Teenage girl sharing hotel room....

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After opinions on whether it is OK or not for 12/13 year old girl to share a hotel room with step dad while mum sleeps in another room with the the baby?

No drip feeding, no issues, mum and step dad married for about 8 years, no previous concerns.

Is this OK or not ever?

Thank you in advance

Not appropriate.

I can't see a problem if they are both fine with it? Presumably they have a good relationship and get on? They've been stepdad/daughter since your DD was 4/5 years old. I say ok.

Weird. Why can’t dad sleep with baby?

Would it be ok if it was her bio dad?

I know. I don't feel that it's appropriate but also agree with everyone that says otherwise....

Family room for mum, dad and baby. Give teen her privacy.

Cant you just get a family room?

Yes why not.

If they are both happy I don’t see the issue really? If they have an established paternal relationship and he isn’t a predator then it’s fine.

No it's not appropriate and really ill advised for the step dad who is leaving himself at risk of accusation. A teenager needs more privacy. I would dream of room sharing with teenage DSS with or without DH in the room.

And obviously if he is dodgy then he shouldn’t be sharing with the baby or spending any time at all with a family so....

Not appropriate.

It sounds ok to me as long as it’s a twin room and there is a lockable en suite for each of them to change in.

It would also depend on how the DD felt and if she was comfortable with the arrangement.

I'd say ok in a twin room

TBH I don't think it's appropriate even if it was her actual father - I think a teen girl needs privacy at that age. I don't think there's anything dodgy about it, I just think that with all the body changes that go on for a teen girl at that age, privacy is important. Teen DD shares with me on holiday but I can't imagine her wanting to share with her father.

I wouldn’t.

No parents can share with the baby, she needs own room.
I've had a step dad since I was little no way would I have been comfortable with it. Neither me nor my sisters at that age would have shared with our dads alone either.

Why can't dad share with baby and mum share with teenager?

If daughter is OK with it, it's fine.

For those suggesting daughter has a room of her own, that wouldn't be permitted in a hotel.

How about adjoining rooms and leaving door open and putting daughter and baby in one room and the adults in the other?

What does the teen think about the idea?

That’s weird, no way my husband would want to share with my teenage daughter and vice versa even though they’ve known each other since she was 4. Can’t see why it’s necessary

How old is the baby? Can't Mum and Teen share one room, Dad and Baby in the other? If baby isn't being breastfed, this would work I guess.

For those suggesting daughter has a room of her own, that wouldn't be permitted in a hotel.

I've just checked the T&Cs of a couple of different hotel chains, there is a minimum age to make a booking but none of them say anything about minimum age to stay in a room next to their parents.

Fine if they are both happy. Hes been in her life since she was 4, I imagine they are both very comfortable around each other and can sleep in the same room for a few nights.