I found a body today (Tw: suicide)

[Cailleach]

OP post edited by MNHQ

i went for a walk very early this morning and found a body at the foot of a local viaduct.

He was about 40 years old, I would say. He'd been there overnight, I'd guess.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this really - trying to process it I suppose. I have been in a dark place recently myself.

Please try to be kind to everyone you meet, folks. I know it can be hard to do at times, but you never know what other people are going through.

No one at all you can speak to?
Church?

Poor bloke. So sad he felt he had no other option.

And poor you. Do you have someone to talk to? Could you ring the police and ask for the man’s name, after his family have been told?

Yawn is that kind. OP may have changed details. She is obviously needing some support herself at the moment.

You poor thing, stumbling across that. Very traumatic and it's no wonder you want to make sense of it.

I'd like to think he would have been grateful you found him so he can have a decent burial. If the dead could talk, I'd like to imagine he would thank you and possibly apologise.

If you can, please spend some time with friends or family. Talking through this can help you piece it together a bit more perhaps?

If you find yourself still picturing his face in months to come, on a very regular basis, I would suggest counselling.

Don't underestimate the trauma you have been through here. Take care.

@Yawninfinitum really? We've got no idea where this place was or any details apart from it being a man possibly in his 40s...how could you identify anybody from that? The OP needs to be able to process this, not be shut down.

What an awful shock for you. Did the police give you any support info?

Reach out if you need support.
So sad for that poor guy & his family.

Hi OP,

We're so sorry you had to see this, and hope you're alright. We're going to have to edit your OP post, as we're afraid we don't allow mention of the methods of suicide on the boards.

If there's anything you're not sure about, please do report to us or email at: [email protected]

I agree with Yawninfinitum .

There's no need for the OP to go into detail like that. He absolutely would be recognised by anyone on here who knew him.

So very sad. Poor man.

What an awful shock for you, is there anyone you can call to come and keep you company?

Hand hold here if you need it.

Sorry OP but this is really inappropriate- someone may recognise this description.

And if they do? OP hasn't said anything wrong at all. Quite the opposite in fact. The post was about being nice, it wasn't even about the OP's obviously traumatic day

Imagine if this was your loved one

If it were I wouldn't see anything in the OP to make the situation any worse. Tbh if this were my loved one I would be asking the police if I could contact the person that found them.

I will report.

I have to agree with yawn here, the details should be removed, there won't have been many families received this news today and the description could be very distressing for them.

I'm so sorry op, you should absolutely be entitled to victim support, nobody should have to witness what you did today, and it will likely take a while for you to process, go easy on yourself there's no rule book for this situation

Yawn, the op hasn't given any details......sad thing is there will have been many suicides today . Using various methods.

The.op has every right to post and ask for support. She's also probably in shock, there really is a time and a place for being 'worthy'.

And this is neither.

If MN HQ feels there are too many details in my opening post, I am happy for them to edit it to their satisfaction.

Thank you to everyone who posted kind wishes. It is much appreciated. I'm sorry that some of you have had similar experieences.

Even if the family recognised the situation, surely they wouldn’t mind someone feeling upset like the op does?
Odd reactions here.

I'm so sorry OP.

Yes, I would want to know the person's name too.

Poor man.

If I were this poor man's family I would be thinking about the person that discovered him and hoping that they were OK. I would also hope they were a good, kind person that treated him respectfully and was getting help, as they almost certainly are.

The OP is alone, she is seeking help. She is not being in anyway callous regarding the man. I think if there is someone here that can help, that would be marvellous.

Be kind to your self too OP xx

The impact of suicide on a family is devastating. A lot of people on Mumsnet have been directly affected by someone taking their own life. We must all be kind to each other.

If you're in the UK, ask the police for the number for Victim Support. People in your situation are entitled to it. one of my relatives is a volunteer for them, and has done this sort of thing.

I'm sorry, you must be in such shock. Please contact a friend and stay with then tonight, and seek a professional to speak to like a pp suggested.
It's awful to think it's so bad for some people. I've been there recently, not a good place to be.
Poor man, and his family
Take care of yourself.

So sad, for him, his family and you OP.

What a shock for you. Take care of yourself, and talk about it as much as you want to.

Fwiw I don't think you were out of line posting what you did. You need support, and if I were the family of the poor man, I would take comfort that you had been touched by his death, and had treated his passing with respect.

Horrible shock for you OP. Talk as much as you need (here and in RL) - I think you need a combination of processing and the passage of time to move past it although I’m sure to an extent it always stays with you.

Be gentle on yourself. I’m thinking of you as well as that poor man.