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Co-sleeping. Safest way to stop the baby rolling out of bed?

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:41

Because he learned to roll and less than 48 hours later he rolled out of bed in the middle of the night. Despite me putting him in the middle of our super king size bed.

I got a pool noodle but its not quite the ticket. It moves and slips down.

I ordered - then cancelled - a bed guard because I distinctly remember my first DC falling down and sleeping between the bed guard and the bed. He was 18 months old and I'm lucky he didn't suffocate.

DS3 is only 5 months.

There's long bits of foam that go under the sheet but if he rolled over and face planted couldn't they suffocate him?

With DS2 I had the mattress on the floor but can't do that for a few months when we move because there's absolutely nowhere to store the bed.

What do I do?

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:42

We have tried a cot. He wakes every 1-2 hours and it nearly killed me. My mental health can't take getting out of bed that many times a night and there's no room for a cot either.
Co-sleeping is perfect for us apart from this problem

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fraumaximoo · 28/05/2019 21:46

We have a super king too. I found that both DH and I having our pillows on our sides, with DC in the middle without pillows prevented him from rolling anywhere.

fraumaximoo · 28/05/2019 21:47

Oh wait, he's 5 months? I wouldn't recommend having him in your bed to be completely honest. Thought you were talking about a 1 year old.

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:48

It's just me and the baby.

My husband snores like an old lawn mower so he sleeps on the sofa at the moment.

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Doubtoftheordinary · 28/05/2019 21:48

Can you move the bed so that it's against a wall? My understanding is that you're not supposed to use the foam thingys under the sheets for exactly the reasons you describe.
Or does your bed dismantle? Is it worth dismantling and storing the frame and putting the mattress on the floor like you had previously?

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:49

I co-sleep, he's been in my bed since birth.

That's not going to change, I've come on here to make sure I'm doing it as safely as possible.

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ree348 · 28/05/2019 21:49

Get a bed guard rail from amazon.

moreismore · 28/05/2019 21:50

Cot up against the side of the bed? Tbh I don’t think there’s a perfect no-risk way. I have used pillows in the past and swapped to an inflatable bed guard from amazon. I make the sheet as tight to it as I can and I am comfortable with the risk level but it’s obviously a personal call. I’m interested to see if there are other suggestions...

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:50

When I pushed the bed agains the wall there was a perfect baby sized gap.
And when I tried to fill it, the stuff just fell down the gap onto the floor.

And as I said above, there's now where to store the bed.

It's an enormous thing and we are all squashed into a 2 bed flat until we move into the house we have bought (which is when the mattress will be on the floor.

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msgoody3shoes · 28/05/2019 21:51

I co slept for dds first year. I put two rows of pillows down the bed underneath the sheets which prevented her slipping down the side or out of the bed.
I couldn't bear her being away from me in a cot, I used to wake her up as I couldn't feel her breathing.
We both slept better together, feeding was much easier too.
And regardless of what people said she is now 9 and doesn't still sleep with me. I think it's weird to put a baby in a separate room, everyone is different.

Sparrowlegs248 · 28/05/2019 21:51

I had a cot, with the side off, up against the bed. So if he rolled, he rolled straight into the cot. The cot mattress was level with my mattress, and it made a great way to transition to sleeping in a cot.

The cot was wedged firmly between the wall and my bed so no room for movement.

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:52

Do you mean those side cribs?

I guess that could solve the problem!
He wouldn't sleep in it but it would stop him falling out.

That might be a good idea!

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ree348 · 28/05/2019 21:52

Pressed send too early! I would put a pillow in between the gap of where the bed rail is so they can't slip in.

Sparrowlegs248 · 28/05/2019 21:53

My bed is a divan though, not sure a framed bed would work.

EleanorLavish · 28/05/2019 21:55

I slept in the middle of the bed, with my arm around him.
Over the night we moved a bit. I had a pillow on the floor I think, so if he fell out he wouldn’t hurt himself.Confused
Probably not recommended.
But tbh he was stuck to my boob 90% of the time at night for the first 10 months.
I’m not joking!Grin

M0reGinPlease · 28/05/2019 21:55

Trying to remember what I did at that age. My baby wasn't much of a roller though and I had DH in as an extra bumper 😂 sidecar crib is probably the safest bet. As you say, he might not sleep in there but it's a safe area for him to roll into. You never know, it might aid the transition when he's ready. Only other option I can think of is to ditch the bed and put the mattress on the floor?

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:56

Ok I think I need to re-think the bed against the wall idea and how to fix the gap.
Then get a crib for the other side.

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 21:57

elanor my second son was the same!

This baby gets very very hot and drenched in sweat so he can't sleep in my arms like DS2 did and isn't really a boob fan either (despite being breastfed).

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moreismore · 28/05/2019 21:59

Could you get some of that cut to order foam for the gap between bed and wall? You could put a sheet or pillowcase around it that could be changed. Then I don’t see it’s any riskier than a mattress.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 28/05/2019 22:03

Awww I co-slept with all of mine.
Used a bed rail guard thing on the side of our superKS bed as didn't want to put baby between us due to DHs annoying ability to sleep through earthquakes!

So either next to barrier or above our heads horizontally in between our pillows when very small iuswim?

Also had a Moses next to my side of the bed with one of my DCs who would come in to BFeed then let me put him back in Moses afterwards for a few hours - up until he outgrew it.

Lindtnotlint · 28/05/2019 22:05

Throw away the bed. Once needed, buy new cheapie bed eg divan for less than £100. (Or have another DC at that point).

I think it would be worth it just to save the stress of trapping baby etc.

CocoDeMoll · 28/05/2019 22:05

I’ve co slept with both of mine. Honestly they do fall out occasionally for a while but then they learn to be cautious. I know that sounds mean but they do learn. I put the bed against one wall and a bed guard on the other side for safety. My 13 m old not wakes up and just sits there crying g for me till I reach him but doesn’t even think about trying to get off the bed IYSWIM.

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AndOutComeTheBoobs · 28/05/2019 22:06

Thanks! I'm just enquiring about a bedside crib on gum tree.
It will help a lot.

I can use the foam thing I got to go down the gap of the bed.
It has rubbery bits to stop the slipping as well.

Thanks for your help!

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SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 28/05/2019 22:06

They don't fall out!

letstryanewone · 28/05/2019 22:07

Inflatable bed guard under the sheets.

Although at 5 months mine was in a sleepyhead by the side of me and didn't roll in it