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Reaching the end of my wits. How long before your DC was dry during the night?

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Whackitupto200 · 22/05/2019 21:40

DD has been toilet trained during the day since she was about 2 and a half, but she is now 5 and a half and is still not dry during the night. Every morning she wakes up with a massive wet nappy and I have to wash her down before she gets dressed for school. Mornings are so rushed as it is and I'm really starting to get fucked off with the daily clean up. If I don't wash he thoroughly she's very smelly by the end of the day

I know it's not her fault and I never ever say or show anything negative about it to her. The last thing I want is for her to feel embarrassed or ashamed the poor love.

But I won't lie, I cannot wait for her to be dry in the night. And I don't have any idea of how soon that will be. I've read the ERIC website and other advice suggests that it's within the range of normal and not to see GP or anything until they're about 7 years old. But then I read something else that said if they're still wetting at 5 years old then it's time to get professional help.

If I just need to leave it then I'll leave it, but if there's something I could/ought to be doing that could help her, I'd really like to know what it is!

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Ciwirocks · 22/05/2019 21:45

You could start with the school nurse op, that’s the usual first port of call in our area anyway

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Whackitupto200 · 22/05/2019 21:46

Have you used your school nurse in the past for this kind of issue? I don't even know how I'd get in touch with ours...

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Stuckforthefourthtime · 22/05/2019 21:49

Following with interest and sympathy, it is driving me crazy! (no answers though).

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MatchsticksForMyEyesReturns · 22/05/2019 21:50

DS is 9 on Tues and not dry at night. Paediatrician said he needs to drink more. I try, but obviously can't monitor when he's at school.

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Whackitupto200 · 22/05/2019 21:50

How old is your DC Stuck ?

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ShatFic · 22/05/2019 21:53

I highly recommend the Dryeasy bedwetting alarm. Around £30 on Amazon. My son was 7 when we used it, I don't think he'd have been ready at 5, but have a read of the reviews and see what you think. It's honestly the best thing I've ever bought. He went from a flooded bed every night to completely dry after 12 weeks and has had no relapses.

TeenTimesTwo · 22/05/2019 21:53

DD2 was 5 and 3/4s or so, I think, definitely not earlier.
We gave up waiting for dry mornings, and did 'lifting' at ~12:30am.

Make sure she's not having blackcurrant to drink.

Moltenpink · 22/05/2019 21:53

A bed alarm worked incredibly quickly for us. DS was 6 and dry within three nights. Wish we had done it sooner! He wanted to use it though, I don’t think I would have made him.

moanyhole · 22/05/2019 21:53

5 is pretty normal really isn't it. It's a developmental thing and hormonal. Not much the child can do really until developmentally ready. I really wouldn't do much unless she hits 7 or 8
In Ireland you wont be seen until the child is 8.

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Whackitupto200 · 22/05/2019 21:55

It's so frustrating.

I'm taking DD away with me this weekend to go and stay with a friend and her DD of the same age. My friend's DD has been dry at night for years now. The last time my DD and I had a sleepover at this friend's house, my friend's DD thought it was hilarious that my DD still had to wear pull ups to bed and was teasing her about it. My DD told me the next morning :(

That was about 8 months ago. Both the girls are older now and I'm worried that this weekend my DD will be embarrassed. I don't want to go down the medicated route if I don't have to, but part of me is so tempted to go to the GP and just ask them to give us the desmopressin. I just don't know if that would be kicking the can down the road.

For some reason I feel very down about it today. I think it's because of this weekend away that's looming. I feel bad for DD.

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LadyFuschia · 22/05/2019 21:55

Not sure how helpful this is but my son also wasn’t dry at night for years... last summer he was almost 6 and we’d been out of nappies but taking him for a wee around 10pm every night which was enough - if we missed it he’d soak the bed. However, I was consciously avoiding nappies due to the waste, which was why we settled on the above tactic.

During the summer hols he was up later and his bedtime moved permanently from around 7pm to 8-8.30pm, and this has sorted it! I think his body just needed to sync with his routine. I had been all ready to go to the GP though!

I realise lots of people are anti-‘lifting’ but the way I saw it was that it made life easier and at some point he’d grow out of it! He did worry about wetting so I always explained it wasn’t something he could control so I wasn’t cross about it.

In Mumsnet words : ‘this too shall pass’

Borris · 22/05/2019 21:55

6 or 7. But it happened overnight and then dry every night. No “training”. My understanding is that until they produce the right hormone, they can’t be dry at night. And you can’t hurry it.

But once she was dry she was dry from then on.

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Whackitupto200 · 22/05/2019 21:56

She shares a room with her sibling - how loud is the alarm? Her sibling's a pretty heavy sleeper but I wouldn't want to have to deal with both of them up in the middle of the night!

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LadyFuschia · 22/05/2019 21:57

Just realised he was almost 7 not almost 6. Dry since turning 7.

Chocmallows · 22/05/2019 21:57

My DD was 5 when she stopped nappies at night, but still had few accidents until 7. Nothing to do with general ability, she was a fast learner and in grammar school now, just took her time in that area.

My DS has SEN and was fine at 3. I honestly think there's an element on randomness.

bliminy · 22/05/2019 21:59

I had one dry at 3 and the other two not dry till about 7.

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Whackitupto200 · 22/05/2019 22:00

This is all making me feel much better! It is so random. Her older sister was dry at night before she was even three, I thought it would be the case for her too.

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Sculpin · 22/05/2019 22:02

All three of my DC were dry in the day by two and a half.

Dry at night - DC1 was 7, DC2 was 2, DC3 was 4. It really varies!

Chocmallows · 22/05/2019 22:04

My DD was teased at sleepovers too. Try to get her to wear under PJs and leave pullup in bathroom in a bag in morning discreetly so you or other mum can dispose of quietly.

Ellieboolou27 · 22/05/2019 22:04

@Whackitupto200 my dd was 5years 8 months and 13 days - i know exactly as I was in the same place as you are. It will happen!

Summersunshine2 · 22/05/2019 22:05

I think you need to look at things you can do that won't affect you too much. Read up on what to drink and what not to drink etc (as previous poster said NO blackcurrent etc.
Also this week and whilst at your friends try the lifting technique. And try to secretly put her in a grown up looking pull up without the other girl seeing.

pumpkinpie01 · 22/05/2019 22:05

My DS is nearly 6 and still in pull ups. Have tried twice now with no joy , you’re not alone !

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 22/05/2019 22:07

DD1 was the summer between reception and Yr1. Went from full pull up one night to dry the next without any warning.

thegrumpallo · 22/05/2019 22:11

Three daughters- all dry at different ages and with very different struggles.
The one that took the longest was finally dry aged 7-8yrs. We used to lift her too, when she was 4-5 ish. she shared a room with her little sister who was dry and clean by 3yrs. I kept reassuring her that everyone's body is different.
We discovered that certain drinks made her much worse ( making her need to the loo more even in the day), for example apple juice.

Re your weekend coming up: would you be open to sharing a room with your daughter instead? I know that might seem weird.... but might alleviate stress?
Re mornings: how much can your daughter do for herself, in terms of getting dressed?

Fatted · 22/05/2019 22:13

Oh how mean of the other girl teasing her about it!

It really is different for every child. I was always told it takes boys longer apparently. DS1 took longer than DS2. We did wake him up for a wee before we went to bed at about 10-11pm and that seemed to help.

You've probably done it already, but do double check all the advice about when to drink before bed, things to avoid etc. And always make sure you remind her to go for a wee as the last thing before bed.

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