I found a body today (Tw: suicide)

[Cailleach]

OP post edited by MNHQ

i went for a walk very early this morning and found a body at the foot of a local viaduct.

He was about 40 years old, I would say. He'd been there overnight, I'd guess.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this really - trying to process it I suppose. I have been in a dark place recently myself.

Please try to be kind to everyone you meet, folks. I know it can be hard to do at times, but you never know what other people are going through.

I hope there is someone you can talk to about this experience Cailleach

What a sad thing to happen. Sorry you had to experience that OP. Take care of yourself

Step father found someone in very similar circumstances a few years ago. He was very very shaken by it - but if it helps -as time went on her did find out the details you're wanting to fill in the blanks in your own mind like the person's name and reasons they made the choice they did if that makes sense.

Thinking of you OP, agree that you may want to seek professional help. We have experience of suicide in our family and I certainly wouldn't be upset to read this post. Anyhow, I imagine the family have other things on their mind tonight rather than reading mnet tbh.

Please take care

Op I hope you're ok. It must have been an awful scene to come across.

Myself and Dh came across someone trying to kill himself. I'll never get the image out of my head. My husband broke down his door and saved him. I never found out what happened to him after. I did see him once as it was close to where we live. He gave me an awful look like he couldn't forgive me. I hope he got the help he needed and has a good life now.

So sorry you had to experience this OP. Please find someone to talk to about it, so you can process it.
It seems MNHQ have taken out the details of the OP, but other posters have mentioned the details. Aargh.

OP you need someone to talk this through with. I know, I have been there too. Police might offer you Victim Support, otherwise see your GP and ask for some counselling. It will play on your mind for years if you don't talk about it.

Op so sorry. So awful for you. And for the family who just discovered they lost someone -BUT they didn’t have to see him as you did and that must be an awful shock cats are great and if lap cats they are really good company but please phone and speak to another human.

It is understandable to want to know his name. I’m sure, as it is local, you will see the name in the news and be able to read about his family & life in the future. This is something that will stay with you, if you need support please contact either the police that you gave a statement to, speak to a GP at your surgery or contact the Samaritans.

I really feel for you OP.

I've suffered a trauma in recent years that ultimately led to me receiving counselling for PTSD.

It is normal to be in shock for a few days, even a week. After that you start to process it and everyone does this differently. If, after 6 weeks, you are still struggling to the point of it having an effect on your day to day life I highly recommend you seek help for PTSD. If you have already experienced a mental health conditon (you mention in your post about dark times) you are more susceptible to getting PTSD.

The longer you leave it untreated the harder it is to overcome, I was told. So early intervention IF needed is best. I'm not trying to upset you, I just wanted to offer advice.

I found a chat with MIND really helpful, in the early days - just over the phone.

I'm a few years on from my experience and it hasn't left me, it changed me for sure. But i have learned to live with it with peace.

Having people to talk to does help, don't clam up.

❤️

OP So very sorry this happened, and that you found the poor soul. Really tragic. I hope you can find someone to be with you this evening, and that you reach out for some support. Cats are lovely, but perhaps a human would also be good.

Poor soul. His poor family. Poor you. So sad.

twinkly has given excellent advice here- please do keep talking any your feelings online or real life.

OP, a close family member of mine committed suicide. They were found by a stranger hours after they died. I often think of the person that found them, how traumatic and upsetting it would have been for them. It was pre-internet days but if I had found a post like yours, I wouldn't have minded, I would be glad the person had reached out. Hope you're ok.

Sorry to hear that, Jeffter. Thank you and everyone else for their support and advice. I am going to have an early night I think.

NN and thanks again.

I you need a sympathetic ear you could ring the Samaritans.
They would be able to help you cope with this. Be kind to
Yourself.

One last comment, just in case you read before bed. The night of the trauma I experienced, I couldn't sleep. It was on a loop whirring around and around in my mind. My brain was actually noisy with all the memories and it was so awful because I was so exhausted.

I put on a series on Netflix that I didn't have to pay attention to (Arrested Development!) and had it loud enough to drown out the things whirring around my brain, but not to loud to wake me up should I fall asleep.

I don't know if that will help you, should you experience the same. But might be worth a try.

Oh and fresh Orange juice is good for shock. I can't remember why, but I was plied with it by my family after the event as it was a known help.

Please talk to someone professional. As your GP for a referral, or even a phone helpline?

Thank you for caring ❤️

OP

Sorry to hear this hapoened. Condolences to the man's family. Get counselling if you need.

Sending you kind thoughts OP. You may well want to seek some sort of help to move on from this and there is nothing shameful in that, it must have been a terrible shock for you.

RIP poor chap.

My heart goes out to you. My brother found the body of a lad who was at school with my daughter. He was aged just 21 but was obviously in a dark place having lost his mum at a young age. Please talk to somebody as it has really affected my brother. 💐