Anyone else got a share-er partner?

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To get straight to the point.

If we go out for food, he has to have some of what I order. If i order a side he wants to share it. Sometimes if i want a side he doesnt like he will mope about how he cant have some and will have to order a separate side.

If I buy a milkshake or a drink, and ask him if he wants one.. the response j get every single bastard time is "I'll just have some of yours" no, you fucking wont! If you want one get one, I'm paying, justvget one. I dont want to share my milkshake with you, something about sharing a straw really makes my stomach churn anyway.

It's got the point where when I cook dinner in the evenings and ask him to get me a drink when we sit down, he'll either get one drink and just drink mine. Or if I ask if he also wants a drink when I'm getting one he'll again say "I'll just have some of yours"

It drives me absolutely insane. Anyone else have someone like this?!

I'm 100% vegetarian and it winds me right up when the 0% vegetarians swipe all the veggie food at a buffet. I'm happiest when mine is separated.

I'm not really a great sharer. It confuses the link between my brain and stomach.

How did dinner go?

I'm 100% vegetarian  and it winds me right up when the 0% vegetarians swipe all the veggie food at a buffet. I'm happiest when mine is separated.

Ah, you mean the vegecurious - greedy bastards!

I got the rage reading @BarbaraofSevillle's post.

No, you aren't a sharer, you are entitled and a taker. I don't care if you "just want a taste" or just a few chips. You're basically thinking you're entitled and deserving of what someone else has ordered. Fuck off and order some yourself and if you are too tight to pay,dont order them..so greedy. Tough bloody luck. Tight and entitled. Arghhh

I do love to share food but DP has no one to blame but himself as I asked to share his desert on our first date (offered him some of mine).

Can’t imagine the fucking squash thing though. Sharing a glass of pop ffs?

cheddar my head may be up my fucking arse but at least I'm not a cunt. And yes I think it is nice. Why so aggressive?

Well this has opened my eyes, me and DH are huge sharers! However we have very similar tastes in food so if we go for a meal normally one of us will say "I can't decide between x and y" and then decide to just order both and share. With a selection of sides to share. If he had a bottle of water I'd share that instead of going to get my own unless I wanted something else to drink. If we have any cakes etc we would only ever eat half a slice so the other one could have some. I feel like we maybe overstep the mark at sharing toothbrushes (we do have several toothbrushes in the house but don't specifically have our own - although we do generally use separate bathrooms so that has some degree of separation, nonetheless we have no issue knowingly using the same one) but being a sharer really isn't a big deal in our house.

@CheddarandCrackers I don't understand, why has AndNoneForGretchenWieners got her head up her arse because her son put some of his food on her plate. She didn't ask for it?

I'm NOT a sharer at all when I comes to food, but if both people like to do that then I can't see why anyone else would be so angry about it. I only get mad if DH tries to take my food.

I have a friend who's a sharer. Drives me mad. She will insist on sharing but I just want to eat the dish that I chose and I like. I have no desire to share hers. It really irritates me.
This would drive me absolutely mad OP. Very inconsiderate of your DP

LTB

Read the Opening Post, not just the title.
This is about the OP's partner expecting to take her food and drink, not SHARE.
He's not ordering ANYTHING, it's being dressed up as sharing but it's not.
Nothing wrong with sharing food and to all of you who think it's soooo lovely, great, and carry on enjoying it but don't expect everyone to be the same.

I just as to click on this. I thought it would be about actual partner sharing

I don't share my food and drink with anyone at any time.
Many years ago i went out for a meal with my DH when we first met. While we were waiting for our order to arrive i nipped to the loo. When i returned the meal had arrived and i saw my DH take a large bite out of my steak.
I calmly walked back to our table, picked up my plate and tipped the remainder of my meal onto his and told him that would be the last time he ever touched my fucking food. Ever.
In all the years of marriage, he has restrained himself from taking my food.
I order what i want from the menu and he orders what he wants, if we want the same, we order the same.

LOL at partner sharing. Definitely not my thing.

I actually don’t mind sharing with my OH. We often do have a few bites of each other’s dishes, or a sip of wine/beer/whatever, if we’ve chosen different things.

But crucially, he doesn’t ever presume to just take from me! He would never, ever be so rude or entitled, and he always offers his first rather than demanding to have mine!

I think you beat Joey in the non-sharing stakes (pun intended on the "Stake/Steak") there Who

Personally I think a pp summed it up perfectly wrt * "Sharing is about offering what's yours, not taking what's not*".

I'm not generally inclined to share, but when eating at a restaurant it's not unusual for DH and I to offer each other a taste of what we ordered.

I'd also say that he has a bigger appetite, so if I don't finish what I ordered he's often happy to help out! Fine - I'd rather not waste food and if he's been to the gym he can get very hungry (just to clarify - he's not greedy).

I don't mind that - he doesn't expect it and always makes sure I'm finished rather than just "resting".

My personal biggest gripe is when you go out as a group and you get "that person" who says they aren't hungry/don't have much of an appetite. They order a small starter.

Then when the main course food comes (my own experience of this is typically when frequenting an Indian/Chinese restaurant) they selectively "pick" the best bits from what everyone has ordered - the prawns, chicken etc using a fork/chopsticks.

When the bill comes they say "I only had a starter" but in reality they've eaten more than anyone else.

I put up with it once, next time I was pretty vocal about "order your own food or don't, but keep your chopsticks away from my lemon chicken" which resulted in the rest of the group laughing and saying similar.

The person in question actually orders their own food now.....

DH and I do like to taste each other's food at restaurants if it looks good so no complaints there. Where I do get annoyed is with drinks and desserts. DH never orders a drink when we're out and maintains he isn't a dessert person but that doesn't stop him from going for a huge 'taste' if he likes it! The other night we were out for burgers and I ordered a Nutella shake as a side for mine. I asked if he wanted a sip as it was a huge milkshake and next thing I know he's sipping away and half the thing is gone. I pointedly asked if he wanted to order one for himself and he stopped

So I totally feel your pain, OP!

Smithy didnt share either.

I've been reading this thread and chuckling away to myself! Really hope the OP tries some of these suggestions and reports back

LTB. Seriously,I couldn't tolerate this. You need to tell him in no uncertain terms 'Leave my fucking food alone!'.