Reaching the end of my wits. How long before your DC was dry during the night?

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DD has been toilet trained during the day since she was about 2 and a half, but she is now 5 and a half and is still not dry during the night. Every morning she wakes up with a massive wet nappy and I have to wash her down before she gets dressed for school. Mornings are so rushed as it is and I'm really starting to get fucked off with the daily clean up. If I don't wash he thoroughly she's very smelly by the end of the day

I know it's not her fault and I never ever say or show anything negative about it to her. The last thing I want is for her to feel embarrassed or ashamed the poor love.

But I won't lie, I cannot wait for her to be dry in the night. And I don't have any idea of how soon that will be. I've read the ERIC website and other advice suggests that it's within the range of normal and not to see GP or anything until they're about 7 years old. But then I read something else that said if they're still wetting at 5 years old then it's time to get professional help.

If I just need to leave it then I'll leave it, but if there's something I could/ought to be doing that could help her, I'd really like to know what it is!

This is what you need to read.
www.eric.org.uk/how-to-stop-or-manage-bedwetting

If you go to alarm but wet beds are a problem, use the alarm in a pair of underpants and then put pull ups over the top - that way there is the unpleasant “consequence” of being wet but it is still contained within the pull up.

Leaflet pdf here
www.eric.org.uk/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=a6299b43-345d-4860-ab2c-ed139bef6f3e

Also, don’t pay £50 for an alarm from Eric, one from amazon which is about £22-25 is just as good.

Sorry! Just looked on Amazon - it was a while since I bought one off there but they are now around £30 for the dryeasy one, but depending where you live the school nurse may be able to provide one free.

Eldest was 11. Middle child almost 6. Youngest 2

It must be so frustrating for you OP. Both of mine were 4.5 before they had dry nights.
When my eldest started school she moved from being under the care of the health visitor to the school nurse as they all do so I made an appointment with him (our new school does a drop in once a month) and had a chat and he gave me some pointers and tips to help them along.
Unfortunately this is just something they have to 'grow out' of and like you say until they are 7 there isn't much a GP would do. The advice I was given was this;

• make sure they drink plenty through the day to exercise/stretch the bladder
• no fluids for an hour before bed
• make sure they go for a wee right before bed

these actually really helped us and they were dry through the night not long after we did this. Good luck OP

Actually the nice guidelines now recommend intervention after 5, with the bladder training being the first line of intervention, followed by alarm, followed by Desmo, then referral to specialist bladder and bowel.

DD was 2.5, was dry at night 2 weeks after being dry in the day, nice and easy, so obviously DS was different!
he’s just stopped taking oxybutynin and just turned 10. It’s taken a good long time to get here and he started off quite dry at night as a toddler! He definitely doesn’t drink enough in the day, but improving. Took the medicine for 6-7 months, wanted to make sure he had it sorted out before his Y6 residential. Used to lift him at night about midnight and then realised I wasn’t getting enough sleep so would miss the odd night and he’d wet the bed. Such hard work.