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Can't say it to someone's face? Come and say it here.

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Summerbreezes · 14/06/2019 12:29

I'm in a Facebook group that I very helpful and useful, but one of the admins is irritating AF. Practically everything she does is annoying. I can't say this to her because then I'd probably get banned.

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GirlsInGreen · 18/02/2020 18:57

I am truly sorry that your dd is having an awful time in her first year at high school. Maybe if you'd listened and embraced the help and further investigations offered at primary things could be very different now.

You were in a unique position to ensure your dd got all the help she deserves. Instead, you decided your dds struggles were my childs fault. Your utter spite directed at a child was horrid. You made sure my childs last 2 years of primary were a misery.
Do you think somehow getting a diagnosis of ASD is somehow a 'bad' reflection on you? Or that it makes your lovely, funny, quirky daughter less so?
Did it feel good to be able to engineer friendship groups for your dd who struggles so badly socially? Coercing children so they couldn't say no to Miss? Telling the rest of the teaching staff my dd was a bully (yes it got back to me, yes they told me it was total bollocks) - did you think your dds struggles would magically disappear?
No - I don't want to 'meet up with the girls ' over half term. I'd be happy never to see you again. Mostly though I'm sorry for your dd - I truly hope school improves for her. As for my dd, you asked, yes she's flying and having a great time.
I'm so glad the group of us parents /teachers rounded the corner on the last day of term to hear my dd telling a group that your dd was worth a hundred of them and how dare they call her a 'retarded weirdo'. Your face was a picture. But it was too late - you'd already done the damage to my girl, and i'll never forgive you.

RibenaMonsoon · 18/02/2020 19:05

You are way to good for him.
He is using you as a live in lodger, he won't marry you or have children with you.
I don't know why you can't see that.
He's so far back in the closet he may as well be in Narnia!
I know you are afraid of being alone but surely that is so much better than the miserable existence you have now. You seem so down, withdrawn and bitter towards life.
Someone deciding how you spend your every penny isn't normal. He's financially abusing you.
Take that leap, you won't fall, you'll fly. Trust me!

MerryDeath · 18/02/2020 19:07

your brother is so thick, and such a massive, deliberate arsehole , i'm starting to wonder if there is actually some sort of medical issue with him that explains it. please never invite him to anything, ever.

Caravanholidayfun · 18/02/2020 19:10

I don’t want to marry you but I know it’s too late to back out now and I would only end up alone anyway.

Sharkyfan · 18/02/2020 19:27

DH, when I said I’m not very happy and it has crossed my mind if we’d both be happier living separately - and you asked if that’s what I wanted then - and I said no, I just thought I should talk to you about it and we should try to make things better - I think that is probably what I want actually, I just can’t say it because I thought you might be on the same page as me but you’re not. And since I said that and you’ve been all affectionate and trying your best to make conversation and stuff, it just makes me feel so uncomfortable and I feel like I’m faking it. I’m sorry but I think it’s probably over.

But I can’t say it, I can just hope that now I’ve planted the seed maybe you’ll come to the same conclusion.

And I’m so sorry but I really don’t like havjng sex with you ☹️

mumtomaxwell · 18/02/2020 19:43

Your relationship disgusts me. I don’t want to be at your wedding because I don’t support it. Who the actual fuck do you think you are being so brazen about your adulterous affair??! I think we all know it won’t last more than 10 years until one of you gets your head turned again... after all you’re both amoral homewreckers. And yet we all have to play along with it because you’ve managed to convince enough people that it’s all okay. It really truly isn’t and people like you should be ashamed of yourselves... your arrogance to pretend otherwise is disgusting.

Bunnybigears · 18/02/2020 19:45

It's not the fucking olympics (kids swimming)
It's not the fucking world cup (kids football)

Justmuddlingalong · 18/02/2020 19:50

To my family. Yes I'll help you whenever I can. But, it might only be one favour to you, but when everyone comes to me looking for favours it adds up. I've got a never ending list of things to do for you all. I'm also not keeping well, but if you stopped mithering about your small issues and actually asked how I am, you'd know that.

WhenTwoBecomeThree · 18/02/2020 19:54

I don't need you to babysit my child every minute of every day so stop nagging, if I need to 'pop out' anywhere I will take her with me, if I want to ask my mum to babysit then I bloody well will without a comment from you and I don't need you to have her whilst I take a nap that I don't need. Oh and yes, I'm perfectly fine by myself with my own daughter whilst DP is at work.

wageslave · 18/02/2020 20:17
  1. I'm glad you are now suffering, you bullied me and my daughter for years and this was a major factor in her eating disorder. I hope you rot in hell
  2. You are a narcissistic pig, you can rot in hell too
  3. I feel sorry for you, but you are very self centred and manipulative. You need to grow up
  4. You are being manipulated and emotionally abused. He is a lazy, smelly fat pig who hides behind many issues, but the latest in the long line of many awful things that he's done, this time about selling your pension, whilst he isn't working or bringing in any income is so awful. I wish you'd see what he's done to you and kick him out, but you seem to believe his hair brained "get rich quick" schemes which never work, as he bounces from one stupid idea to the next, and all of the while spending your earnings
  5. You are a lovely man but are consumed by FOG, you don't owe them half of what they say you do. I wish you'd stand up for yourself more, what they do to you isnt anything to do with love for you, it's about controlling you
  6. I'm sorry but I've never been up to the task. I did my best, but I wasn't well equipped to start with
Gizmo79 · 18/02/2020 20:31

