenient for people. I said thanks but DH and I liked our shower and with just the two of us it really wasn't inconvenient. He laughed at me and dismissed my opinion about something in my house as irrelevant.

53rdWay · 24/06/2019 19:56

Got my own job explained to me once at primary school level. During a job interview. By the candidate.

Him: “these people do really clever things! They can use computer programs to do very fancy stuff.”
Me/: “Okay, could you come back to the question about -“
Him, talking over me: “Like, if you were working in X and you wanted to do this thing, they could use technology to find out for you!”

He did not get the job.

53rdWay · 24/06/2019 20:00

Oh, and a man once explained to me that breastfeeding was horrendously difficult and stressful.

I said, well it CAN be but for many of us it isn’t. For me it was very straightforward.

He said, no, women find it VERY VERY DIFFICULT.

well okay then!

Cismyfatarse1 · 24/06/2019 20:05

My DS mansplained mansplaining to my DD.

Oh, how she ripped the piss.

Kanga83 · 24/06/2019 20:08

Heron I hear you! (Also a lawyer). I'm forever being explained how to use the CPR by juniors, because clearly dealing with civil litigation for a living I've never heard of it. God forbid there's a human rights challenge to deal with too 😂

Boom25 · 24/06/2019 20:09

do the people who object to the term mansplaining also object to manspreading? If so, I have a great one.

I was with my younger brother and kids on the tube. He is a known mansplainer. I asked him to move up as he was taking up loads of room. I then said "stop manspreading!" My dc asked what that was so I begun to explain, at which point, he interrupted me and talked over me to explain what manspreading was and that is wasnt really a thing as it was just a biological fact due to testicles.

So he was manspreading while mansplaining manspreading!

Cynara · 24/06/2019 20:09

At the age of 32 I had been driving ambulances for 7 years. Never had an accident. I was working with a new colleague who was aged 21 at the time, and was reversing the ambulance down a narrow street with parked cars on either side. I slowed in order to edge around a sharp corner. My youthful colleague solicitously asked me if I was ok and thought I could manage, as he would happily perform the reversing manoeuvre for me "if I needed him to". We had a frank exchange of views during which I pointed out that I had been driving ambulances without incident since he was 14. He never did it again.

redexpat · 24/06/2019 20:09

Dh tried to mansplain danish social policy for employment to me. Im a social worker, trained and working in denmark IN A JOBCENTER! Interestingly FIL did the same and MIL said lets assume red knows more about it than you dear. I love my MIL.

Did any of you see this? Olympic level mansplaining!

TheCatInAHat · 24/06/2019 20:11

A bloke in the post-room team at work mansplaining how holiday pay is calculated to our Head of Finance Grin

LoeweHammockBuyItDoIt · 24/06/2019 20:18

@redexpat omg "paul bullen" 😥😣

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 24/06/2019 20:19

Friend A is having an issue with friend X, who is pregnant, and was telling friend B, C and D about it. Friend D's boyfriend said it was down to pregnancy hormones and mansplained the effect they can have to friends A, B, C and D - who have all been pregnant - then took the huff when we all said at the same time, 'no, friend X is just being a cow.'

tenbob · 24/06/2019 20:25

This is my favourite, I think
www.good.is/articles/deny-global-warming-you-get-burned

TakenForSlanted · 24/06/2019 20:25

Young arrogant male pupil (not my own pupil) not yet done a single crown court trial (I’ve done hundreds)

Oh, I hear you! Not a lawyer, but a female senior executive in another profession with what amounts to a career model not entirely dissimilar to that of major law firms.

If I had a penny for each time a junior male staffer shared with me precisely how one makes partner I wouldn't even be remotely interested in making partner as I'd be so loaded I couldn't be arsed.

As it happens, most of the boys aren't around anymore. The rest of them are still very much junior associates.

I've just received notice that I'm being offered partner last week. Must be because I've listened to all that invaluable advice. Hmm

FenellaMaxwell · 24/06/2019 20:26

this is my personal favourite.

borntobequiet · 24/06/2019 20:28

Really boysplaining but a pupil once told me that his dad’s way of doing long multiplication was better than mine because it was the “man’s way”.
It was exactly the same.

Supergirlthesecond · 24/06/2019 20:28

That made me laugh @sackrifice :-)

golightlytoday · 24/06/2019 20:29

A guy hired me to do some tech work for him that he couldn't do (didn't know how) . He then sent daily emails telling me how to do it. Except he still didn't know so it was pointless him sending the emails. But I think he just couldn't cope with the fact I knew how to do it and was 'just a women'

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 24/06/2019 20:29

OMG redexpat what a complete and utter knob that Paul Bullen is. Not just a mansplainer, but he would argue blue was black rather than admit he was wrong. Complete arsehole.

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