DPs Mum insisting I go out without my baby

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Need advice.. my DD is 2 and a half weeks old. DPs mum lives close by. For the last week she has been insistent that we go for lunch / the shops etc without DD.
DD is in good form despite sneezing a lot.
But she is only 2 weeks

As in she wants to go out you and her, or she wants to look after the baby whilst your and DP go out?

Bugger that if you don't want to leave your baby. It's entirely up to you.

You're the mum, she doesn't get to insist on anything! Do what you feel comfortable with.

Your baby, your choice.

Your MIL doesn't get a say.

She cannot tell you what you should do.

If you don't want to leave DD, then don't. It's not up to your MIL to decide this one.

Start putting in boundaries early with a firm 'no. My baby is only 2 weeks old and I will not be leaving her. Please stop asking. It's really inappropriate and unhelpful for you to keep pressuring me'.

It wouldn't hurt for you to go out for lunch as long as it was nearby and not one of those places that takes ages to serve. Would do you good and you have a decent baby sitter.

By the way, little babies sneeze to clear their noses of dust, it' quite normal as they are lying down (doesn't mean you have excess dust either but there is always some in the air). Once they sit up they sneeze less.

Congratulations on your little one! Bless.

No way

2 weeks is so tiny still. It’s up to you to choose about this. If you need a break- great. But if you don’t want to leave her then don’t.

Maybe you could all go for lunch? Or say to your MIL - not yet but definitely when she is a bit bigger.

I couldn't have left any of mine at 2 weeks.

Tbf I wouldn't have wanted to go out shopping 2 weeks PP either.

Just get her told.

I think the question is do you want to?

We all have different opinions. I would tube left mine at 2 weeks, others would. But it's very much a matter of what you want. If you want to leave your baby, fine, enjoy your lunch. If you don't, just say no thanks.

I wouldn't have

No one gets to decide when you leave your baby except you.

A teeny 2 1/2 week old? Not for a long time, only when you feel comfortable doing it.

Tell everyone to fuck off (blame the hormones)

It is called the 4th Trimester because they are usually attached to you for a month after they are born.

I looked after my nephew when he was 3 weeks old but that was in my sister's house whilst she went upstairs to sleep. And let's face it sleep is what you probably need.

Hit the post button by mistake..
DD is only 2 weeks old..
I had to go back to see the consultant re my stitches - still feeling sore.
I'm still bleeding
Milk has just about stopped coming in now - so Brest pads and cabbage leaves will hopefully be gone by Monday ( I'm formula feeding)
My normal clothes don't fit me and my pregnancy clothes make me look still pregnant. Have to wear baggy leggings etc because of the bulky pads
The last thing I feel like doing is going to a shopping centre or a busy venue for lunch.,
I have been out to appointments with and without DD .
DD isn't a great sleeper yet and I'm tired today so when she rang I let DP take the call.. she wanted me to go to the shopping centre ..
I need to say to her to stop insisting I go out and without my baby as well..
I feel like I'm going mad.,
We are home and adjusting to life with a new baby.. the weather has been rotten lately .. advice please on how to say all this to her in a firm manner without insulting her..

Your husband should be telling his mum to stop pestering. The mummy-baby dyad shouldn't be disrupted unnecessarily.

You need a sling. And I hate them personally but mil is over stepping imo. Keep baby close and let her know that's how you want it.

Not a chance in hell. Get your dp to tell her to piss off!

YOU decide when you’re ready to leave your dd, not anyone else.

Two and a half weeks is next to no time at all.... just tell her 'no' make a stand now before it gets worse

I'd do it. Give your dh some time to look after the baby on his own.

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Nowt wrong with saying "my doc says I need to rest up with baby close by. We're not going to be seperated for a long time yet. Please don't ask us to, we'll let you know when we're ready."

If she persists then it is okay to say "We've asked you to to stop this, it is unkind and quite rude to keep on".

Thank you for the offer but right now I don't wish to, but when I feel more myself I would love to...

“The advantage of her being so small is that she is totally portable. For the time being, if I do want t go anywhere I will take her with me. She is tiny and I don’t want to be separated”

“I don’t actually want to go out at the moment, we are bonding and recovering”

And DH needs to get on the case “Mum, we’ll go out when we are good and ready. For now we are staying at home, Dw is still recovering, we have enough to contend with with hospital visits and we are enjoying staying at home”

“Mum! Give it a rest!”

I’m confused-your DH took the call. What did he say to his mum?

Thank you for the offer but right now I don't wish to, but when I feel more myself I would love to...

Don’t promise anything. You may not “love to” ever.

I never left either of mine with MIL (with DH’s blessing) as she was an unrepentant smacker.