You are always going to be a loser. Your daughter is worth so much more. Pathetic behaviour, getting back at me by not working, not claiming benefits just so I don’t get the money that is for your own child.
I will carry on working to provide for her as I am her parent. Wish you would jog on and die.
Sorry, perhaps a bit much!

scarlettio · 23/02/2020 21:19

I really , really miss you xxx

NameChangedJustToPostThis · 24/02/2020 20:53

You're a fucking cunt and I wish I'd never met you.

You've really hurt and upset me, when all I did was be nice to you.

Today is the turning point where I will accept no more of your shit.

Get to Fuck, and I hope you rot in hell.

ladygracie · 25/02/2020 21:08

Stop fucking emailing the whole school. You are a parent and constantly abuse that. We literally sent someone home today so you are talking crap. Also. The only person who can change the policy is the head so maybe email them rather than all of us.

Reginabambina · 25/02/2020 21:10

You’re stupid and unprofessional. All the parents dislike you and a lot of kids (like mine) have gone off school because of you. I appreciate that you have something going on but it’s not fair to take it out on us. For gods sake take some time off.

LikeGlitterandGold · 27/02/2020 02:05

I hung up on you this evening. I don't care that you're my mother. I'm not going to listen to you tell me yet again that we moved away and left you alone and without a cent. You were never in any way penniless and, when we told you we were moving, we asked you to come with us. That's when you yelled at me that moving would kill you. Of course, anything you don't like is "going to kill you". You use that as an excuse to get your way, same with telling everyone that you don't have any money when you do. You thought we would change our minds but we had to make a life changing decision and move away from our family and friends because we couldn't afford to stay in that expensive city. I called you every day so you wouldn't be lonely but you used those phone calls to angrily shout at me. Not anymore though, I'm done. I'm not putting up with this. You have always been angry with me, never my brothers, just me. I was your scapegoat all my life - you made me believe it was my fault your life was shit. NO MORE!

Ilady · 27/02/2020 02:30

A, your not the only person in the world to lose weight. I am sick of hearing you tell me about your weight loss which by the way I can see. I lost a few stone a few years ago. I know I need to lose weight now and I don't appreciate you continuously bringing this up with me. I am making plans to do this.

Katiet123 · 27/02/2020 09:31

You are a total waste of space who has given absolutely no shits about your own kids after you fucked off with OW. You now get to to know my child while the amazing mum who brought your son up with nothing after you shafted her in the divorce and my dad who missed out on a lot of my childhood due to illness won't because they are no longer here.

You don't deserve it. That's why I don't want to see or speak to you.

Darnley · 27/02/2020 15:24

I hate you.... you are a vile, vindictive, spiteful and aggressive bully.
I will never forgive the way you have treated my lovely DS. All he ever wanted to do was love you.
I will never forgive the abuse he suffered at your hands, nor will I forgive your family for not stepping in. They knew, but are too frightened of you.
Your reign of terror is almost over.
I am going to ruin you.... with pleasure.

Blackbirdblue30 · 27/02/2020 15:45

Colleague. Take your filthy fingers out of your mouth and for the love of anything stop stroking your beard.

QueenofallIsee · 27/02/2020 16:19

I don’t give a flying fuck what you think of me - I realised quickly that you are ignorant, pathetic and thick. My husband deserves better than you.

Your son is autistic but refusing to put him in that wonderful school in favour of home educating was selfish and based on your pride not his needs. He is not a baby anymore and he deserves an education! i am really worried that you are raising him with no prospect of independence.

TheNewMrsTomHardy · 27/02/2020 17:05

Get a job. Get a job. Get a job.

Susiesoap7 · 27/02/2020 19:14

Just got to say this as I don't want to start another thread!
Why after all the dramatics about Philip schofield coming out, is he posting lovey Dovey pics of wife n daughters in Paris? Is this his way of saying, all back to normal now? Don't get it

Cherrypie32 · 27/02/2020 19:31

You’re a fucking cow and I wish our kids weren’t friends so I never had to have any contact with you ever again.

Fourtights · 27/02/2020 20:37

Why the fuck are you not proud of him?

Why do you shit all over his achievements?

Why can't you just say 'Well done, I am proud of you.'

I wonder if it's because you know that it makes your other half jealous, when really he should be proud too? I wonder if it means you have to walk on egg shells around him for a while, if it makes your life harder? Maybe that is why you can't find it in yourself to say something nice.

How can you respect your other half when you know how he is? When you know that is how he is, why are you so baffled that I don't want to be around you anymore? I can't stand the fakeness. I know the others enable it, but I'm too old and too ill to do bullshit anymore.