Fuming- apparently I need to be more "chill"

[FurCoatNoSnickers]

this is going to be ranty.

New Name to dodge The Daily Fail Brigade and to protect identity.

Each to their own-I know that there are many people who don't mind their photos online/social media etc. I'm not really one of them. I don't post any photos of my DC/home/holidays/purchases etc- occasionally I will be tagged on a night out.

A friend I have on FB who has this morning screen shot and sent me photos of my new extension- photos of my kitchen,bedroom, bathroom (including toiletries and towels??) these were taken from a person's account who I do not like, who I am not friends with - which has made me feel more furious about this if I am being honest.

I have learned this morning that this person asked my painter and decorator to take some internal shots and to make matters a shit load worse he invited her into MY home to take photos for herself (P&D confirmed that this morning) whilst I was at work.

I'm livid- i cannot stand this woman who is a local gossipy queen bee and have told him in no uncertain terms that he acted wholly unprofessionally and that he has broken my trust. He has countered by saying that she's a member of his family and he trusts her and we should be flattered that she's thinking about carrying out similar work to mine and that no harm was done.

I'm tempted to leave him shit feedback with screen shots on his business page. The sensible part of me thinks I need to get back to work and distract myself for a few hours. Any advice at this stage would be appreciated.

thanks for listening to the rant

Absolutely leaving applying feedback on his FB page. That is so bad. I can’t believe he thought that was ok.

Wow, that’s really unprofessional and totally out of order! I would definitely leave feedback saying that they had allowed a stranger into your house without your permission. I would also demand that the pictures of your house were taken down.

leave appalling

Don’t be unfair and leave a bad review if his work was good. Be honest. His work was good but he massively betrayed your trust and let someone into your home without permission. See if he is a member of any trade organisations or groups and perhaps even report him there as that’s very unprofessional indeed. You’re not being unreasonable to be fucking livid. I don’t think you can do much else though, and make sure you don’t rock the boat if the job is not complete...

Noooooooo.

I'd be livid too. And she put it on FB?? Under what context?
As an advert for your Workman or 'look at FurCoat's refurb'?

I'd be furious at a tradesperson inviting anyone into my home without my permission, never mind someone I didn't like. I'd leave feedback, being honest about the quality of the work but also letting everyone know that he couldn't be trusted to keep your home safe and secure while he was working there. He should also be asking your permission to take photos - any time anyone has wanted to put photos of our house/garden on their trading site they've asked permission beforehand.

As for the workman, there's got to be a serious breach of privacy here? And letting unknowns into your home? I'd definitely be commenting on that.

I'm going to use it again...

Isasora-his work was magnificent but I would never use him again

DH thinks I should leave well alone-he just doesn’t seem as upset as me and says as long as nothing is missing. It’s made me feel sick.

I'm not surprised you're angry. The painter should have asked your permission to obtain images for marketing purposes and the other person is an absolute CF for sharing them! A firm email to the painter outlining your disappointment and insist they delete them immediately. A review to reflect on your experience is also appropriate.

Totally out of order. He let someone into your house without your permission. You should leave a review stating this and are right to be fuming. Also the photos need to be taken down. what was this woman thinking??

I have never heard the like, I'd be fuming too.

I would slaughter him online, and I would enjoy every second.

Would you hire a decorator with form for allowing someone into your house when you weren't there and letting them take photographs? I wouldn't, and if he'd done this to someone else, I would want to know.

Groggy

Don’t want to say too much but it was posted along the lines of “planning new extension it’ll look something like this” kind of post.

And no -not flattered - you can type in any load of words in Pinterest and get far more glossy/professional inspo than from my home. Totally out of order.

I would make my review public, this is a massive breach of trust and I would not want someone who would do this working in my house. I would also complain to any trade organization he is a member of and trading standards. Ask Facebook to take them down too. He's an idiot to risk his business like this.

Personally I would look at the legality of posting pictures of your home without your permission in accordance with GDPR - there may be identifiable features in the pictures and if you have signed nothing to agree to posting pictures they may very well be breaking the law.

Here’s the rough bit

I am a bit wary of the woman so not sure how to request she takes them down- considering asking through the P&D . She’s a bit of a trouble maker with a big mouth. Hence DHs reluctance.

I can ask Facebook to take them down bypassing her?

That’s genuinely shocking. What were they thinking?

I’m going mental on your behalf.

I don’t care how good his work was he has behaved appalling.

I wouldn’t even mention his work when leaving the review, I’d just put -

Hired him to work in my home whilst I was out and later found out he had let in another customer/stranger to me to look around and take photos which have now been uploaded to the public/internet showing my personal belongings etc. He doesn’t think he has done anything wrong by breaching my trust.

Awesmum
Yes there’s personal stuff in the photos -

Thank Jesus they didn’t come on laundry day

I would absolutely let other customers know that he will let people into your house to take photos without permission. What the fuck?

Thanks Soola.

I suffer with anxiety which I appreciate can amplify things-hence me starting the thread for a more balanced insight.

I’m now utterly distracted and wondering what else they may have rifled through or taken photos of. In short, I feel invaded.

Surely she's trespassing? She was in your home without your permission.

I'm livid on your behalf!!

If it was an empty property being renovated it would be massively out of order but your actual fucking home full of your possessions

Beyond awful!

Also the other person being unpleasant is irrelevant, I’d still go berserk if he had let Dame Vera Lynn in.

It’s outrageous and completely unprofessional.