I think dino makes some good points .
Sentimentality and hypocrisy are not good memorials .
My mother ,when alive ,deplored sentimentalty about the war and grand ceremonies marking it .She said it glorified war and took the focus away from the polticians who lied and manipulated the public into sending their young to die .
She lost brothers and ,of course friends ,and saw others living with the long term effects of being involved .