I found a body today (Tw: suicide)

[Cailleach]

OP post edited by MNHQ

i went for a walk very early this morning and found a body at the foot of a local viaduct.

He was about 40 years old, I would say. He'd been there overnight, I'd guess.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this really - trying to process it I suppose. I have been in a dark place recently myself.

Please try to be kind to everyone you meet, folks. I know it can be hard to do at times, but you never know what other people are going through.

Oh my goodness. I have no words of advice but just sending love an and hugs. Please try too have someone with you.

Must have been a shock .
Not sure you should post on here. This poor man has family and friends who may not want to have his death discussed on mumsnet.

www.victimsupport.org.uk/

This is an awful experience for you and my thoughts are with you.

I’m so sorry for you OP and of course the man.

Hope you’re able to get a decent night’s rest. Please reach out here or friends / family or maybe Samaritans if you want to talk more.

When ever I hear about a suicide the first thing I think about is the person that found them. I’m sorry you had to see this OP, must have been horrible. My ex husband found his mum when he was a teenager, she took her own life in the family home knowing her kids would find her .

My son found his flat mate just after Xmas he's still a bit shook up about it now. Please contact victim support they will point you in the direction of someone you can talk things through with.

I don't know what to say. There are no words really other than I'm so sorry.
Poor you poor bloke and his poor family. My thoughts are with you all.
Your cat will know you're upset. As you probably know animals are very in tune with us.
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Take care, OP. A horrible day for you. Hope you get some sleep but if you don’t and want to talk to someone the Samaritans are open to talk 24/7

Oh @Cailleach, I feel for you so much. In 2008 I found the body of my neighbour after he hanged himself and as a result, years later, I was diagnosed with PTSD.

It's important that you take extra special care of yourself in the coming days and weeks - you will be in shock and you may get symptoms you didn't think possible (I did but they're too graphic for MN). Spend time off work (if you work) if you need it and don't be ashamed to reach out to others.

The night I found my neighbours I rang Samaritans. It helped to talk through the experiences I'd had that day and I'd highly recommend that as a next step for you.

PM me if you like. I know a bit about what you're going through.

Bless you @Cailleach

My heart goes out to you ❤️
My mum committed suicide and I often think of the unfortunate person who found her body.
I am so very sorry this had happened to you. .

What an awful shock for you. I’m so sorry.

I echo what PPs said about calling Samaritans. They’ll give you the space to talk it through and that might help clear your head a little this evening.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope that you are able to find out who it was, for closure. I understand why it would be important to know, as you need to humanise him in order to not just see him as an empty shell. Would it help to lay some flowers at the scene or have a quiet moment of contemplation/pay your respects? If relatives visit the spot, they will also, likely be touched by the kindness of a stranger. I did a similar thing. Young lady down the road from me was murdered. Very high profile case. I'd helped search for her (but didn't discover her). Laying flowers at the scene where she had been dumped helped me a little. I laid them again on the day that her murderer was convicted. I just wanted to show her kindness and respect, esp after what happened to her.

Empod

Bless you! You poor thing.

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What CorBlimeyGovenor said. OP.

Maybe shudnt talk about this on social media until family no. Not very respectfull.

Op

I live next to a train track and when I was walking home I heard someone being hit by a train. Missed it by seconds but I did see the aftermath. I too was compelled to find out who she was, probably made it worse tbh as I found out she was a mum with kids. I had flash backs for a long time afterwards and kept dreaming about it. Unfortunately it's a popular hotspot

It did get better in time but I wish I had spoken to someone about it at the time so I definitely recommend speaking to someone. Take care op