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Cf ex pestering for 'advice'

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frozenpeasandartichokehearts · 24/05/2019 15:40

Got a text from a long-ago ex asking when he could ring for 'advice' on something unspecified (not a serious matter apparently). For many years we've been vaguely in touch socially but haven't seen each other in five years or so and no longer have much in common.

I replied asking what was going on and since then he's texting/ringing daily asking the same thing and telling me when he's free to have this chat he wants. I replied once more to clarify that I'd like him to tell me how I can help. He leaves voicemails which offer no explanation. (Why ask when is a good time to ring and then ring anyway asking me to text telling him when it's a good time to ring ffs??)

I'm trying to work a little grey rock on this as it seems unnecessary to block his number at this stage. I kind of admire his inability to take a hint! What's a good way to draw a pleasant or neutral line under this?

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HasThisSoddingNameGoneToo · 24/05/2019 15:48

What's a good way to draw a pleasant or neutral line under this?

Talk to him on the phone?

pasturesgreen · 24/05/2019 15:50

Since he's a long-ago ex you haven't seen in five years, I wouldn't have replied at all, but since you did, and seem averse to the only sensible option blocking his number, just have a brief chat with the guy to ascertain what the hell he wants from you and go from there.

MissConductUS · 24/05/2019 15:53

It's a booty call. Block his number, unless you fancy one too.

sackrifice · 24/05/2019 15:53

Block his number and then he can't ask?

FiremanKing · 24/05/2019 16:04

The ‘something unspecified’ will be his erection.

Why let yourself be dragged back into this?

greenwaterbottle · 24/05/2019 16:09

I'd have to ring just out of nosyness and so I could hang up after.

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/05/2019 16:11

The ‘something unspecified’ will be his erection.

So much this.

TwattingDog · 24/05/2019 16:13

What do you do for a living? Is it something that he wants to benefit from for free?

frozenpeasandartichokehearts · 24/05/2019 16:34

100% sure it's nothing to do with sex. Dh and I wondered if he's working a 12 step programme, or planning a grand gesture toward his wife who is likely to finally be fed up with his manipulative bullshit.

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frozenpeasandartichokehearts · 24/05/2019 16:40

Dog I'm a housewife. Maybe he wants to know how to get a stain out of something. :)

We used to do voluntary work together so we know the same stuff about the same things.

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sackrifice · 24/05/2019 17:41

If he actually wanted to know about something he would have just texted it to you.

MissConductUS · 24/05/2019 17:45

Since you know he has form for manipulative bullshit just block him. No good can come from interacting with him.

frozenpeasandartichokehearts · 24/05/2019 17:53

sack yeah I think a normal person with a question would just text the question, or they'd ring without all the drama.

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